Advice Needed - Am I being selfish?

[NannyPooh]

Wow -
Goofy Son - you sound like a great kid! I love the way that you are respecting your parents' opinions, while voicing your own!
I have a DS12 and DS8, and we have travelled to both WDW and DL on our own several times. We usually go down for 4 or 5 days, and then DH joins us for a long weekend. Makes the trip a little hectic for him, but we all get what we want!
I love travelling with just my boys to WDW and DL, as it makes me take the time to enjoy it all. We go at a slower pace, doing what they want to do. I can save MY things for a *big kids* trip - those are the ones where we go from sunrise to sunset, without stopping, and then enjoy a long drawn out dinner - the type where the kids can't sit quietly for that long!
If you are planning on going for 10 days with your son, maybe your husband can join you both for a long weekend, if finances allow it! You can save those days up, and do especially what DH wants to do -
Cherish the alone time spent with your son - I think that it sounds great!
Like everyone has said - this is a decision between the three of you - no one else!
Whether you choose to go or not, you are sure doing something right - sounds like you have a great son!

 

[Disney Von Drake]

Go for it! This will be the perfect time for your DH to look up a few old girlfriends. Great vacation for everyone.

 

[texaslover]

DS and I went on a mom/son trip last Spring Break and are going again Dec 30 through Jan 6. DH is a pain on vacation. Complains, won't wake up, hates all the food, hates getting fastpass, etc. I actually told him that his attitude has caused us to take our own vacation. I also said that if there is a vacation that he wants to take with DS without me I am totally ok with it. So far, that hasn't happened .

Disney is far too special to me now to ruin it. It is DS and I's connection, our oasis in a school year where I teach and he learns. I just want it to be stress free and, together/alone, it is....

And Disney Von Drake this....

Go for it! This will be the perfect time for your DH to look up a few old girlfriends. Great vacation for everyone

Is soooooo not a threat for most wives. Seriously, if my DH said that to me I would laugh and say good luck. And if they would have him and put up with his junk I say GO FOR IT!!!

 

[GoofySon'sMom]

Wow -
Goofy Son - you sound like a great kid! I love the way that you are respecting your parents' opinions, while voicing your own!
I have a DS12 and DS8, and we have travelled to both WDW and DL on our own several times. We usually go down for 4 or 5 days, and then DH joins us for a long weekend. Makes the trip a little hectic for him, but we all get what we want!

Whether you choose to go or not, you are sure doing something right - sounds like you have a great son!

THANK YOU so much for the kind words about my son! Sometimes I think he is way older than 11! DH and I talked about him joining us for the 2nd part of the trip. He doesn't seem to want to do that but we'll see if we talk him into it. He read all of the comments here today and is even more supportive of our going without him. And he wants us to stay til after Labor Day (for we're back to the 10 days) so that he can spend that weekend with his brother and best friend. Guess he does want 'man time'!

 

[Gabrielle]

THANK YOU so much for the kind words about my son! Sometimes I think he is way older than 11! DH and I talked about him joining us for the 2nd part of the trip. He doesn't seem to want to do that but we'll see if we talk him into it. He read all of the comments here today and is even more supportive of our going without him. And he wants us to stay til after Labor Day (for we're back to the 10 days) so that he can spend that weekend with his brother and best friend. Guess he does want 'man time'!

Go! Go! Go! Don't look back - no guilt! I whisked my son off to WDW after 8th grade; we had a great time! My husband is always relieved when he doesn't have to go, himself. Stay all 10 days and enjoy yourselves!

 

[GoofySon'sMom]

Go! Go! Go! Don't look back - no guilt! I whisked my son off to WDW after 8th grade; we had a great time! My husband is always relieved when he doesn't have to go, himself. Stay all 10 days and enjoy yourselves!

Thank you! We talked about it alot last night and we are going to do it. It's funny, DH was talking to a male coworker and told him that he wants us to go alone. The coworker said 'yeah, but she won't do it, right?". DH told him we are thinking about it and the response was "how did you get so lucky ... 10 days to do whatever you want". So the guy perspective weighed in again! DS said last night that we would have to get a "Mom & Son Trip - 2008" Christmas ornament and we'd have to get two so he can take one with him when he moves out & has his own tree! Not sure if that makes me more happy or more sad?!

Thank you all again for your advice/opinions. I feel like I can now plan the trip guilt free. Of course DH did say that he's prefer we don't go to Le Cellier or at least don't tell him about it!

 

[ktbugsmom]

Goofyson'smom,
My daughter and I have taken three summer trips to WDW without my husband. He loves to go with us and share memories, but sometimes, he just can't take the time off. We have done shorter trips - usually 4 nights - but I would LOVE to do a longer trip with just my daughter! We have a ball. My DH is not a great morning person, but my daughter (now 7 years old) and I can get up and go immediately.

I will admit, our summer trips without daddy have always been with my sister and her kids - and she leaves her husband home too! We have a blast. The guys get their time (the whole pizza, sports, war movies - really!) and we have some fun in our favorite place with our kids.

Go and enjoy! You will love it.

 

[kmadams]

I just wanted to add that twice I've been lucky enough to go to WDW with just my son, at age 14 and 15. We had the best of times, and I don't think we'll ever get to repeat that experience as he is now 18 and heading to college next fall. Really, truly, the best part of the trip was just being one-on-one with him. Those 2 times were a priceless memory.

 

[DVC-Don]

I'm doomed then. I'm going solo next month without the family. Had some DVC points to burn off and no one else can get away. It was my wifes idea who said "Why don't you go by yourself?"

 

[Detailor]

I just wanted to add that twice I've been lucky enough to go to WDW with just my son, at age 14 and 15. We had the best of times, and I don't think we'll ever get to repeat that experience as he is now 18 and heading to college next fall. Really, truly, the best part of the trip was just being one-on-one with him. Those 2 times were a priceless memory.

I can identify with that. My youngest DD, now 16, and I have vacationed together each of the past few years right after school closes (Mom stays home as she hates the heat and humidity). We've had a terrific time doing things and just spending time together. These trips have been incredibly worthwhile for our relationship. With plans to begin college visits in 2008 I'm already looking back at these excursions with a wistful nostalgia. Hopefully we'll be able to fit in one or two more Dad and Daughter trips before jobs and higher education take over.

Dick Taylor

 

[EeyoreFan1]

You sound like you really really want to go with your son. If I was you, I'd go with my son.

 

[ktbugsmom]

DVC Don,
How cool is that?! I have often wondered what it would be like to go to WDW on my own... but, then I would have mommy guilt. I can leave the hubby home, but my 7 year old would "die" if I went to Disney with out her.