Addressing Envelopes; What do you think this means?

Just wanted to give you props for working "My husband is a doctor" and "I own a Cadillac CTS" into one post. ;)


Seriously, I don't think your SIL is trying to insult you or your husband. He's her big brother. She probably doesn't think of him as a doctor just as a brother. And an invitation to a nephew's graduation isn't as formal as a wedding invitation, so I wouldn't be too upset.

I didn't need to actually. I had a separate post previously for my new car. You must have missed it! ;)
Back to the topic. If she wanted to drift way from formality, why Mr. and Mrs. That is considered formal. Why not first and last names and no title? And no, I am not "upset". I am curious.
 
First of all....seriously?

Second, I'm wondering, IS there such a thing as good or bad manners between siblings? I thought interacting with my sister gave me a free pass to be whatever kind of witch I feel like being that day. Really.

Finally, OMG, I love this post!!!

I really hope so! I am very close to my brother,we probably talk on the phone 4 times a week, but I would never drop in on him without calling first and letting him know I am coming and is it a good time. I wouldn't enter his home without knocking or ringing the bell. I wouldn't invite him to my home without making him dinner. I wouldn't go to their home without bringing something, and I would never say anything that wasn't absolutely positive about his family.
 
I didn't need to actually. I had a separate post previously for my new car. You must have missed it! ;)
Back to the topic. If she wanted to drift way from formality, why Mr. and Mrs. That is considered formal. Why not first and last names and no title? And no, I am not "upset". I am curious.

Honestly, I find it curious that you're curious. Isn't the invitation you received for a young person's graduation? Seems to me this event should be all about them. ;) I don't see how you and the good Dr were addressed as having any relevance at all. I'd let it go. It's time to hop in that Cadillac, ;) and zip off to the mall for a nice graduation card and a gift card. :laughing:
But, hey, what do I know.:rotfl:
 
Back to the topic. If she wanted to drift way from formality, why Mr. and Mrs. That is considered formal. Why not first and last names and no title? And no, I am not "upset". I am curious.

I understand what you mean. I was going to say the same thing. If I send something informal (Christmas cards, etc) I will address the envelope "The Smith Family" and then put all members first names in the card. If it's a couple with no kids, I will use their First and Last Name(s).

The only time I can really think of that I've sent something formal to family was when I sent my wedding invitations. In that instance, I would use the Dr. title.
 

On the other hand, I have a close friend whose DH has "doctor" as his title.. When his DD became seriously involved with the man she eventually married, her dad had a fit because he demanded the man call him "Dr. Whoever" at all times and the future SIL refused.. He called him "Mr. Whoever"..

This particular man uses his title to intimidate people every chance he gets.. He's a pompous you-know-what.. I've called him by his first name - since day one - and it drives him nuts..:rotfl:

In Op's case, I agree with the poster that said a number of envelopes were being addressed at the same time and the addressee probably didn't even think about what she was doing..
 
Honestly, I find it curious that you're curious. Isn't the invitation you received for a young person's graduation? Seems to me this event should be all about them. ;) I don't see how you and the good Dr were addressed as having any relevance at all. I'd let it go. It's time to hop in that Cadillac, ;) and zip off to the mall for a nice graduation card and a gift card. :laughing:
But, hey, what do I know.:rotfl:

This is the community board. People have been far more "curious" about less. I made it clear in the OP that I would most certainly never mention it. It wouldn't occur to me to mention it. Now whether I zip off to the mall in the Caddie or the 360Z? I haven't decided it. ;)
 
Just wanted to give you props for working "My husband is a doctor" and "I own a Cadillac CTS" into one post. ;)


Seriously, I don't think your SIL is trying to insult you or your husband. He's her big brother. She probably doesn't think of him as a doctor just as a brother. And an invitation to a nephew's graduation isn't as formal as a wedding invitation, so I wouldn't be too upset.

:rotfl2::worship::cool1::lmao::happytv::woohoo:
What do you think this MEANS????? :laughing:
 
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Dawn, honey, I'm with you.

It should be listed as Dr. and Mrs.

Those are the rules.
 
As you're family and it's nothing to do with his profession, I wouldn't use it either.

Then again, I simply don't care for using the title of Dr outside of business.


Sort of reminds me of when I worked in my state's vital records department. I had someone come in to get her husband's birth certificate. When we handed it to her, she got all upset because the title of Dr. wasn't on it. We had to explain to her that is just a title and not an actual part of his name. It took about a half hour of her complaining to the manager and being explained that we can't put titles on certificates before she finally left in a fit. Without the birth certificate. I guess he really didn't need a copy of it after all.
 
It was a snide comment he made when we pulled up to the barbecue that we all were invited to. He said, "Is that your car? Who would want a Cadillac"? and rolled his eyes. I answered, "Me". and left it at that. I would never comment negatively on anything that anyone owned. It was an odd, but not an atypical comment.
I think the poster was asking what this has to do with addressing someone by title.

I really hope so! I am very close to my brother,we probably talk on the phone 4 times a week, but I would never drop in on him without calling first and letting him know I am coming and is it a good time. I wouldn't enter his home without knocking or ringing the bell. I wouldn't invite him to my home without making him dinner. I wouldn't go to their home without bringing something, and I would never say anything that wasn't absolutely positive about his family.
Sounds like you have a pretty rigid relationship for siblings. That's the type of relationship I have with acquaintances, not siblings. My siblings and I are welcome in each other's homes any day, any time without calling and without bringing something. I would feel pretty lousy if my sister or brother didn't think they could show up at my house without bringing something for me.
 
As you're family and it's nothing to do with his profession, I wouldn't use it either.

Then again, I simply don't care for using the title of Dr outside of business.


Sort of reminds me of when I worked in my state's vital records department. I had someone come in to get her husband's birth certificate. When we handed it to her, she got all upset because the title of Dr. wasn't on it. We had to explain to her that is just a title and not an actual part of his name. It took about a half hour of her complaining to the manager and being explained that we can't put titles on certificates before she finally left in a fit. Without the birth certificate. I guess he really didn't need a copy of it after all.

Her rant makes no sense because he wasn't a "dr" when he was born. A birth certificate reflects who you are when you are born, not what you become. My birth certificate there fore does not have my current last name. It has the name I came into the world with.
 
I think the poster was asking what this has to do with addressing someone by title.

Sounds like you have a pretty rigid relationship for siblings. That's the type of relationship I have with acquaintances, not siblings. My siblings and I are welcome in each other's homes any day, any time without calling and without bringing something. I would feel pretty lousy if my sister or brother didn't think they could show up at my house without bringing something for me.

Her DH can be snide and cutting. He would not allow my inlaws to stay in their home several years ago when my FIL came up for surgery from Fl. because my MIL is "too heavy, loosened the handrail going up the stairs, and stresses their couch". I didn't know a couch could be "stressed" for a couple of days. They stayed with us and we gave them our bedroom.
No, I have a very close relationship with my brother, and DH is close to my brother. They have a lot in common. That said, we respect each other, their families and homes. It isn't just my brother's home, its his wife's also. The same when I go to my SIL's and DH's brother. If I want to drop in, I call from my cell and ask if its convenient. When people work 5 days a week, shuttle kids, take care of personal business, days off are valuable. There is nothing wrong with considering someone else's feelings. Of course I could show up at my brother's house without bringing something, but considering he lives two hours away, when we go, we stay for quite a while. There is nothing 'wrong' with showing appreciation by bringing a bottle of wine or a couple of 6 packs of beer.
 
Her rant makes no sense because he wasn't a "dr" when he was born. A birth certificate reflects who you are when you are born, not what you become. My birth certificate there fore does not have my current last name. It has the name I came into the world with.

Well evidently, the wife didn't think that the name her husband came into the world with was good enough.
 
I think the poster was asking what this has to do with addressing someone by title.

Sounds like you have a pretty rigid relationship for siblings. That's the type of relationship I have with acquaintances, not siblings. My siblings and I are welcome in each other's homes any day, any time without calling and without bringing something. I would feel pretty lousy if my sister or brother didn't think they could show up at my house without bringing something for me.

Yes that was what I was asking. I realize it was probably a snarky comment but I still don't understand what the comment or the cadillac have to do with the topic in question.

And I am exactly like you with my brother. Thank God I don't have to cook for him every time he comes over. Nor do we bring each other stuff any time one visits the other. Its not about the pageantry, its about the fellowship with kin.
 
And I am exactly like you with my brother. Thank God I don't have to cook for him every time he comes over. Nor do we bring each other stuff any time one visits the other. Its not about the pageantry, its about the fellowship with kin.

That's a beautiful and profound thought. :flower3:
 
Yes that was what I was asking. I realize it was probably a snarky comment but I still don't understand what the comment or the cadillac have to do with the topic in question.

And I am exactly like you with my brother. Thank God I don't have to cook for him every time he comes over. Nor do we bring each other stuff any time one visits the other. Its not about the pageantry, its about the fellowship with kin.

My brother had "Army work" near our home a couple of weeks ago. Since it would have taken him two hours to go home every night, he stayed with us for two weeks, during the week. You don't think it would be inconsiderate to not provide a meal for him? That is hardly about "pageantry", its about treating family members at least as good as you would treat a guest.

Would you think it was snarky if you pulled up in say, a Prius, or a VW and I said to you, "Is that your car, why would you want a Prius" and then I rolled my eyes.? I think that kind of figures into his attitude about how he does or does not treat people.
 
You go girl! If you want a Caddy, you've got what you want and that is AWESOME! Don't let a stick in the mud get to you, it's probably what he wants.

On the other subject, if my brother became a Dr., he would still be the younger bratty brother that I used to pick on, so I wouldn't call him Dr. Just something that I wouldn't feel comfy with. (He's the opposite of a Dr. - a diesel mechanic) I drop in on him, he drops in on me. Different strokes for different folks. :)
 
My brother had "Army work" near our home a couple of weeks ago. Since it would have taken him two hours to go home every night, he stayed with us. You don't think it would be inconsiderate to not provide a meal for him? That is hardly about "pageantry", its about treating family members at least as good as you would treat a guest.

OF COURSE it was nice to provide a meal for him good Lord! :rolleyes:

You made it seem as though every time a sibling walks in the door a meal must be prepared for them, gifts doled out. I simply stated that that is not how it works in my family. :wizard:
 
A couple of thoughts.

I would be thankful to be related to a doctor if my sibling wanted me to address them as Doctor. The reason I would be thankful is because I would surely need a medic to help me repair what I busted from laughing so hard at the request.:rotfl:
As for the Caddy comment, maybe since you are very concerned that they address your DH as Doctor you possibly come off as not so nice so that is why they made the comment and rolled their eyes? I don't know and I don't know you so I am not saying whether you are nice or not but from this question I wonder if you might come off as a bit high brow if you will.:confused3

Oh- and I don't make an appointment with my sibling to visit nor do I come bearing gifts everytime I see them. Of course I talk to my sibling every day.
 
As for the Caddy comment, maybe since you are very concerned that they address your DH as Doctor you possibly come off as not so nice so that is why they made the comment and rolled their eyes? I don't know and I don't know you so I am not saying whether you are nice or not but from this question I wonder if you might come off as a bit high brow if you will.:confused3

I didn't really get the impression that she was either "very concerned" or even a little concerned about it, just a wondering kind of question. And as far as the car comment, I think it does sound like he's kind of snide so I'm betting they leave the title off deliberately hoping to annoy you. Like they think you are on a high horse and they intend to knock you down a peg.

My DH's brother has a doctorate. Just for fun I just emailed my SIL asking if we had ever inadvertently offended them by not addressing Christmas cards as "Dr. and Mrs.".....I've often wondered if I should since he's certainly earned the title! But I've always erred on the side of informality since they are family and we are close. She just laughed at me and said it has never even been noticed (pretty much what I figured). She said no one uses his title except for occasionally her when she is making fun of him for having an advanced degree and can't find his keys, passport, etc. :rotfl:
 













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