Each night, we go through the list of faces of people who were looking specifically at kiddo for more than fleeting glimpses. Anyone we know, we tag as such.
I see two potential problems here, though they're opposites:
- Going through the footage every night can become a paranoia-reinforcer -- both for the parents and the kid. It means that -- to some extent -- the family will relive that horrible experience every single night. It's hard to "move on" and get past something if you spend time reliving it every night.
- Going through the footage every night can become such a chore that they just give it up, and -- if so -- what was the point?
I think it sounds great! But it would be illegal in my state--you can't record audio or video without consent here. We just use a good old-fashioned cell phone with an app called Life360. I can see exactly where my kids are at any time
I don't think it'd be illegal anywhere. We are videoed constantly: at the ATM, by traffic lights, over the cash register at every store, and more. Our
Walmart has recently installed "bubble cameras" in the aisles. We have cameras inside our school and on the building /aimed at the parking lot. None of us have given permission for the bank to tape us.
One place where kids DON'T have permission to video is at school. Why? Because of kids videoing one another in the locker rooms or bathrooms in various states of undress. And because kids can easily be egged on to things like food fights or bullying if they think their friends are videoing them.
Since when are cell phones "a good old fashioned" anything?
Sounds a little much for me, but I’ve never had my child almost abducted.
I agree. "A little much".
It is an irrational fear we can’t shake as a society.
I think we're scared of the stranger-danger thing
because we can't control it. In reality, we are MUCH, MUCH, MUCH more likely to be in a car accident, but we're not afraid of driving -- partly because we feel we have control over what happens to us when we're behind the wheel.
Consider this, too: when does this stop? Is Mom going to send him off on his first date or college still wearing this on his shoulder? If you start something like this, you have to think long-term about it. You know, have an exit strategy.
3) Is there still room in the backpack for books, assignments, lunch boxes, etc?
Continuing this thought, will it stand up to the kid shoving the backpack into a locker? Dropping the bookbag? Will it withstand a spilled drink?
@kdonnel and
@kaytieeldrbut is it not like saying "everyone should learn how to fly a plane in case the pilots are incapacitated"? OK, extreme example, but hopefully you get what I'm saying.[/QUOTE]It's a good analogy. We're talking about a lot of effort for an event that's going to happen to a tiny number of people.
My question is what is worse for the kid? Being sequestered, pulled out of school, having all of their limited personal freedom revoked abruptly? Or having a digital tether that let's mom keep tabs and alerts of possible future threats?
Fallacy of forced choice. Any number of
other options exist.
I don't think feeding into her fear is helping the situation. She needs to talk to a professional who can help her deal with her fear rationally.
I'm not quick to jump to "Counseling is the answer", but -- yes -- she needs to deal with the fear.