A Marital question

[Hillbeans]

Has anyone here gone through the stage of their marriage where they feel more like parents to the kids and buddies rather than romantic partners??

My DH and I have been so busy with work, life, family issues, etc., that it seems this way lately. Has anyone else gone through this and what have you done to rekindle that spark??

 

[onecoolmama]

I think every marriage goes thorugh this. I would do a weekend getaway or a night out just the two of you! Maybe send the kids away for a weekend.


This is when a "marriage" takes work. Really tough. If nothing else...if you both work..take a long lunch break go get him and take him to a hotel room!

Good Luck..I have been there!


(There have even been times when he wasnt even my buddy!)

 

[monkeyboy]

Not Off Topic but it reminded me of last nights Simpson's

Homer and Marge trying to get away...kids kept tracking them down.

All they wanted was some "Couples Time"



So take a long weekend away...and enjoy

 

[grinningghost]

Yes, right now. Our lives have been super crazy in the last few weeks. We're like ships passing in the night or at best, roommates.

 

[onecoolmama]

Get some massage oils! Then go away!

You can order them online and just make sure you get the mail first. While you are away..suprise him.

 

[CyranoJones]

We sent our DD off to college, lol. Prior to that we made it a priority to have "us" time, a weekend or longer away, a nice dinner out, that kind of thing. I figure that you start out as a couple and you're going to end up as a couple so you'd better keep that partner relationship going strong.

 

[Desnik]

I can totally relate to what you are talking about. We have 2 kids, DH works and has a business. Last week we saw eachother maybe for 5 hours!! We are very close and this has been killing us. So, what we are doing, since his birthday is on the 26th, we are going away together. Just for 2 nights to a romantic B&B in Cape May. My mom will stay here with the kids so I won't be too worried leaving them
We really need it and I think it is so important to keep the romance alive and try not to get too caught up in all the day to day craziness. It is hard but worth it.

 

[Tinkerbelle739]

Hillbeans, this just occurred to me within the last 6 months. We have been married 15 years and have 2 kids, 4yr old and 6 yr old. We are still very much in love but have lost that "connection". I planned a trip to WDW for DHs birthday. We didnt make that trip, but we ended up staying at the Jersey Shore for 3 nights without the kids. (I see you are in NJ, I recommend the Engleside Inn-Ocean View w/Whirlpool tub on Long Beach Island) That was the 3rd week in May. Since that we have had the sitter come over so that we could have a "Dinner and a Movie" night. It was nice to hold hands and talk about our lives without interruption!! I plan to continue doing that at least once a month.

Hope you find that "spark" again!! We did!!

Wishing everyone a "magical" day!!

 

[RNMOM]

YES. Many times over the 25 years we have been together. DH went back to school just after we married and we saw little of each other for several years due to my odd shift, his school and part time job. We still wonder how I got pregnant with DS#1.

I think the best thing we began doing was to try to go out about once a week alone. Pay the sitter and go to Panera for an easy meal and a quick movie. Try not to talk about the kids, finances, housework. Talk about your goals, dreams, vacations. It helps to know both of you want similar things.

Good luck, relax and enjoy your family.