alliecats
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DawnCt1 said:I am so haunted by this entire episode that I feel like someone is digging my heart out with a spoon. We took her Wednesday for her shoulder surgery. I told her that I would see her the next day. I didn't go because she was too sick and the vet thought that she wouldn't understand why I would come and see her and not take her home. Do you think that she thought I abandoned her? She got so sick so quickly in the last 48 hours with no answers, do you think she thought I took her someplace that made her sick? At the end, when she took her last breaths I had the option of putting her on a respirator. I thought that it would scare her to be intubated and it wouldn't buy her any life, just more time on this earth. I feel guilty that I didn't do enough. I know that sounds irrational but that's how I feel. The middle DSs and their friends dug her grave today. DH is on his way home and we will bury her with a little service. Lots of DSs' friends are coming. She really was not just my best friend but everyone's.
This post made me cry. NO I don't think she thought you abandoned her or let her be made sick. I think she had complete and utter trust in you and your love for her, a trust that was based on your actions and treatment of her for all 9 years of her life, every day. She knew her mama loved her, and I am sure she knows you did all you could and all that was good for her.
I am so sorry for your loss.

