Am I Overreacting AGAIN?

[quentina]

Be thankful. You're not there. You don't have to play hostess; you don't have to cook dinner and entertain. After moving and working, aren't you tired? You should be relieved that your husband took it upon himself to do this.

Ditto....I would kill my husband if he expected me to entertain so soon....good luck!

 

[DMickey28]

I can totally understand how you are feeling and why you are feeling that way. However, I think that it's one of those things that you need to let go. In the big scheme of things, it's not that big a deal though I TOTALLY understand. It's the kind of thing that would bother me but I have learned that I have to let things like that go more often than not!

Congrats on the new house! We moved in a week ago ... it's a LONG process!! Right now I am working on my DS's room.

 

[Liberty Belle]

You're overreacting, but a simple, "could you ask them to come when I can be there?" would be fine.

 

[AKL_Megs]

We moved in a week ago ... it's a LONG process!! Right now I am working on my DS's room.

Enjoy that! Post pics when you are done! I love baby rooms!!!

 

[Liberty Belle]

No, you aren't justified. You are over reacting, again. Cut it out.

 

[Pumbaa_]

my guess is he is so excited to be in the house, you are at work and he wanted to share his pleasure and pride in being a homeowner

you can still invite them over and do all that you want, but cut him some slack., I can see wanting to control everything, but let this one slide. Not a hill worth dying on

And congratulations!!!

 

[disney1990]

You signature confuses me. It says your 2009 vacation was canceled yet you have a ticker in your signature. Are you going on vacation or did you cancel another 2009 vacation?

Not that I need to justify it, but here is the story:

Yes, I have a 4-day Disney Cruise scheduled for January 2010 with my 2 young granddaughters. Unemployment or not, this is a cruise that was promised to my granddaughter when she was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 8 in 2007. I told her, when she was past her treatment, I would take her on a Disney cruise, and I am keeping that promise. I have saved for this vacation and it is fully paid for so, unemployed or not, is it going to happen.

Now I just wish I could find a job.

 

[Tink9721]

Not that I need to justify it, but here is the story:

Yes, I have a 4-day Disney Cruise scheduled for January 2010 with my 2 young granddaughters. Unemployment or not, this is a cruise that was promised to my granddaughter when she was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 8 in 2007. I told her, when she was past her treatment, I would take her on a Disney cruise, and I am keeping that promise. I have saved and this vacation and it is fully paid for so, unemployed or not, is it going to happen.

Now I just wish I could find a job.

That is sooooooo sweet! You are a fantastic grandmother! Breast cancer runs in my family and several of my family members have had it, so my heart goes out to anyone who has been affected by any kind of cancer. Hugs for you and your family!!!

 

[Abbie]

C'mon, you're just worried they will touch the guest towels, aren't you??

Just teasin' ya! I'm in the camp that says whew, I'm glad I don't have to be there to entertain anyone just yet! Get the house set up the way you want, then invite people over to see it all set up!

 

[C.Ann]

I can see it from both sides.. He's excited, you're excited - I mean after all, it's your first home and you both want to show it off to family and friends..

However, what's done is done - so I would look forward to having those same people over when you're a bit more settled and can entertain them in the manner that you had hoped to..

Good luck in the new house..

 

[Scurvy]

I think you're overreacting, but I can sort of see how you feel. I wouldn't care if my husband showed our house to his grandparents without me - but I'd want to kill him if he showed it to my grandparents without me. I think you should let him know how you feel and ask him to hold off on showing your joint friends or your side of the family the place until you are ready, but if he wants to have his family or people that are just his friends over I think you need to accept it and don't let it bother you.

 

[Ember]

Maybe a little over reacting. But it sounds like the sort of day that an over reaction was bound to happen. If it makes you feel better I once broke down in tears in the middle of Ikea when they didn't have a sofa cover I wanted. (We had just moved from Canada to Germany and I was tired, homesick, and suffering culture shock.) Yes, it was an over reaction, a rather large and embarrassing over reaction. But it was just THAT kind of day, you know?!

 

[teacups]

I can see why you'd want to be there... but best just to let it go. Maybe mention that its kinda fun for you to be there incase there are any more relatives out there...

 

[Angelhalo]

I think having a new house is like having a new baby, you should have a certain amount of time with just it and your spouse to get settled in and used to the new situation! All company should hold off until you're "settled", both physically and emotionally. So, I don't blame you, but also don't think you should take it out on your DH who just "didn't think", I'm sure...

Hugs...

Terri

Agreed. I think it was cruddy of him not to think of how you might feel about it. I'd probably be miffed too but at the same time not stomping mad. You have to choose your battles.

 

[PaddingtonBear]

Don't worry, the tour you'll give them will be totally different than the one he gives them. Your tour: "here's the room that will be the baby's someday when we have one, here's the laundry, look at all the storage. I'm thinking about painting x room y color and hanging z window treatments here, what do you think?". His tour: He points out all the stuff he wants his dad to help him do and comments on the size of the flat screen that will fit in the family room for watching football games.

Anywho, you could be my neighbor, I'm in Livonia too. Enjoy your new house