And so the complaints begin...

[padisneyfour]

Your wedding should be about you and your fh. Plan what the two of you want and enjoy - years from now it will be the two of you celebrating that day( not everyone else).It should be what you want- your fairy tale whatever shape of form that takes.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I don't understand why people think they can tell a bride or even have a comment (unrequested) on the venue.

Would anyone complain to a bride if she choose a chapel, or a park, or the family home? No.

So there. Do what you want and have a grand time.

 

[smoof]

It really hurts when it is your dad and brother who are upset about where you choose to have your wedding. Most everyone else is going to be thrilled with it. You will make lots of family and friends very happy. I hope that helps.

 

[lurkyloo]

It really hurts when it is your dad and brother who are upset about where you choose to have your wedding. Most everyone else is going to be thrilled with it. You will make lots of family and friends very happy. I hope that helps.

Thank you - that's really sweet! You're right - I'm trying to not let my dad and brother's opinions bother me, but... they're my two closest family members, so it hurts that they can't accept my choice!

I'm just clinging to the knowledge that they're going to have a fantastic time once they get out to Disney World!

 

[MOB07]

My daughter and son-in-law were married at Disney in July. When they were planning, everyone was complaining about where they were having the wedding. They met there on the college program 2 yrs ago. Hang in there, because on the bus returning from the epcot dessert party, people were thanking us for inviting them to the wedding . People came from California, Indiana, Michigan, and Oklahoma. We've received notes telling us how much they appreciated being able to come to the wedding, and all the people who were complaining at first, came and enjoyed themselves. Give them time, and help them with details about room discounts, tickets, and activities they can use to have a vacation while they are there. Don't spend another minute stressing.

 

[StitchBride]

We didn't have anyone complain (or, at least, not to my face) My parents at first made a passing comment that we should look at local locations as well, but never followed through (mainly since they figured we were set) and my father kind of "poo poo'd" the whole thing but I just wanted to second MOB's thoughts....after the wedding, we recieved multiple phone calls, emails, and letters about how it was the best wedding they had been to, they had such a great time, etc. And my father, the day after the wedding, was talking to people in the elevator at the GF telling them if their daughter wanted a Disney wedding, they should go for it and telling them what a great job Disney did....so hang in there! They'll all come around in the end (just try not to say I TOLD YOU SO!!! too loud )

 

[diswed0407]

I had pretty much the same experience. My dad told me he wasn't coming, and my DH's parents were shocked and angry that we would expect everyone to travel from RI for the wedding. But we ended up with 75 people there, and everyone who went said it was the absolute best wedding they've ever been to. After the wedding, my DH's parents admitted they were wrong, and that everything was wonderful. And to top it all off, the wedding was over 4 months ago, and I think my dad has talked to me about it (and thanked me for inviting him!!!) in every phone conversation since. SO, just deal with it for now, and they will all get over it. And believe me, everyone will end up coming and a lot of people will make a vacation out of it. We had people saving for over a year so they could take the vacation!!

 

[caryndisneydiva]

my family freaked out at first, but my fiance and i met while we were working at disney, so there was no way i was having it anywhere else!!! i think everyone is warming up to it now, and starting to make plans for a winter vacation (date is in jan 08) we all have to remember, as i keep telling my mother, that this is OUR wedding...our parents already had theirs!

 

[cavecricket]

This is pretty much why we decided on an intimate.

We got dirty looks and snotty remarks from the first few people we told.

I would rather spend 4K-10K on a close circle of friends that really want to be there then waste the money on a bunch of cynical jerks. (having family issues over here lol)

Although I would love the whole reception experience in Disney, as long as I am married there, I will be very happy. Besides, why waste time at a reception, when we could be in the parks instead having a blast!

By downsizing the guest list to 18, we free up lot of cash for other special touches, massages, tours, etc

Good luck with whatever you decide to do but in my opinion, the intimate is the better choice, leaves more time and money for the rest of WDW!

 

[mammasgirls]

Hi everyone...thanks to all of you who reported that despite less than enthusiastic responses to the idea of a Disney wedding, in the end the guests had a wonderful time. You have made me feel so much better. My daughter wants a Disney wedding, and I've been concerned that it is a lot to ask of people to travel for it (everyone is from the northest or Japan). I know in my heart that it will be fantastic, and personally if it was one of my nieces or nephews, I would be the first to RSVP!

 

[Xiarra]

Well, we've begun breaking the news to people that we're getting married at Walt Disney World, and so far we're 0 for 2. From my dad we got stony silence. From my brother (who I'd asked to be my attendant) we got "you couldn't have picked any place more inconvenient/nobody will come." (This is the man who got married in The Middle of Nowhere, Maine and didn't invite anybody from his family - just college buddies).

Help! I need some virtual hand-holding....

Just hang in there!!!!

You know, my parents weren't big on Disney either although they were supportive because they knew it was what I wanted ... but guess what happened... when the got there THEY LOVED IT!!!! Said it couldn't have been any better and it was perfect !!!! In fact they still talk about how they thought it was the perfect wedding! Awww.... don't you just love parents !

They loved it soooooo much that we are going back as a family in 13 days !