Am I Wrong?

[Mimi Q]

You should absolutely attend her graduation.

 

[Rafiki Rafiki Rafiki]

My brother is an attorney in Little Rock. Honestly, I don't remember his graduation from Law School.

What I can remember is that it was nothing compared to bar exam results release and his being sworn in by Judge Imber.

You might just call her and tell her you won't be able to travel for both ceremonies. Ask her which one she would rather you be at, and then go to the one of her choice.

 

[Keli]

Becka, I know you would have made the right decision even without everyone's encouragement but I'm sure all the 'go' votes have helped you make up your mind.

 

[ashjohnson80]

When I graduated college in Dec. my sister didn't come to it. And it was only about a 10 min. drive from her house. I didn't get a card, a congratulations or anything. And it hurt a lot. And it still does. I think if you can find a way to go, it would mean a lot to her, I know it would have to me.

 

[CrazedDisFan]

Go, take mom up on the offer of a plane ticket, try to mend some old wounds, and let dh have fun with the kids. Good Luck!

 

[arminnie]

My parents didn't get to come to my college graduation (Tulane in New Orleans) or when I got my MBA from Stanford in CA. My family was very, very poor (below the poverty level), and it just wasn't possible for them to come.

I had a lot of friends and people included me in their family celebrations, but it was so sad not to have any family members there. I still remember how alone I felt. It surprised me because I really thought I was okay with it until I went through it.

Of course that is not your sister's case. But you will both probably feel better if you go.

By the way I know several people who are graduating from law school here in Little Rock in May. I might even be at that graduation. Don't worry I would never mention this thread. What happens on DIS stays on DIS.

 

[DawnCt1]

Honestly (and you did ask) I think you should go. Especially since it is really important for your sister. Kids will always have birthday parties and you can go see Sesame Street another time. Your sister will only be graduating once.

Even though you don't get along, maybe her wanting you to be there is her way of offering you the olive branch so to speak. I think if you don't go, you're going to regret it, and then your relationship with your sister might be forever irreparable. Friends are great, but family is forever. That's just MHO.

I absolutely agree. "Easy things" are easy to do. Going an extra mile, even though one is tremendously inconvenienced is a great gift and a wonderful olive branch.

 

[Caradana]

Go, go definitely go. It's really too bad that your sister even knows that you were considering NOT going. She's probably pretty ticked off at your right now. Send her flowers.

 

[rt2dz]

I haven't read the whole thread so if there is any additional info, I may be missing it. But, graduations, like weddings, don't happen often--once in a lifetime events. They rank above birthday parties, especially of a friend, imho, that happen yearly. I'm sure people would understand--friends child's 4th birthday party or sister's law school graduation.

If you are that worried about bringing your child, then leave DH at home, DS can go to the birthday party and you still do what, I really think, is MUCH more important. Whether or not you are "close", I still think it is important to be there. Besides, that closeness factor could change down the road (but probably not if you don't go).

 

[luv2nascar]

I am glad you decided to go for your sister. It might very well be the last chance to take the steps necessary to mend your relationship. It does not get easier with age.

I think it should be important to you as it is important to your sister. Chances are your 4 yr old son won't even remember the birthday party someday anyways. If it was me the whole family would suck it up and go. But I'm glad to see you're going anyways.

 

[azgal81]

My brother didn't attend my college graduation of course he had a good excuse he was also in college and had final exams at the time.

Your sister will be happy to see you there.

 

[Mishetta]

My brother is an attorney in Little Rock. Honestly, I don't remember his graduation from Law School.

What I can remember is that it was nothing compared to bar exam results release and his being sworn in by Judge Imber.

You might just call her and tell her you won't be able to travel for both ceremonies. Ask her which one she would rather you be at, and then go to the one of her choice.

I really like this idea! I was going to add, can you fly home late Saturday night or early Sunday morning so that you can still do the Sesame Street Live show with your family?

 

[mickeyfan2]

If your mom's willing to pay airfare, I say go. Graduating law school IS a big accomplishment, and going may afford you the opportunity to mend some bridges instead of burning them.

I agree.

 

[minniecarousel]

Yup - you need to go. Sometimes we need to do things "solo" and take care of family obligations, beyond our new little family. I'd call and let her know that you (just you) will be there. Hopefully, that will make her happy (explain that the thought of your whole family going was your immediate thought, but that just you going sure makes sense.)