Alright married folks, confirm or deny?

[Chirple]

He will sometimes call out from the couch after I have started to leave the living room and am in the hallway.

My other favorite: I have hearing loss in my left ear and some in my right ear (thanks, INXS!) and wear hearing aids. Sometimes I don't put them in when I am working. Where he works is the opposite end of the living room from where I sit for work. He faces a wall. He'll ask me a question while facing the wall.

 

[Micca]

She says I talk to long to explain something

I think this is the very definition of "Dan-splaining"

 

[lovesmurfs]

A major thing I've learned after 37 years of marriage: You don't have to do everything together. You don't have to eat the same meals. We rarely do when we're at home. If one of us cooks chicken, we make our own preferred side dishes and it's OK. We don't have to go everywhere as a couple. He's into community theater and wants to see all the shows he's not in. If I'm not interested in the show, I tell him to buy a ticket and go by himself. He always finds plenty of theater friends there, or he can volunteer to be an usher and see the show for free. I get an evening to hang out by myself. It works out for both of us. It's OK to spend time doing your own thing once in a while.

Absolutely agree. I got married at 22. Mom's advice to me was from something SHE was told when they got married -- that two people are separate trees -- when they get married, they should intertwine and grow together to make the tree stronger.

Over the years, we've grown together, but I have different interests and have finally started telling DH that I don't want to do something, but that HE's welcome to do it. We eat dinners together 95% of the time, but breakfast and lunch is when we each decide to eat. Mom doesn't get it.

Meanwhile, when Dad passed 2 years ago after being married nearly 60 years, Mom struggled (and still struggles) because she never really developed a sense of who SHE is. Everything she built was around Dad and his needs/wants -- three meals a day, at the table, together. Activities - if both weren't going, they wouldn't go, etc.

 

[HannaBelle]

DH and I will be married 33 years this October. Some of them were damn hard ones, but it is smooth sailing 98% of the time now.

I am the planner and keep track of the calendar. We have weekly "meetings" to review upcoming appointments and plans. I send Google Calendar invites for everything so we do not have anymore "you never told me about that". He never remembers, but it is just one of those things I have learned to work around. I am no peach, and he accepts my faults too!

He is a gamer and wears headphones. A LOT. I will text him or send him a message in ******* or go and physically touch him to get his attention. I have a home pottery studio so if he wants to talk to me he has to come outside.