An EHarmony reject - I'm so ashamed!-UPDATED with the profile

[mssocks]

Ok - Sunday I decided to bite the bullet and try E Harmony. I knew someone who met his wife there and they really liked the whole experience. I log in and fill out questions for about 25 minutes only to get.....

Unfortunately, we are not able to make our profiles work for you. Our matching model could not accurately predict with whom you would be best matched. This occurs for about 20% of potential users, so 1 in 5 people simply will not benefit from our service. We hope that you understand, and we regret our inability to provide service for you at this time. "

....yup! I'm too weird for them. I swear I never mentioned Disney once!



Has anyone else ever tried them?

UPDATE - I think I can do this. I put the personality profile ( which should tell me why I flunked the test, right? ) on my web site. Here's hoping the link works. It's on the page called "This is what they sent me" - original, huh? The rest of the site is photos from our theater production of Footloose if you feel like looking around.

http://mysite.verizon.net/vzermavp/

 

[Evil Genius]

Seriously?!!? I didn't think that could happen!! I know a girl who signed up with eHarmony and the guys that they sent her pictures of, I wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole!!

 

[CathrynRose]

Unfortunately, we are not able to make our profiles work for you. Our matching model could not accurately predict with whom you would be best matched. This occurs for about 20% of potential users, so 1 in 5 people simply will not benefit from our service. We hope that you understand, and we regret our inability to provide service for you at this time. "

....yup! I'm too weird for them. I swear I never mentioned Disney once!



Has anyone else ever tried them?

Yes - and Im in a relationship but was super slow at work (Christmas Eve Eve) - and did it for the 20 minutes.

Yep - no hope for me either. I thought "Gee, I better make sure Jim sticks around, or Im doomed!!!" L L

Ive never told anyone, until now.

 

[AprilShowers]

I have an idea: Why don't you post the questions and your answers here, and let the Diser's decide if you're really weird!

I bet what they REALLY meant was that there was nobody good enough for you on their website.

 

[buzzlady]

Just think of it as you being too good for them.

 

[hiwaygal]

My eHarmony experience was NOT good...IMO they are the biggest rip-off out there.

I did the "free" thing too and got the same message. Then (not sure if it was out of desperation or if their sales pitch finally got to me) I PAID for the service...and lo and behold they found me the "requisite" three matches in however many days.

The first one: we went through the whole process and finally got to email the first time. He asked for a photo and I was honest about myself. When he saw my pic he "let me down" easy. Truth is, he was into the "token wife" thing...and you could tell that just by looking at him.

The second: He went through the first and second steps...then...nothing....

The third: Just before my "membership" was about to expire, I got a notice that there was another match for me! woo-hoo...(by this time I was meeting and dating and getting much more "interest" from several other FREE sites). I tried to take the next phase...only to discover this third "match" WASN'T EVEN A MEMBER!!!! So there was no way for them to continue, unless they coughed up $50! Yeah, right...

If you are serious about on-line dating...there are literally TONS of sites out there that don't charge you anywhere NEAR as much as eHarmony...and allow you to weed out the losers yourself (you'll figure out who they pretty quickly).

eHarmony touts their site as having all these "match points"...problem is, they DON'T take into account some pretty basic factors, like what type of physical attributes you prefer (shallow, perhaps...but still a factor).

Sorry this was so long...I really don't like eHarmony...and I feel so badly for people who get caught up in their sales pitch...

 

[pajamommy]

I've been dating my BF for a year now, we met on Match.com, but before that, I checked out eHarmomy and hated the site! It just takes too long to answer all those questions, I rather just post my profile and look at others and decide who to talk to you and get to know them on my own. Maybe try another site like Match, it worked for me and a lot of others I know! Good luck!

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

I, too, was "matchless" on eHarmony. I prefer to think of it as being so uniquely wonderful that they just couldn't find anyone good enough for me on their site! Hey, it's better than thinking I'm too weird for them...which is what DH says now!

I tried out a few other singles websites, and settled on ChristianCafe.com. I signed up with them when they had a deal on, and I paid only $25 for 6 months. I was just getting ready to cancel my membership with them, even though I'd been chatting with a few different guys through the site, when I found the profile of "booksandcats". I emailed him, he emailed back, and long story short, we were married less than a year later!
The funny thing is, eHarmony probably wouldn't "match" us up together. I don't think their system of finding someone just like you is necessarily what works for everyone. I've met some folks who loved it, and others who didn't like it at all.

 

[FergieTCat]

I met someone last September on Eharmony, and we are still seeing each other.

If he doesn't work out, I'd try it again.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

DH's cousin met his now wife, on Match.com.

His cousin was looking for a specific match with a woman who liked the outdoors, like mountain biking, rock climbing, hiking, camping, hunting, skiing, etc..
He thought he never was going to meet someone. Well he did! She even does triatholons!!!

They were married in Sept. 2005.

 

[sajetto]

I was another one of those "matchless" people on eharmony. I haven't heard very good things about them so I'm glad I never coughed up any money.

I met my DF on yahoo dating and we're getting married at WDW in January

Online dating can and does work, but it takes time and you have to jump through as many hoops as you would in a traditional dating scenario.

 

[goofygirl]

I agree that eharmony stinks! I had the same experience of not being matched after answering pages of questions. What a waste of my time!

Its hard to meet people, I have no children by choice and want to meet someone of the same lifestyle (has no kids and does not want them at all), so that limits the "pool" a lot. But I will hold out for the one I want even if it means being single and elderly, LOL.

 

[Shugardrawers]

I met my Dh 6 years ago on AOL personals. I had tried match.com and cupid.com and while I had met some very nice guys that piqued my interest, the moment I met Dh I was a goner. I dunno why. He's very tall, very goofy, very opinionated, very intelligent and very arrogant. He's also very affectionate, very kind, very hardworking and very loyal. I'll take him. He ain't much but he's mine

 

[CathrynRose]

My eHarmony experience was NOT good...IMO they are the biggest rip-off out there.


Sorry this was so long...I really don't like eHarmony...and I feel so badly for people who get caught up in their sales pitch...

My g/f says the same thing (practically your story verbatim).

She has a huge problem with the fact that there's no pictures. She's chubby. And some guys like chubby and a lot of guys dont. So it dont matter if you
match on 6 million levels of your psyche - if someone doesnt like the way you look, theyre not going to be interested.

So, it'd be a total let down. She'd have all these "matches" and all these "no thanks" along with them.

She'd rather have her pic right along side her bio - they know right away she's not a twig.

 

[keenercam]

I sat next to a couple on a flight to Orlando Friday night who were very obviously in love. I saw them again at my gate on the flight home Monday night and re-introduced myself and asked if they'd had fun. Turns out they got engaged at the castle Sunday night. They met on match.com and have been dating 6 1/2 months and are madly in love with each other. I was so happy for them.

 

[MouseWorshipin]

I went to eharmony (for fun) and answered the gazillion questions as honestly as I could. It came up with profiles and guys.

Their profile of my ideal guy was exactly the opposite of DH. I think they're full of doody.

 

[buckylarue]

I've never tried them, being of a "different demographic" (and shackled to my partner for 29 years ), but I just gotta say...

That guy that's the head honcho on the ads? He sure seems like a cult leader type to me! I'm half expecting to hear someday of the 'EHarmonites' moving to an isolated compound, dressing in robes and matching sneakers and waiting for the great revelation...

 

[mssocks]

Wow - I finish lunch and go back to work for a few hours and come back here to two pages! That's a first for me. Thank you so much for the support, especially those of you who said you didn't "match" either. I don't feel so alone. The thing is I never even got to a part where I found out how much it cost! I wish I could post my answers so you could see them but the back button did not work while taking the darned thing. I did however save my free personality profile. Will have to think up a way to put it up somewhere and add a link. Then you can all vote!

I did try match.com and friendfinder.com several years ago. I would start emailing someone who was local but they never wanted to meet up for coffee. One guy was all for meeting for lunch ( he worked around the corner ) after I came back from vacation. When I got home I logged in to email him and got the "this user does not want any contact with you" message.

After this eHarmony thing I was beginning to get a complex! Oh ok, I already have one but it got worse.

Guess their match ratio is so high because their parameters are so narrow!
I'm too old to bother finding a life-friend now, I wouldn't know what to do with a man. Poor guy would get all my baggage AND get to change the litter box. ( Ah-HA! I really just want to meet someone to help me CLEAN )

 

[Shugardrawers]

Ok, just for grins and giggles I tried it too. Apparently there are lots of men just dying to meet me...for a price Isn't that illegal everywhere but Nevada?

 

[makinorlando]

No comments about Eharmony, just that I grew up and lived 40 years of my life in the Lansdale area!!!!!

Stick with the cats - they are better company! Except for the litter box!

Wow - I finish lunch and go back to work for a few hours and come back here to two pages! That's a first for me. Thank you so much for the support, especially those of you who said you didn't "match" either. I don't feel so alone. The thing is I never even got to a part where I found out how much it cost! I wish I could post my answers so you could see them but the back button did not work while taking the darned thing. I did however save my free personality profile. Will have to think up a way to put it up somewhere and add a link. Then you can all vote!

I did try match.com and friendfinder.com several years ago. I would start emailing someone who was local but they never wanted to meet up for coffee. One guy was all for meeting for lunch ( he worked around the corner ) after I came back from vacation. When I got home I logged in to email him and got the "this user does not want any contact with you" message.

After this eHarmony thing I was beginning to get a complex! Oh ok, I already have one but it got worse.

Guess their match ratio is so high because their parameters are so narrow!
I'm too old to bother finding a life-friend now, I wouldn't know what to do with a man. Poor guy would get all my baggage AND get to change the litter box. ( Ah-HA! I really just want to meet someone to help me CLEAN )