? about teacher's comment to dd???

[Planogirl]

I had a few lousy teachers but I just dealt with it. My parents expected me to and only came to my rescue if the administration of the school was doing something wacky or if my grades were off. Otherwise, I was expected to handle things.

I don't get the mob mentality comments. Obviously, people feel how they feel and if someone doesn't want to hear opinions, they shouldn't ask for them. JMO.

 

[grlpwrd]

dd 11 left school on Monday with a sore throat and cold. she is a figure skater and at our rink Oksana Baiul was coming to promote the ice wars show, I went ahead and took her to the rink, she was the first in line for autograph and pic. a reporter from the paper saw she was the first in line and interviewed us........next day article in paper........yup....all about dd11 , etc. yesterday her school raked leaves in the neighborhood(it's a private Christian school) a teacher made a few comments to her while i was standing there.....oh you left school but meet Oksana......he said it a couple times I thought his comments were outa line if he had something to say he should have said something to me in private when other classmates weren't around. what do you think?????? should I talk to the principal? or wait and see how he treats her in his class? thanks for advice.

I was curious to know if there was any history of the OP with teachers (plus I can't move since baby fell asleep on me LOL) so I did a search...

On another post http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=10139356#post10139356 she mentions:

I have a dd who is in the 6th grade we moved when she was in 3rd grade...we thought was better school district. we have nothing but bad teachers, the principal who does not want to step on any one's toes so he does nothing, a certain group of mothers who run the pta-their kids always get picked for special things,best teachers, got caught cheating they still sat with the person they cheated with and kept honor roll status, we tried for 3 years to make it work and this year put her in a private Christian school, the work is harder, but the kids are much more accepting of each other. she isn't angry when she gets home at night. I hope you can get to the bottom of this and I would contact some one in the superintentants office just so there aware of what's going on. :grouphug hoping for better days for your son.

I think even if the teacher did what he did your dd is thriving where she is. Not all teachers are the same and that in this case they must be doing something right. I would just let it go and I think that is what you did...

Edited.... I also had read more and I think the reporter may have exaggerated the writing a bit so the teacher's interpretation might have been askew. Education and integrity are important to me so I just have to say that with all the extra reading I did today I must say... I think there were a lot of assumptions made, not just here, but by the teacher, too.

I am really disheartened to see this thread morph into teacher-bashing...

 

[cardaway]

Unless things are different in other areas, you are assigned a school based on where you live, and your child is assigned a teacher. Making a change is almost impossible to do.

Under those circumstances of course there is going to be problems. It's not like you get to choose your child's teacher.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

ETA - never had a "toxic" teacher.

My high school son had a terrible Spanish teacher last year (my DD had had her a couple years before). Maybe not toxic, but worthless--a totally ditzy idiot. In my DD's class she would hint that she was hung over some days. Even that couldn't be proved and thankfully I don't think she there this year, but my kids did complain to their counselor and I think she was observed by the school.

And I do know some people who complain about everything. If we want to have only one personality of teacher for our children we should home school.
What happens when the kids go to college? Should I call a prof of my DD's to complain? I don't think so.

 

[MrsPete]

I have to agree with the teacher. If you're too sick to go to school, you're also too sick to attend other events.

 

[MrsPete]

Expecting accountability is not kind or compassionate!? So, when a kid is faililng b/c they're not turning in homework, I should ignore it, let them fail and not "poke my nose into family business"? If they come to school smelling of vodka or have bruises on their arms, I should ignore it? If I see them buying drugs on the school playground after school, I should ignore it? B/c, after all, that's not related to school and I shouldn't poke my nose into their family business, right?!

I should not care about things that happen to my students (good, bad or otherwise) that occur after school hours? Please ... I care about my students -- in and out of school.

You'd be amazed at the things teachers run into sometimes. Once a girl in my 9th grade class announced -- to the whole class, very loudly, desiring everyone to hear her -- that she was going to a local amusement park that night, and she was going to ride every roller coaster as drunk as she could be. She made a really big deal of it and laughed at me when I pulled her aside and told her that 1) this was both stupid and illegal, and 2) even if she was doing these things, she would NOT be broadcasting it in my classroom.

This was at the end of the day, so I headed straight for the phone and called her grandmother (legal guardian). As a parent, I would want to know if my child said something like this. Instead, I got a heaping helping of "mind your own business". The grandmother said she was perfectly aware of her granddaughter's plans, and in fact she saw nothing wrong with them -- after all, she's too young to drive!

Something about the apple not falling from the tree came to mind.

The next year that same student called her biology teacher (apparently the teacher with whom she had the best relationship) from the delivery room. She was crying and surprised that having a baby is painful. She begged her biology teacher to come to the hospital to stay with her during the delivery.

This child, of course, was not typical, but teachers ARE dealing with this type of student.

 

[leighe]

This was at the end of the day, so I headed straight for the phone and called her grandmother (legal guardian). As a parent, I would want to know if my child said something like this. Instead, I got a heaping helping of "mind your own business". The grandmother said she was perfectly aware of her granddaughter's plans, and in fact she saw nothing wrong with them -- after all, she's too young to drive!

I've had almost the exact same thing happen to me. I had a girl announce to the class that when her mom thought she was in an ACT prep class after school she was really going to her boyfriend's house to "get f'd (she used the real word) up." I called her parents and got an earful.

 

[Skylarr29]

I can't even believe I am reading this!!! This is just warped....

Teachers only have rights to have rules in place, in their classroom.

This whole, 'Teachers are Gods' thing just doesn't fly with me.


Again, if my child wants to wear a particular shirt outside of school, then that is OUR business. My childs teacher has no right to enforce any dress code outside of a school setting.

What happens once my child leaves school grounds is MY business. I am the parent.

I agree.. this is what I was trying to get across earlier...not that teachers should not have any rules or authority while kids are in school.. they just should not be abpe to decide what you do with your child while they are not at school.

 

[Skylarr29]

Scary.

I hope you homeschool!

Well I dont have children yet but I do plan on it. I think it is the parents responsibility for raising a chid... not a teachers.I wasnt trying to imply that I will not or do not respect teachers and rules... outside of school is outside of school.

Oh and if my child is in public or private school I will be pulling them out of school for vacations to DIsney

 

[Sunny37]

Again, if my child wants to wear a particular shirt outside of school, then that is OUR business. My childs teacher has no right to enforce any dress code outside of a school setting.

Just curious, have you ever had a teacher try to enforce a dress code on your child outside of a school setting? Examples like this are way too misleading and reek of propaganda. Why would a teacher care what your child wears while not at school?

 

[CheshireVal]

Just curious, have you ever had a teacher try to enforce a dress code on your child outside of a school setting? Examples like this are way too misleading and reek of propaganda. Why would a teacher care what your child wears while not at school?

I agree. That premise is ridiculous. Teachers do have their own lives outside of work, you know.

When I go to the movies on Fri or Sat nights (which I've stopped doing lately), I see TONS of the kids from my school.... a lot of my students. I'm appalled by some of the things these 8th grade girls are wearing, but if I happen to catch their eye, I just smile and wave and go on with my night.

 

[Daxx]

I think it is the parents responsibility for raising a chid... not a teachers.

I thought it took a village to raise a child?

 

[Toby'sFriend]

are you kidding?


Have you SEEN some of the people in my village? I wouldn't let them raise my hamster.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Toby's friend, you are cracking me up!!!!

ITA!!!!

NOBODY, no village, not even a teacher, knows my child and cares about my child more than me....

Want to know about how a VILLAGE cares for a child...
Just ask most of the kids lost in the Foster Care system!!!
These kids need parents, not a 'village'.

 

[Daxx]

are you kidding?


Have you SEEN some of the people in my village? I wouldn't let them raise my hamster.

Hey -- I'm only quoting my Senator, Hillary Clinton. Don't even get me started on that one.

I have some family members who I wouldn't want to raise my hamster, yet they're allowed to have kids of their own. Go figure!!!!

 

[Missy1961]

Hey -- I'm only quoting my Senator, Hillary Clinton. Don't even get me started on that one.

I have some family members who I wouldn't want to raise my hamster, yet they're allowed to have kids of their own. Go figure!!!!

I laughed when I saw your comment--she's my Senator too!

 

[Daxx]

Want to know about how a VILLAGE cares for a child...
Just ask most of the kids lost in the Foster Care system!!!
These kids need parents, not a 'village'.

Oh, yes ... it's sooooo freaking easy to get a kid out of Foster Care. Why don't you go talk to all the parents adopting from overseas and tell them to adopt a foster kid instead? Why don't you tell all those who want babies to suck it up and adopt an older child? Many parents who put their kids into foster care won't terminate their rights to allow foster children to be adopted.

Yes, I agree -- these kids need parents -- so where are the families to step up and adopt them? I have an adopted child who was this close to going into foster care. We tried to adopt another out of foster care but it fell through. Don't even go there w/me. I have an adopted child -- out of choice. I could have gone through invitro, etc. but chose to adopt instead.

BTW - you're part of the village -- what are you doing about it? At least we made an attempt, fostered a child with hopes of adopting him. When the adoption fell through, after a lot of money was drained from our bank account, we decided that was our sign not to pursue it further. We tried. Have you?

 

[CajunDixie]

I would let it go. I actually don't think he was out of line. I actually agree with him, in a way. So, she was sick and couldn't stay in school, but was able to stand in line, in cool fall weather for an autograph? I'm a teacher, and this would make me shake my head.

But the OP is talking about a one time, possibly even once in a lifetime, type event. It's not like the OP said ohhhh SusieQ lets lie and get you out of school today so we can go to the mall and hit the sales. Meeting an internationally known athlete is not an every day occurence. I wonder if the teacher would have said the same thing had the student been meeting the President.

When my sons were in elementary school one mentioned he wished he had the opportunity to see the Olympic flame in person. The next morning we were on our way to see it. I called the school to let them know exactly what we were doing and they could mark it excused or not we were going. Both boys were excused. School is not the only educational tool for children. My children became a part of the history of the Olympics that year. They were even shown on the news because they were asked to be "flag angels"

 

[disneyjunkie]

Oh, yes ... it's sooooo freaking easy to get a kid out of Foster Care. Why don't you go talk to all the parents adopting from overseas and tell them to adopt a foster kid instead? Why don't you tell all those who want babies to suck it up and adopt an older child? Many parents who put their kids into foster care won't terminate their rights to allow foster children to be adopted.

Yes, I agree -- these kids need parents -- so where are the families to step up and adopt them? I have an adopted child who was this close to going into foster care. We tried to adopt another out of foster care but it fell through. Don't even go there w/me. I have an adopted child -- out of choice. I could have gone through invitro, etc. but chose to adopt instead.

BTW - you're part of the village -- what are you doing about it? At least we made an attempt, fostered a child with hopes of adopting him. When the adoption fell through, after a lot of money was drained from our bank account, we decided that was our sign not to pursue it further. We tried. Have you?

 

[Daxx]

I wonder if the teacher would have said the same thing had the student been meeting the President.

Let's see ... meeting the leader of our country or meeting an olympic skater .... hmmmm ... I'm thinking there's a bit of a difference there.