Nothing says "cares about the patient" like threatening to drop a patient over a 4 week postponement of a weight check for a child not even "overweight" per posted guidelines. It also recommends annual weight checks and leaves room for doctor discretion on encouraging healthy behaviors. Absent were guideline that mandated frequent weight checks and drop patient for non-compliance.
Perhaps OP is leaving things out, perhaps not. We can only go by the one provided measurement. Alone--it does not look like a caring doctor so much as a judgmental doctor. "Mom--you are overweight. I do not trust you." Anyway--that is what I infer from what little is provided. As an adult, none off my metrics were out of line until recently with a Vitamin D deficiency. There was a stress related BP issue that seems to have resolved. So even though my weight was higher than it should be--nothing on my blood tests signaled concern. I would hope that if there was any concern that the doctor would have spoken up. But telling mom that "everything is normal" and provided no details is his problem for not disclosing concern if he indeed had those concerns. Those concerns were not even mentioned during the threat to drop exchanged. It would seem that if the blood results on any any way showed a red flag--that would have been worth mentioning.
Personally--I think this may mostly be a controlling receptionist issue.
First of all, you cannot determine if the child is obese or not without the height and the OP has conveniently left out that information, even though it has been asked.
Secondly, the OP has never said yet that the Doc did not discuss why the appointment is necessary. She has only said that she just
knows it is a waste of time because she thinks he wants money. Which for a pediatrician in December, unless he is brand new and has a very small practice, will have a waiting line to fill that spot, so he is going to get his money no matter what.
Also, she never originally said the doctor said the child was healthy. She said the initial blood tests came back normal. That does not mean that everything is ok.
And what a stretch to say the doctor is thinking the Mom is obese, so can't take care of the child.
Personally, I am going to side with a doctor, who has spent years and years learning his trade, that if he thinks there is a concern, there just may be a concern.
As a mom, I would certainly want to be safe rather than sorry a few years down the road when something that might have been easily preventable becomes something much harder to take care of.
If it turns out to be nothing, all I am out is the co-pay and I have peace of mind.
I tend to agree with the others that say that she agreed to the appointment when she was with the doctor.
She has admitted that the child has put on weight again.
So, as others have pointed out, I think this is more an embarrassment issue and wants to fix it by the 5 year appointment. Which is understandable. Nobody wants to look bad.
And as I mentioned before, I don't think that this single issue was the reason to ask her to leave the practice. Most docs won't excuse people from their practices for a single issue. They have to be really frustrated with the parent to ask them to leave.