Advice on Childcare Please

[bellfield349]

Hi All
I am new here and due to go on a family vacation to disney on 26th January staying at the Poly. Whilst there hubby and I are wanting to have some quiet time to ourselves and not sure if to let the kids go to Neverland or get one of the sit in babysitters? We have 3 sons ages 11, 9, 4.
Can someone also advise if you arrange either of the two options are you limited to where you can go, ie do you have to stay on resort or could we take in a show on I-Drive, or go to down town disney.
Many thanks for all your help.
Dee

 

[Bob P]

Hi Dee and welcome to the DIS!

You are free to go wherever you want when you put your kids in childcare or with a babysitter. It's just as if you have hired a babysitter at home!

This link may help you too:

http://allearsnet.com/pl/childfaq.htm

 

[llazykllamas]

I just don't get the idea of taking a family vacation, then leaving the kids behind. Why not plan some "quiet" time for when you are at home and it is not such an exciting time for the kids. My bet is that they would like to spend their vacation with their parents.

 

[bellfield349]

Thank you for your welcome and your advice. I will go and have a read at the link now)

 

[bellfield349]

I understand what you are saying but due to personal reasons which I don't think I need to go in to, I just need to spend a couple of hours with my husband, it is going to be our last holiday together and we need one evening to talk through what will happen when I am not around. Yes we could do this at home, but there is so much going on and we have no family at home to care for the children so one night in 365 I dont think is to much, please do not judge people.

 

[Bob P]

I understand what you are saying but due to personal reasons which I don't think I need to go in to, I just need to spend a couple of hours with my husband, it is going to be our last holiday together and we need one evening to talk through what will happen when I am not around. Yes we could do this at home, but there is so much going on and we have no family at home to care for the children so one night in 365 I dont think is to much, please do not judge people.

Very well said.

 

[Bob P]

I just don't get the idea of taking a family vacation, then leaving the kids behind. Why not plan some "quiet" time for when you are at home and it is not such an exciting time for the kids. My bet is that they would like to spend their vacation with their parents.

With all due respect, this is not the place for such a post. The OP asked a question and wanted an answer, not a lecture.

 

[Cindy's Mom]

I understand what you are saying but due to personal reasons which I don't think I need to go in to, I just need to spend a couple of hours with my husband, it is going to be our last holiday together and we need one evening to talk through what will happen when I am not around. Yes we could do this at home, but there is so much going on and we have no family at home to care for the children so one night in 365 I dont think is to much, please do not judge people.

Beautifully said - Enjoy your holiday It sounds like you deserve it.

 

[bellfield349]

Thanks both of you)

 

[PlaneJoy1]

We plan to use Kids Nite Out while we are there in March for one evening. Our kids are 9 & 3, so the youngest couldn't go into the kids club.

I believe the Disney club is $10 per hour per child, so in your case $30 per hour. For the baby sitting service it is $19/hour total for 3 kids and they bring activities and such for the kids in addition to taking them to the play ground (but no water activities). They are trained and have background checks, and come recommended by Disney. If saving a little $$ is a consideration, you might check out babysitting.

The website is: www.kidsniteout.com I think.

BTW, it is a vacation for everyone.... including the parents.

 

[2diamonds&a~gem]

Welcome by the way!
And really I can't wait until our DD is 4 so she can go to the Neverland Club. She is a very well adjusted child, she is very aware that she is loved & she will have a blast. Your kids are on vacation & they sometimes need a break from mom & dad & siblings to do there own thing & be independent & to hang out with other kids & JUST play, rather than being on the "go" they need down time too. Furthermore we are on vacation too! And throughout the year we only get a sitter (my mother) for special events such as a wedding (children not invited to) or Christmas Party @ work & 1 time to see a movie (the movie was the same night as the Christmas Party- we snuck out early to see Narnia & we loved it!) Good for you, to take time to make what sounds like very hard plans, I hope that you have an amazing, magical trip!

 

[mask_w03]

Try out the fairy godmothers or the kids night out so you all can have a night out. We are looking into them also for when we go down in Dec since it will just be the three of us and DH and I would like some time to do the BIG rides DD can't do and just to get some us time for a change and maybe a nice dinner just us (we would just do a few hrs).

Hope you all have a wonderful trip and can enjoy some alone time, yes it's a family vacation but parents need some alone time too!!!

 

[smsnorthup]

Can my DD4 go to Neverland club if we're staying at a different Disney resort?

 

[jodifla]

We're all for family time, but DS goes to bed by 8:30, so we have gotten sitters for him on a routine basis. We use Fairy Godmothers, and have been quite happy with our sitters from there. It's a small family run company that's been around 20 plus years.

Forget the posters who rush in to judge you for taking a night to yourselves. What they fail to recognize is that you're taking care of your marriage, which your children depend on.

 

[Bob P]

Can my DD4 go to Neverland club if we're staying at a different Disney resort?

Yes she can!!!

 

[WDWNicole]

Forget the posters who rush in to judge you for taking a night to yourselves. What they fail to recognize is that you're taking care of your marriage, which your children depend on.

Well said!

 

[llazykllamas]

"The OP asked a question and wanted an answer, not a lecture."
What I had previously posted was hardly a lecture, just an opinion. You want a lecture - read on
OK, I see how this works....Someone has a different opinion than the original poster,and they are deemed wrong. Possibly it is because to some a Disney trip really isn't that big of a deal just look at all the 'notches in the belts' of some of these posters who list every trip they have taken. To me and my family none of whom have ever been to Disney this is a HUGE deal to us. I want to be there to see them witness all that Disney has to offer. This is the trip that we have promised the kids for when Daddy gets home from Iraq - which will hopefully be before April when we are scheduled to go.


"What they fail to recognize is that you're taking care of your marriage, which your children depend on."

No what someone is failing to recognize is that a marriage needs more work than one night out of 365 is going to take. Try talking to your spouse about important things everyday instead of having to 'make an appointment' weeks in advance, and trying to squeeze it in sometime between the Magic Kingdom and Epcot. A marriage needs to be taken care of EVERY day.

Yes, having the time alone and letting the kids do their own things is important, but foster that outside of a vacation.

At some time 'too late' becomes too late

 

[PrincessLindy]

We are planning a night out on the next trip also. DD is six and we were planning on eating at Yahtsmen. To be honest I think that in 12 days it isn't going to hurt to have some alone time. We rarely do anything without her and spend a lot of family time all year. Besides, from what I have heard she will enjoy a night at Neverland more than a night at Yahtsmen.

To the OP I think it is not only fine, but a nice idea to have some alone time, especially the hint you gave us about your personal life. You asked which is better kids club or babysitting, you did not ask if you should leave your child for the evening.

 

[Mainebound]

OK, I see how this works....Someone has a different opinion than the original poster,and they are deemed wrong.

If the OP had asked "I am thinking of getitng a sitter but I feel guilty. Am I wrong?" then your opinion would have been welcomed, as would those of many who disagree, because opinions on getting a sitter would have been what the OP was ASKING for.

Your posts have been inappropriate. I hope the OP is not scared off the DIS as a result.

 

[Tandyc]

Wow! That's all I can say. Wow.

Bless you all!