My in-laws are both in their early 90’s and live around the corner from us. They both need 24/7 care which my husband, his twin brother, and 2 older sisters take care of. My mother-in-law refuses any outside help. She says that’s why she had kids. My husband’s oldest sister is 71 and takes care of them about 12 hours a day, 6 days a week. My husband is 65 and still works full time. He stops by after work every day for a couple hours to help his sister with dinner plus we make dinner twice a week and he spends Friday and Saturday nights with them. His twin brother spends all day Sunday (24 hours) with them and stays with them 5 nights a week. His other older sister is 70 and basically just runs errands and visits occasionally. She refuses to cook for them. They are all retired. My mother-in-law has always been a difficult women and will be until her last breath. She does nothing but complain and doesn’t appreciate anything anybody does for them. My father-in-law just keeps telling them that he hopes they never have to go through this and keeps apologizing for their mother. Neither one of them makes anything easy and have basically made everybody’s life a living hell. It’s terrible to say this but I’m pretty sure when the time comes there won’t be a wet eye in the house. I would never expect my children to have to literally turn their lives upside down to take care of me the way they have, especially at their ages. Sorry I really didn’t help you. I guess I just needed to vent.
