A question for single gals...

[isyne4u]

Do you let people set you up with people they know? I need some opinions:

I am 35 yo, mom to two boys and it has been years since I dated....a friend of my mom whose husband knows me came up to me the other night at bowling and told me that he had a friend at work that he thought might be good for me.

I wasn't sure what to say so I figured I had three choices A) a smart aleck reply, B) a serious yes, or C) a HECK no. Well, being the dork i am I chose option A. This is the conversation:

Me: Is he single, rich, and straight?
Dan: Well, I know he is single and as far as I know he is straight. And he gets a retirement check.
Me: ACK! A social security check?
Dan: No military retirement. He's early 40's.
Me: How many times has he been married?
Dan: Once and has a 17 year old son.
Me: uh, oh, ummmmmmmm
My girlfriend: Does he have hair?
Dan: Yes lots of it. so if you are interested let me know.
My girlfriend: OH YES SHE IS INTERESTED!!!!!!
My DSIL: I'll give you her number if you need it!!

So that's where we left it. I did find out tongiht that he doesn't smoke which is good. But I don't know if I should tell Dan that sure I'd like to meet him or if I should forget it. How well do these things work out? I'm not looking for a husband by any stretch of the imagination!!!!

TIA,
tara

 

[Shugardrawers]

What harm could meeting for coffee do? Maybe you'll really like him. Maybe you'll gain just a good friend or maybe he's the man of your dreams. Or maybe you'll have a "my worst blind date" story. I can't think of a single reason why not.

ETA: When I was single I let my friends set me up all the time. I met some really sweet guys that way and a couple of nut jobs.

 

[hiwaygal]

Well, I rarely let my friends set me up...it just didn't work out well for me, but I still think it's a good idea for everybody else!

What's the worse thing that could happen? He's a shmuck and you can come back here tell us all how horrible it was...we'll have lots of laughs!

My only advice, if you meet him without your friends, go to a public place...Starbucks is a great place to meet someone!

Go...and HAVE FUN!!!

 

[isyne4u]

thanks girls. Its the nut jobs i'm worried about. Not to mention that I haven't dated since I was with my oldest DS's dad....DS is 6 so I'm really rusty at a lot of things!! (oh if you are wondering youngest DS's pop was ordered from a catalog...so he's a ..are you ready??...he's a "pop"sicle!!!! okay I think its funny even if no one else does!! )

I'll give it some thought and see if I can get up the nerve! Thanks!!

tara

 

[Stacerita]

I say go for it. What do you have to lose? You might have fun, you never know.

 

[clh2]

I got stuck going on a blind date over 17 years ago. That guy and I have been married for over 16 years now. And no - I wasn't looking for anything. I just sort of got roped in to going.

 

[Cool-Beans]

Not single, but voting, "Go!" What can it hurt? Free dinner!

Go and have some fun.

 

[poohandwendy]

I guess the question is...are you interested in dating? If so, I would go for it and give the guy a chance. You just never know. I know many people could tell you they met the love of their life that way.

 

[love8me]

there's no harm in meeting someone new. maybe you'll get to be close friends, you'll never know. i once went to a blind date and it gained me a new friend. we hang out and meet sometimes. it got me a bigger circle of friends

 

[Fionasmommy]

Sure, give it a try! I usually trust good friends more than acquaintances, just because a good friend knows your likes/dislikes. But what have you got to lose by meeting him?

Any hey, feel free to toss him my way if he's not your type!

 

[isyne4u]

Thanks for all the responses.

To answer the question of do I want to date....I think I'm too much of a chicken. People have tried to get me to do the online thing and I don't want to do that and I always have an excuse why I can't. So maybe it's nerves

A free dinner is what my girlfriend told me to go for! ehhehehe

Now do I call Dan back and say, "hey now that I've asked 100,000 of my closest friends what I should do, sure give him my number!" Somehow I don't think he would pass on the number!! hehehe

okay, I'll do it....next thursday when i see dan at bowling!!

thanks ya'll!!

tara

 

[Pop Daddy]

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[Shugardrawers]

I'd reserve the online dating thing for a time when you are really interested in dating. I met Dh that way and it's a great resource but it's a lot of work meeting and getting to know people and it can be risky if you aren't really careful and most want a fee. Why invest that sort of time and energy and money if you aren't really looking.

I'm so glad you volunteered the "popsicle's" info I caught that and was wondering if it was too tacky to ask about it. I think that's great, why wait for life to happen? Take it by the horns.

Good luck! If you want, I'll call you during your date to tell you something came up if you need a quick out

 

[Maleficent13]

Good luck! If you want, I'll call you during your date to tell you something came up if you need a quick out

"Quick! There's been a DIS board emergency! You're needed at the thread *Do you wash your underwear* ASAP!"

 

[lindakmonty]

I'm not single anymore...but from the conversation it sounds like this guy could be a great guy and you should give it a chance My dh just retired from the military this month he just turned 45 last week... him coming into my life has been the most wonderful thing in the world for my ds and I !!! Give it a shot...if nothing more... you could become great friends?

 

[belle&beast]

I'm not single, but your thread title caught my eye. My parents met on a blind date set up by mutual friends and they have been happily married for 34 years. My cousin set me up on a blind date with a guy who I NEVER would have chosen- he wasn't right for me "on paper". KWIM? My mom gave me the advice not to turn it down, so I went. Guess what, 6 months later we were engaged and married a year from then. We have been married for 6 and a half years and have 2 wonderful (at least today they are wonderful) children! You never know what you might be missing and sometimes people you trust can see what you can't. Good luck!

 

[isyne4u]

A dis board emergency!! I like that!!

I hear tales of people meeting like this...in fact that's how my parents met...dated, married, he cheated 4 times, and they divorced so I might be just a tad leary!!

My mom told me to go for it to.

I'll get a couple of you to keep on speed dial and then text a 911 if I need help!!

tara

 

[poohandwendy]

LOL, good luck with it. Try not to go into it leery, he has no bad history with you and cannot be compared to anyone else. Let him have a clean slate with you, if you will, and he may prove to be a valued friend or even more. You just never know!

 

[Missamoncus]

I , too , met my husband when we were 'set up' by friends who thought we would really get along. Nine years later I can say, boy were they right! You sound like you are really at the stage where I was when I met DH. Happy with my life , not so much looking for someone and maybe a little nervous about the whole dating again thing. I would tell your friends that you would be happy to meet him, but please make it as low pressure as possible. Make it a group thing and include your friends who are doing the introducing . Oh, and tell them not to stare at you and Mr. Fabulous all night in anticipation of the wedding announcement. The friends who set my husband and I up did it in the guise of inviting a few friends for barbeque . They introduced me and Steve and proceeded to stare at us the first half of the evening . The second half of the evening became the great migrating party ,so called because everytime Steve and I would go outside, everybody would go inside. If Steve and I went inside, everybody would go out. Steve and I spent the last half of the evening wondering where everybody was. .

Melissa

 

[helenabear]

Obviously I am not single, but I say go for it!

I would just agree to meet in a public place and not give out your number until you are really ready to (yeah I am so not trusting!)

I'd be happy to call part way through the date...you then can decide if he is nice enough or if your sister in Ohio needs your help :rotfl