A question for single gals...

[epcotfan]

Don't let your family or friends pressure you into going out with this person if you really don't want to. I can totally understand not being ready. No point in wasting your time and his if you really aren't into dating yet. I never feel obliged to go out with someone just because a friend knows someone else that is single. I hate when people think just because you are single it is a necessary to date.

 

[dizneenut]

I'm not single, but I say go for it. .

And you can keep me on speed dial, in case you need a quick getaway!!

 

[Disney Doll]

I'd say give it a shot. Meet for lunch or coffee...less pressure than a nighttime date, and can be shortened if there is no "love connection". He may turn out to be a jerk or he may turn out to be nice or he may turn out to be nice but not right for you but has a friend who is right for you....there are a lot of possible scenarios.

DH & I were set up by a co-worker of mine 18 years ago. Just a casual get-together at her house, he was nice and funny, I guess he thought the same of me. Our next date was lunch about a week later, then a couple of dates the next weekend, and the rest is history.

We'll be married 15 years this year, so I'd say it worked out OK.

 

[Shugardrawers]

Don't let your family or friends pressure you into going out with this person if you really don't want to. I can totally understand not being ready. No point in wasting your time and his if you really aren't into dating yet. I never feel obliged to go out with someone just because a friend knows someone else that is single. I hate when people think just because you are single it is a necessary to date.

Oh I don't think anyone is trying to pressure her into going out with anyone she doesn't want to. We're just trying to get her some . Besides, it'll give her a good reason to wear something other than those mom jeans

 

[isyne4u]

Oh I don't think anyone is trying to pressure her into going out with anyone she doesn't want to. We're just trying to get her some . Besides, it'll give her a good reason to wear something other than those mom jeans

oh I meant to update the mom jean thread...went looking for jeans and found my thighs were WAY too big for the jeans I found!! hehehe Size 10 and the pants were too tight.

And the friend isn't pressuring me...I'm just trying to decide if I want to do it or if it is a good idea.

I think I will have about 10 disers on speed dial. I'll have everyone notified the day and time and then watch as my cell phone rings 25 times!!

Someone asked me to figure out why I'm shy about dating...I never really dated in high school and only a bit in college and then when I was twentysomething it was the same. Then i had kids and well..they kinda put a damp in the dating scene. hehehehe! Maybe if I stayed off the dis i would have more time for it!!

tara

 

[joshsmom]

I'm single but no one offers to set me up. Hmmmm, what's wrong there?? Anyway, I'll tell you what I tell my 10 year old about trying something new: honey, try it once. If you don't like it, you never have to do it again!!!

 

[Disney Doll]

You could cyber-date Pop Daddy.

He's a sexy guy!!!!

 

[Briarmom]

Go! He might be hot.

-horndoggie

 

[MUFFYCAT]

Another who votes you should go for it!

as previouly mentioned meeting at a coffee shop doesn't force you to stay if it doesn't work out. have some coffee then say you have to leave.


good luck and have fun!

 

[sweet angel]

You have nothing to lose, really. My neighbor recently asked me if I wanted to meet someone. I told her no, and she looked really hurt. I'd rather just be invited to a barbeque or something with the other person there -- if we hit it off, we hit it off. If not, no pressure. I hate having to pretend to be interested!

 

[L107ANGEL]

I , too , met my husband when we were 'set up' by friends who thought we would really get along. Nine years later I can say, boy were they right! You sound like you are really at the stage where I was when I met DH. Happy with my life , not so much looking for someone and maybe a little nervous about the whole dating again thing. I would tell your friends that you would be happy to meet him, but please make it as low pressure as possible. Make it a group thing and include your friends who are doing the introducing . Oh, and tell them not to stare at you and Mr. Fabulous all night in anticipation of the wedding announcement. The friends who set my husband and I up did it in the guise of inviting a few friends for barbeque . They introduced me and Steve and proceeded to stare at us the first half of the evening . The second half of the evening became the great migrating party ,so called because everytime Steve and I would go outside, everybody would go inside. If Steve and I went inside, everybody would go out. Steve and I spent the last half of the evening wondering where everybody was. .

Melissa

That must have been the MOST uncomfortable situation!!!



Tara go for it!! We all know you are sweet and witty, let possbile hot guy see it

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I don't know why I'm giving advice, since I'm not single and am getting ready to celebrate my 24 year anniversary , but here goes anyway. First, I would clarify what is meant by the lots of hair! Then, I wouldn't meet at a coffee place--coffee is too cheap...go for dinner. Nothing real expensive. You don't want to look greedy, but you might as well get a meal out of it.

OK, so we still need to work on the mom jean thing. You can put me on speed dial. What else do we need to cover?

 

[Shugardrawers]

I don't know why I'm giving advice, since I'm not single and am getting ready to celebrate my 24 year anniversary , but here goes anyway. First, I would clarify what is meant by the lots of hair! Then, I wouldn't meet at a coffee place--coffee is too cheap...go for dinner. Nothing real expensive. You don't want to look greedy, but you might as well get a meal out of it.

OK, so we still need to work on the mom jean thing. You can put me on speed dial. What else do we need to cover?

Curfews. 11pm on a weekend. 9:30 on a school night. Boys don't respect you if you kiss them on the first date. If he gets to 2nd base you aren't likely to get a 2nd date. And make sure you always sit at least a dollar bills length apart. Smile, laugh, make him feel smart and important. If you play scrabble, let him win. Ask him lots of questions, let him talk about himself all night. Men like that crap. Oh, and don't forget to carry a condom.

 

[isyne4u]

Curfews. 11pm on a weekend. 9:30 on a school night. Boys don't respect you if you kiss them on the first date. If he gets to 2nd base you aren't likely to get a 2nd date. And make sure you always sit at least a dollar bills length apart. Smile, laugh, make him feel smart and important. If you play scrabble, let him win. Ask him lots of questions, let him talk about himself all night. Men like that crap. Oh, and don't forget to carry a condom.

What do I need a Condo for? I have a perfectly good split level single family home!!

um..okay what am I going to need the condom for if i'm not allowed to get to second base?


Tig...I need you to come down here and take me shopping! I need jeans and something that doesn't look like the spinster old school teacher!!

 

[Shugardrawers]

What do I need a Condo for? I have a perfectly good split level single family home!!

um..okay what am I going to need the condom for if i'm not allowed to get to second base?

Tig...I need you to come down here and take me shopping! I need jeans and something that doesn't look like the spinster old school teacher!!

Because you have 2 little boys. Obviously you've never followed the 2nd base/2nd date rule before!

 

[Briarmom]

Because you have 2 little boys. Obviously you've never followed the 2nd base/2nd date rule before!

OMG!!

I will help you with clothes if you want. I live for that sort of thing.
You must have a condom with you. It is important.
Go as far as you want. I need a good story.

-horndoggie

 

[poohandwendy]

OMG, this thread has me ROfLMAO!

Definitely have as much fun as you want, we love hearing all of the bad girl details...

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Will you two stop it??? I almost started laughing when my DH was walking by! Do you have any idea how I do not want to explain this thread to him? Not that he wouldn't think it's funny, but still. Be good, we're going out for ice cream. And if you can't be good, be smart. And always used condiments!

 

[isyne4u]

Thanks for the encouragement....to be good or bad!!

joshsmom...I like that advice!

disneydoll....i think there are too many people out there for pop daddy...i don't want to get in anyone's way!

briarmom...he might be hot...but what do i do if lots of hair means he looks like a neanderthal?? And please feel free to come help me with my wardrobe....just check out the mom jeans thread and you'll see what I mean!

sweet angel...i'm not good at pretending so I'm with you on that one!

Angel....aww shucks...thanks!

Tig...with this group I'm a little afraid of what's left to cover after Shug went through all of her rules!! So non mom jeans...do they sit "at the waist" or only below the waist? So you don't want to have to explain to your hubbby why you are giving advice to a single girl trying to get a date??

Shug...remember one was from a date (hey we'd been together about 8 months when the oops happened!) and the other was frozen and not much of a date...although the conversation with the Nurse Practioner was very good....probably better than the last time I got pregnant!! (I am sooo going to hell now!)


Poohandwendy..I'll be sure to come back and report all the gory details...well as much as you can on the Dis!!

Can ya'll tell my kids are finally in bed?? I have time to post with out doing them in hit and run style! hehhehe

Now watch what'll happen...i'll tell Dan..sure hook me up and he'll come back and tell me the guy deicded he was gay over the weekend and now I'm not his type!!

tara

 

[sweet angel]

I disagree with the make him feel smart, let him win crap. If he's dumber than a box of rocks, why lie? If you're winning, why throw the game?

Be yourself -- if he doesn't like it that's his problem. There will be others who will love you for you.