Am I Out Of Line??

[mskayjay]

just read your response above. You already had made your decision so why even ask for opinions? and your "rolling on the floor" smiley is an incredibly rude slap in the face to the people who took the time to answer you.

BTW I hear they are looking for new people to be in the next season of "Bridezillas".

 

[aduck126]

I love all of the passionate responses. As I stated, they have finally agreed to the make-up cover. Solved. My MOH tried a solution (she works for a chemical plant) on one of the girls, and it literally erased the tat.

Just as a side comment, some of you say "except them for who they are" blah blah blah, its not like they were born with these tattoos. They did this to themselves. And just because they are into the tattoos, doesnt mean that I have to be, or that I have to see that in the pictures. Again, we're a conservative bunch, we're not into it. Plain and simple.

I love them but I dont have to love the tattoos.

tea party much?

they were not born with these tattoos, yes. But they didn't all go out and get them last week. Whatever, it doesn't mater some people just can't listen.

 

[mrsgarvin]

I love all of the passionate responses. As I stated, they have finally agreed to the make-up cover. Solved. My MOH tried a solution (she works for a chemical plant) on one of the girls, and it literally erased the tat.

Just as a side comment, some of you say "except them for who they are" blah blah blah, its not like they were born with these tattoos. They did this to themselves. And just because they are into the tattoos, doesnt mean that I have to be, or that I have to see that in the pictures. Again, we're a conservative bunch, we're not into it. Plain and simple.

I love them but I dont have to love the tattoos.

Actually, I think what everyone is saying is, ACCEPT them for who they are.

And I'm really surprised to read that you're shacking up with your man before your wedding, you know, given how conservative you all are. Does his family know???

Good luck and have a lovely evening.

 

[NYPrincess422]

Thanks ladies!

 

[Alesia]

Well, thats why it might be hard for you to see my view, because you have tattoos. If people arent into that, they dont want to see that. My whole thing is, yes I knew that had them before, they had asked me how I felt about it. And I told them, its not my thing, its gonna be a conservative crowd, please tone it down. So, just like I agreed to cover up the existing, they agreed to tone it down.

But its cool, because now they'll just have to cover it up or wear shawls and panty hose.

I don't have tattoos, and I don't particularly care for them, but I'm having a really hard time seeing things from your point of view as well.

One of my bridesmaids had a tattoo on her shoulder that was visible in her dress, but it would never have occurred to me to ask her to cover it because she was more important to me than my wedding.

I think a lot of brides get so wrapped up in their weddings that they forget that the other people involved are not their employees, but their friends. Your wedding will be over in the span of a few hours. Hopefully, your friendships will last much, much longer than that.

 

[crystalllize]

I love all of the passionate responses. As I stated, they have finally agreed to the make-up cover. Solved. My MOH tried a solution (she works for a chemical plant) on one of the girls, and it literally erased the tat.

Just as a side comment, some of you say "except them for who they are" blah blah blah, its not like they were born with these tattoos. They did this to themselves. And just because they are into the tattoos, doesnt mean that I have to be, or that I have to see that in the pictures. Again, we're a conservative bunch, we're not into it. Plain and simple.

I love them but I dont have to love the tattoos.

I have to say, I'm shocked at some of the rude responses you're getting!

I'm glad you figured out a solution that made everyone comfortable. I don't think you're being a "bridezilla" at all. I would have done the same thing, and I don't think that makes either of us selfish or demanding. JMHO.

 

[MsEsty]

I think a lot of brides get so wrapped up in their weddings that they forget that the other people involved are not their employees, but their friends. Your wedding will be over in the span of a few hours. Hopefully, your friendships will last much, much longer than that.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[NYPrincess422]

I have to say, I'm shocked at some of the rude responses you're getting!

I'm glad you figured out a solution that made everyone comfortable. I don't think you're being a "bridezilla" at all. I would have done the same thing, and I don't think that makes either of us selfish or demanding. JMHO.

My MOH did a test run on the cover up but it was an epic fail, lol. One of the BMs, her tat is very colorful and it just didnt take well. So, to make it easier, financially and stress wise, they're gonna do a shawl and Im just gonna talk to the photog about photo-shopping. Solved.

As for the comments, I dont take anything personal. This is a discussion board to discuss different ideas and opinions. Some people take things so personal and others (like myself) just like to talk about different things. If people want to get rude or whatever, thats on them. No love lost, still love the DIS boards

 

[LuluLovesDisney]

I love all of the passionate responses. As I stated, they have finally agreed to the make-up cover. Solved. My MOH tried a solution (she works for a chemical plant) on one of the girls, and it literally erased the tat.

Just as a side comment, some of you say "except them for who they are" blah blah blah, its not like they were born with these tattoos. They did this to themselves. And just because they are into the tattoos, doesnt mean that I have to be, or that I have to see that in the pictures. Again, we're a conservative bunch, we're not into it. Plain and simple.

I love them but I dont have to love the tattoos.

I am really glad that you found a solution! I would love to know what chemical plant item worked well bc like I said my BM's makeup came off and that can be a big hazard when you have an expensive white dress on!

I am sure they know you love them, too, even if you were upset about the tattoo. Don't stress, to use my mom's favorite phrase "it will all work out!"

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I love all of the passionate responses. As I stated, they have finally agreed to the make-up cover. Solved. My MOH tried a solution (she works for a chemical plant) on one of the girls, and it literally erased the tat.

Just as a side comment, some of you say "except them for who they are" blah blah blah, its not like they were born with these tattoos. They did this to themselves. And just because they are into the tattoos, doesnt mean that I have to be, or that I have to see that in the pictures. Again, we're a conservative bunch, we're not into it. Plain and simple.

I love them but I dont have to love the tattoos.

Thanks ladies!

sometimes I have to wonder why people ask....

 

[Evi]

My MOH did a test run on the cover up but it was an epic fail, lol. One of the BMs, her tat is very colorful and it just didnt take well. So, to make it easier, financially and stress wise, they're gonna do a shawl and Im just gonna talk to the photog about photo-shopping. Solved.

As for the comments, I dont take anything personal. This is a discussion board to discuss different ideas and opinions. Some people take things so personal and others (like myself) just like to talk about different things. If people want to get rude or whatever, thats on them. No love lost, still love the DIS boards

I think you should accept your friends as for covering the tattoos it can be done and it can be done easily. Look into a dermablend I would take the girls with you as you will have to get the color to match there skin. If you do go this route I think you should pay for it, because its something you want them to do. I like your idea of shawls for pictures it solves your problem without having to offend the girls.

 

[sunset30]

I have read this with interest. I am glad you have found a solution.
It just amazes me the number of wedding things there are to get stressed out about. I have strruggled myself with stress over getting the venue and date and so on. It would never have occurred to me to worry about my MOH having tattoos. She doesn't have any, but it wouldn't bother me.
In fact, Iwant my guests to have a great, but relaxed, time. Also, I don't want to spend my day stressed, I want to have fun. I don't even know what colour dress my MOH will wear, she knnows wat colour my dress is, and I trust her. What people look like is really not something I worry about, rather that they are there sharing our day.
But, I guess different things matter to different people, so I am pleased you found a solution
Lx

 

[disneybex]

I think that as BMs they have a special position in the ceremony and should do anything that they can to make sure you and your DF are happy. If that means covering tattoos then as good friends they should. Especially if you asked them if they would do this when you asked them to be part of your wedding day.

However getting new tattoos is up to them and as long as they can cover it you will all look lovely in your photos - I'm glad you found a cover and shawl that works for everyone

BTW I have 2 tattoos that would be visible in a BM dress and I would be happy to cover them for a friend in the same way that I would wear a dress that matches the bridal party. To me it isn't a huge effort on my part to make someone (the bride) happy.

 

[SuzeQ]

My MOH has several tattoos. I never even thought about them before the wedding. I have zero tattoos and doubt I will ever get one. As it turns out one of my favorite sets of photos from the wedding is a shot from behind my MOH where one has her blurry with me and my DH in focus at the altar and then the other is her in focus showcasing her tinkerbell tattoo on her shoulder and us blurry in the background. My mother who is pretty conservative even commented how she loved those pics and got them printed. My MOH even got her nose pierced before the wedding. She didn't 'consult' me beforehand and I didn't bother to ask her to take it out. I guess I just don't see the point of having my best friends in my wedding if they don't LOOK like my best friends. But as others have said, it's an easy cover-up. Take a deep breathe and remember that in the end these small details won't matter.

I agree 100%!
Very well said.

 

[*Pixiedust1438*]

I personally think your making too big a deal out of it. I would "request" that the girls cover them up somehow, and if they won't, then just let it go. If it's really that big of a deal to you maybe you shouldn't have asked them to stand up.

I have three bridesmaids with tattoos and it didn't even cross my mind to ask them to cover them up, although I also think it's ridiculous to tell BM's how they have to wear their hair, but that's just me. I want my BM's in my wedding because they are special people to me, and I want them to share my special day with me, not because I want them to look good in my pictures.

On a side note, if they really are your good friends and know this is something that will really bother you, I think they should just do as you ask, covering up tattoos is not a big deal. So I do see your frustration.

 

[smoof]

In my honest opinion, if you knew she (they) have tats, and you didn't want them showing, then you should have chosen a dress that would cover them. You knew who she/they was/were before asking them to be in the wedding. Sorry, just my opinion.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I'm very liberal and come from a very liberal family. My sister has tats. My niece has tats.

But you know what? I don't care for tattoos at all. I think they look like skin stains after a while. It just isn't my thing. Just as they can have as many as they want, I should be able to want them or not in my pictures.

I agree with the bride to an extent here. I LOVE that they have agreed to cover them all up with make-up, but the bride can't get upset because one or more of her back-up singers added yet another tattoo. Covering up one or twelve shouldn't really matter.

Plus one more thing that hasn't been brought up...what about the parents and grandparents of the bride and groom who have to look at the wedding photographs. I'm sure knowing they are conservative should bring about some respect to them. They don't want to see someone's skull and roses tat in the family photographs.

Just as I wouldn't be caught dead in pantyhose, the grandparents shouldn't be forced to be caught dead showing wedding photos of their families full of tattoos.

And the bride did tell the gals about the tattoo problem in the first place, and they all agreed to it or wouldn't still be in the wedding.