A life God rewards? (Possible debate...please be nice)

[bjgrazi]

There's nothing more I can add, that hasn't already been said.

Except I've been down some pretty dark roads lately and what got me through was knowing God was walking right besides me, guiding me. I've learned to be quiet and listen. I've given up the anger and hate and judgements. I now live my life for me, but I understand fully that I'm attached to everyone around me.

Hugs for you and you're in my prayers.

 

[WDWHound]

I agree with everything that has been said here, but I would like to add one more thing. I know that things have been very challenging for you recently, but think of the gift your strength in getting through this has brought to your daughter. You are there for her when she needs someone strong and loving in her life. Recently, it sounds like this has meant many sacrifices by you. God teaches us that there is no greater gift we can give than to sacrifice for another. That is the true nature of love. Your child is blessed to have someone like you for a Mom who keeps doing the very best she can for her daughter, even when you don't feel all that strong.

Be assured, God has never left your side. He is there, helping you to stand even though you may not feel it. He is there, knowing he needed someone who would be willing to stand with this little girl during the a tough time and knowing that you have answered this call. He is there, walking with you through the night, helping you to be strong until the sun shines again.

 

[snels]

Hi,
There have been so many inspiring thoughts here for Steph. I can't think of anything else to add.
God bless you all!
Sandy

 

[DukeStreetKing]

Stepharoonie, if everything in your life were easy, you would have nothing to compare it with. The good times wouldn't be as good without having the bad times to offset them and vice versa.

When I got divorced and moved out of the house my wife and I had built together, I thought my life was over. I was also newly unemployed and stayed that way for over 7 months. I ran through all of my savings and was just about at my wit's end.

Just when I thought I couldn't take anymore, a new job came through paying more than I have ever made and I met a wonderful girl who makes me very happy.

You have your health and you have your daughter. You also work at a place that makes you happy. You seem pretty well off to me. Don't let the material things get you down, they don't last very long anyway.

Have you ever heard of the Prayer of Jabez? Do a search on the Web and check it out. It is very simplistic but I guarantee you it works.

Keep the faith and things will go your way.

 

[montessori]

I guess it's safe to assume that Stepharoonie! is feeling better.
She is merrily posting on much happier and more trivial threads than the one she started here.

Maybe it's just me, but I don't understand someone writing such a desperate sounding post, asking for the answers to questions that can't really be answered, and then ignoring all the people who tried to help her in her "time of need".

What's up with that?

 

[AuroraluvsPhillip]

Hey Princess Maddie!

Go give Mommy a hug from me, ok?

 

[Trish5768]

Hang in there Steph! Sending lots of 's your way. I'm sure in time things will pick up for you. I find that when I'm really down and thinking that God has forgotten me that the poem "Footprints In The Sand" gives me great comfort. Take Care!

Trish

PS. I really wish I had your job!

 

[Kallison]

God gave us free will to make choices, he doesn't control us from heaven like a giant chess match. The choices we make are what brings us where we are in life. Try not to be envious of your friends, you have a beautiful daughter that you brought into this world. You are a good Mom. There will always be people with more than you and people with less than you. If you are patient I bet you will get everything you desire some day.

 

[Betsyt82]

Steph, A whole bunch of very good people have written to you and love you. The only thing I want to say is that if you start to focus on what you have, who you are and the best things in your life. The rest will become not so in focus. It is so easy to just tumble down that hateful and destructive side of life(got the scars to prove it too) but once I decide to focus on the good things God has given me and start to reach out to others in putting them first(very corny I know) I start to feel better about myself and it seems like my life starts to fall into a better pattern.

I have the old jelousy for what others have and cannot really see what they don't have.
Count your blessings and know that God meets you where ever you are and loves you and it is in Him we can always find hope.

 

[HollyJoy]

Steph,

I'm so sorry that you are going through such a rough patch in your life right now. Sending you lots of hugs. I don't have all the answers for you, but I can only tell you what I believe. I was raised Christian, and I do believe that we are here for our souls to learn. We don't know what it is that we are to learn, but I do believe that God has a plan for us all. I also believe that he never gives us anything that we can't handle; as long as we have our faith. I don't know why some people seem to have it so much easier than others; why some are "rewarded" with nice big houses, expensive cars, toys, etc..., but I can tell you that while those the toys are nice, they don't equal happiness. I live in the older neighborhood in my area... (homes are 30 + years old), and there are $600,000 homes across the street. The NICEST people and most down to earth, are the ones here in my neck of the woods. I know many of the people in the expensive homes, and many of them are up to their ears in debt, they don't see thier spouses very often due to the horrible work schedules... so in that, I realize that maybe the grass really isn't always greener on the other side. I have come to really appreciate what I do have, and not to focus on what I don't. I have found that so much more rewarding than owning a new car or taking an expensive vacation.
I pray that you will find this same happiness and strength to get through it all. Many hugs to you!

 

[Poohs Pal]

Stepharoonie! My heart goes out to you. I'll tell you my story and how i got through it. Back in 1991 my mom had a heart attack and no one expected her to make it through the night. She did, the doctor said she may have suffered brain damage-she didn't. She used to pretty much keep to herself, today she goes out with friends and is a much stronger person. Then in December of 1991 my father was diagnosed with prostrate cancer, it was very advanced and he had no insurance. He was told he had less then a year, to prepare himself for death. He instead went back to work and continue to live his life the same as always. He lived without any form of treatment for 8 more years. Only the last couple of months slowed him down. He worked up the day he entered the hospital for the last time. In september of 1992 my DD(21 at the time) and DS(13 at the time) were in an auto accident. DD was physically ok, DS suffered severe brain damage and was in intensive care for almost 5 months. DS is blind, in a wheelchair and severly brain injured. At this point i was just in denial. After leaving the first hospital he was sent to a second hospital to see if he needed a shunt. I was trying to be very brag but we had a long haul ahead of us as he still needed to go for rehabilitation. Knowing by this time he was going to be very bad off the rest of his life. At this point the second hospital gave me a poem someone had written for a head injury group. I no longer have it as it has been passed from person to person. But it went something like this. There was a young women who had saved for many years to go to Paris. She saved and saved and when it was time to go see could only afford a trip to Holland. She begruginly bought a ticket to Holland. When she arrived she never noticed the beautifull tulips, the marvelous windmills or the friendly people. She was to busy feeling bad that she didn't get to go to Paris that she didn't notice the beauty around her. The poem was much more but i don't remember.Sometime we get so caught up worry about what we don't have that we don't see the beauty around us. But i was able to see that life was now going in a different direction than I'd had planned for my son. That there wasn't anything I could do. it was out of my hands or was it. At this point I made of my mind that I would do everthing possible to bring him back as far as possible. He now eats, laughs, talks some. Still has his wonderfull sense of humor. So steffie I know it seems difficult now but hang in there, we can be tuffer than snot when we need to. There will be many people on this board who will send hugs and lots of love. What others may have in material means don't always make a happy person.. Just remember that Holland is as beautiful as Paris. You sound like a very good person. Love yourself and know some day things WILL work out for you. Susan

 

[Sammie]

Originally posted by montessori
I guess it's safe to assume that Stepharoonie! is feeling better.
She is merrily posting on much happier and more trivial threads than the one she started here.

Maybe it's just me, but I don't understand someone writing such a desperate sounding post, asking for the answers to questions that can't really be answered, and then ignoring all the people who tried to help her in her "time of need".

What's up with that?

I had wondered that too. I think many were really concerned. Hopefully she will reply.

 

[montessori]

 

[montessori]

Originally posted by montessori
I guess it's safe to assume that Stepharoonie! is feeling better.
She is merrily posting on much happier and more trivial threads than the one she started here.

Maybe it's just me, but I don't understand someone writing such a desperate sounding post, asking for the answers to questions that can't really be answered, and then ignoring all the people who tried to help her in her "time of need".

What's up with that?

I'm quoting myself!
I don't know why it isn't bugging anyone else but it's bugging me.
I can't understand why someone would post something like "Stepharoonie!" posted, and then totally ignore all the kind people who cared enough to respond to her.
She asked, "Please be nice".
Only one person brought up her judgmental attitude about the unmarried couple being rewarded by God, and everyone else was very "nice" about letting her know she should not be so concerned with material things.
Many people put time, effort, and compassion into trying to answer what seemed to be a true plea for help.
I'd be concerned if she was gone from the Disboards altogether, not just from this thread that she started.
But she's still around, joining in on lighthearted, frivolous, pixie dust threads.
I like to think there is a certain degree of unwritten etiquette standards when relating with others on internet message boards, and responding to heartfelt concern from fellow board members would be right up there at the top!


I just don't get it and I just don't like it.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I did wonder about that too.