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[doxdogy]

DH and I were invited to a wedding today. The bride and groom are friends of my nephew that is stationed in Germany. The wedding unfortunately didn't happen. The groom got cold feet at the last minute and decided he wasn't ready to get married.

As strange as it sounds, I am just glad that it happened now and not a few years down the road in divorce court.

 

[Disney845]

What a shame, but as you said, it is probably for the best to have them step back now, then once they have already taken the vows. I hope that the bride is holding up well. I myself have only "heard" of things like this, never been invited to a wedding that didn't go off as planned!

 

[CinderellaCastle]

Did they feed you anyway?

 

[browneyes]

I hope the bride-to-be is coping well.

I've never been to a wedding where that happened either. And I've never been to one where they say "And if anyone objects to this man and this woman joining together, let him speak up or forever hold his peace.", and had someone to stand up (but I have been to weddings where afterwards people didn't forever hold their peace).

 

[bsnyder]

My dad was a groomsman in a wedding once, where they literally turned the guests away at the church steps, because the groom got cold feet!

The worst part of it, he says, is that he was staying with the bride's family (he was from out of town) and had to go back to their house and pack his suitcase.

He said it was not a happy scene at that house!

 

[Pop Daddy]

it would really be neat, if when asked to say "I do" he says " sorry, I dont" (also want to be in a court room whe someone yells, "im out of order, your out of order, this court is out of order"




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[MerryPoppins]

My brother's fiance called off the wedding a couple of weeks before. We still see her occassionally and she cares about our family. I think they still consider themselves friends, in a strange kind of way. She just saw that it wasn't going to work. I've always wondered how my SIL feels about what happened. She knows her too.

 

[Pat]

One of my good friends changed her mind at the last minute (a second small wedding). She had all the food, etc. and ended up giving it to a nursing home.

 

[Otto's Doll]

When I was 18, I was engaged to be married to a guy in the Navy. I had everything done, all deposits were down, dresses were ready, invitations sent... and I found out he had married someone else on my original wedding day! (We had changed the day, since he told me he was going to be out to sea). Talk about a rough time. It was so hard to write all the people we had invited and tell them the wedding was off! People were so incredibly kind. (I later heard from him, and he had been divorced 3 times since I dated him).

God blessed me 4 years later with a wonderful man who loves me and treats me like a princess. We will be married 12 years next month. I thank God everyday for all I have, and for getting me out of that situation!!

Jeanne

 

[JESW]

BIL's soon to be ex-wife SHOULD have done that! She had said she had doubts but still went on with the wedding. Their DS was conceived on their honeymoon, just turned one last month and they are on their wasy to divorce. SO sad.

Jill

 

[Poohbear123]

I wanted to say NO to my first wedding, but went ahead with it anyway. I was pregnant at the time, and felt I had no choice! Talk about feeling trapped!

 

[Micca]

I agree with two things: 1) Better now than after the wedding, and 2) They should have given guests some cake anyway(along with mixed nuts and those little mints

 

[piratesmate]

How sad & you're right - better now than later.

The closest we came to a situation like this was with friends from church. They were constantly arguing & both sets of parents were unhappy about the wedding because of it... but they were both in their mid to late 20's & the parents didn't have much influence at that point.

Anyway, during the rehearsal another HUGE argument got under way. (We were in the church with the Jr High youth & heard it.) They both walked out & the wedding never happened. The attendants were up quite late calling would-be guests to tell them not to come the next day.

The weird thing was that they continued to see each other (they didn't call it dating, although everyone else did) and continued to argue for a number of years. We've lost touch now.

 

[Serena]

I've never seen that happen either, but I know of a few marriages that people would have been much happier if they had.
It's much better now than later.

 

[ohanafamily]

I agree, better now than later. I have seen a few examples of this, but never been invited to one of these. There is an urban legend based partly on a true story from Highland Park (an old, rich area inside Dallas) where the bride caught her Fiancé cheating with her maid of honor the night before. She waited right until the minister asked if there was anybody who knew a reason... She explained the situation and left the party. It was all paid for and non-refundable, so she used it to tell the world.

Personally, I was engaged and we canceled it 2 weeks before we sent the invitations out. From my side, it was not fun.

 

[aunt lissa]

I backed out 3 times before going thru w/ it...and I am still getting a divorce!! I knew I should've listened to that inner voice!