7 months pregnant and husband having an affair...what now?

[erinmarissa]

At times like this you will find that you are stronger than you ever knew you were!!! Prayers for you and your little one! Stay strong and follow your heart...

 

[Tuffcookie]

At times like this you will find that you are stronger than you ever knew you were!!!

Prayers for you and your little one! Stay strong and follow your heart...

You said a mouthfull!

TC

 

[melancholywings]

I wanted to tell you that I find your story very inspirational as a woman and a mother. This is something that could happen to any woman; and that you had the strength and courage to put yourself and your baby first is incredibly admirable.

 

[minnie56]

AMEN

 

[disneychic2]

OP, I know you were worried about putting so much on your parents in the beginning and I even posted that I'm sure your parents would want to help you as they have done. I also wanted to add that you being there with them and having your mom with you during your birthing/parenting classes and maybe even the birth of your sweet baby is a gift she will always treasure. It's more than anything you could have ever imagined for her. So if you are ever thinking you are being a burden for them, think of it as a gift. You are sharing the life of their grandson.

This is very well said. As a mother to 4 grown children, there isn't anything I wouldn't do for them and do it with a happy heart. This could happen to anyone at any time and I would feel it to be such a privilege to help out and do anything I could for my adult child. And the opportunity to be there during the whole birthing experience is beyond words. Trust me, OP, your parents, although hating that you had to go through what you did, are happy to be able to be there for you. It's a gift.

 

[goofyintoronto]

This is very well said. As a mother to 4 grown children, there isn't anything I wouldn't do for them and do it with a happy heart. This could happen to anyone at any time and I would feel it to be such a privilege to help out and do anything I could for my adult child. And the opportunity to be there during the whole birthing experience is beyond words. Trust me, OP, your parents, although hating that you had to go through what you did, are happy to be able to be there for you. It's a gift.

well said.

 

[Lanie]

Just wanted to send you a cyber-hug, and tell you that you are awesome.

You will get through this, and the arrival of your little man will bring you a lot of happiness.

Stay strong

 

[PrincessNancy96]

OP: Just a little note to let you know that you and your baby boy are in my thoughts and prayers...

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

when is the OP due? Is it this month?

 

[goofyintoronto]

when is the OP due? Is it this month?

I think so?? Hope she gives us an update if she can, before the baby is born of course.

 

[disneychic2]

The thread was started 9/27, so the birth could be toward the end of this month. I hope she is doing well and is able to just concentrate on that precious baby. Hopefully she'll update us soon.

 

[Shmily1]

Hope all is well with you today OP. I hope your little man is kicking away in there just when you need to know he loves you the most.

 

[SallySkelington]

Sending you much love and hugs! Glad you are safe!

 

[zurgswife]

Sending you prayers of peace and well wishes for the upcoming birth of your son.

 

[TRK0011]

So I thought I'd come on and update today since it's been a while.

First up, I know people were asking about my due date - baby is due December 1st, so actually the beginning of next month. He's measuring right on track and everything is still good with him, gaining weight and doing everything he's supposed to be doing. I'm so excited to meet him at this point!

I'm doing OK too - little by little things are getting easier. There are still good days and bad days, but I'm trying to appreciate the good when they come and just battle through the bad as best I can. My parents have been absolutely incredible, I wish I could describe how much they've helped me through all this but words honestly don't seem enough. My dad is so excited for my little guy to be here, he keeps buying all these Christmas presents and I keep having to remind him, baby will be about three weeks old and won't know it's Christmas!

I still speak to DH every now and then, but there's very little to say. He told me last time we talked that he and the girl weren't speaking anymore - it turns out that DH's mother found out who the girl was and that she was the daughter of the friend of the family, and went and told her everything. She also found out about the texts I'd been getting from the girl, and told the mother that if she didn't make it stop, that she would push me to go to the police. I guess the mother of the girl didn't take this all too well, sent DH a message saying they wouldn't be visiting California after all, and he hasn't spoken to anyone in the family since. He was upset and crying and saying he didn't understand how all this happened...I had nothing to say. I did tell him he should reconsider seeing a counselor of some sort, but he brushed it off. This was all about three days ago - he's sent me messages and called a couple of times since then, but I'm not just going to sit and listen to him whine about a crappy situation all of his own doing. I suppose that doesn't make me sound very nice, and normally I would be the first person to lend an ear if a friend was in need - but I don't think he deserves it.

Anyway, that's where I'm up to. I really appreciate everyone who has been checking in and sending well wishes - on the crappy days I come back and read through this thread and am reminded of how kind you've all been and how much support I have. It makes things better

 

[Disney Doll]

He doesn't understand how all this happened?

What about it does he not understand?

He had an affair. He caused his own problem. He doesn't want to see a counselor to figure out why he was such a whack. Not your problem......

BooHoo.....cry me a river buddy. Yoo made your bed, you lie in it.

Meanwhile, you my dear, have that perfectly wonderful baby to look forward to....the light of your life. Wishing you well and keep us posted when you can.

XOXO

 

[RadioNate]

So I thought I'd come on and update today since it's been a while.

First up, I know people were asking about my due date - baby is due December 1st, so actually the beginning of next month. He's measuring right on track and everything is still good with him, gaining weight and doing everything he's supposed to be doing. I'm so excited to meet him at this point!

I'm doing OK too - little by little things are getting easier. There are still good days and bad days, but I'm trying to appreciate the good when they come and just battle through the bad as best I can. My parents have been absolutely incredible, I wish I could describe how much they've helped me through all this but words honestly don't seem enough. My dad is so excited for my little guy to be here, he keeps buying all these Christmas presents and I keep having to remind him, baby will be about three weeks old and won't know it's Christmas!

I still speak to DH every now and then, but there's very little to say. He told me last time we talked that he and the girl weren't speaking anymore - it turns out that DH's mother found out who the girl was and that she was the daughter of the friend of the family, and went and told her everything. She also found out about the texts I'd been getting from the girl, and told the mother that if she didn't make it stop, that she would push me to go to the police. I guess the mother of the girl didn't take this all too well, sent DH a message saying they wouldn't be visiting California after all, and he hasn't spoken to anyone in the family since. He was upset and crying and saying he didn't understand how all this happened...I had nothing to say. I did tell him he should reconsider seeing a counselor of some sort, but he brushed it off. This was all about three days ago - he's sent me messages and called a couple of times since then, but I'm not just going to sit and listen to him whine about a crappy situation all of his own doing. I suppose that doesn't make me sound very nice, and normally I would be the first person to lend an ear if a friend was in need - but I don't think he deserves it.

Anyway, that's where I'm up to. I really appreciate everyone who has been checking in and sending well wishes - on the crappy days I come back and read through this thread and am reminded of how kind you've all been and how much support I have. It makes things better

You are doing great!

Your H does NOT deserve it. When was he your friend? My ex badmouthed me so much after I left. HE cheated, made a huge mess but I was horrible? Ok then. Eventually they start to get it, not entirely but sooner or later it hits them. Takes a long time. Years.

I'm glad to hear the girl's family found out. And that his parents are being slightly supportive of you and the baby is nice to hear. My ex-inlaws haven't spoken to me in years. As if it was somehow my fault. Whatever.

I'm so happy you went to your parents! Best wishes.

 

[goofyintoronto]

So I thought I'd come on and update today since it's been a while.

First up, I know people were asking about my due date - baby is due December 1st, so actually the beginning of next month. He's measuring right on track and everything is still good with him, gaining weight and doing everything he's supposed to be doing. I'm so excited to meet him at this point!

I'm doing OK too - little by little things are getting easier. There are still good days and bad days, but I'm trying to appreciate the good when they come and just battle through the bad as best I can. My parents have been absolutely incredible, I wish I could describe how much they've helped me through all this but words honestly don't seem enough. My dad is so excited for my little guy to be here, he keeps buying all these Christmas presents and I keep having to remind him, baby will be about three weeks old and won't know it's Christmas!

I still speak to DH every now and then, but there's very little to say. He told me last time we talked that he and the girl weren't speaking anymore - it turns out that DH's mother found out who the girl was and that she was the daughter of the friend of the family, and went and told her everything. She also found out about the texts I'd been getting from the girl, and told the mother that if she didn't make it stop, that she would push me to go to the police. I guess the mother of the girl didn't take this all too well, sent DH a message saying they wouldn't be visiting California after all, and he hasn't spoken to anyone in the family since. He was upset and crying and saying he didn't understand how all this happened...I had nothing to say. I did tell him he should reconsider seeing a counselor of some sort, but he brushed it off. This was all about three days ago - he's sent me messages and called a couple of times since then, but I'm not just going to sit and listen to him whine about a crappy situation all of his own doing. I suppose that doesn't make me sound very nice, and normally I would be the first person to lend an ear if a friend was in need - but I don't think he deserves it.

Anyway, that's where I'm up to. I really appreciate everyone who has been checking in and sending well wishes - on the crappy days I come back and read through this thread and am reminded of how kind you've all been and how much support I have. It makes things better

first of all, your due date of Dec 1 is my birthday! Very special day! Lol. Im so glad your doing well considering. your dad is so cute buying all those her for the baby.

As for your DH, he deserves everything coming his way. Honestly. I dont know how you can still talk to him. youre a very strong woman. And the comment about you not being a nice person. really now? your far too nice. he should thank his lucky stars cause you could do so much worse to him.

so glad the girls parents found out about everything. how can she, and your H, live with themselves after all theyve done? disgusting.

thanks for the update. wishing you lots of lucky on your delivery!

Sent from my Galaxy SII

 

[3smithboys]

He doesn't understand how all this happened?

What about it does he not understand?

He had an affair. He caused his own problem. He doesn't want to see a counselor to figure out why he was such a whack. Not your problem......

BooHoo.....cry me a river buddy. Yoo made your bed, you lie in it.

Meanwhile, you my dear, have that perfectly wonderful baby to look forward to....the light of your life. Wishing you well and keep us posted when you can.

XOXO

perfect!

 

[TRK0011]

I should clarify - the exact words he used were "I don't know how my life ended up like this." It seems pretty obvious to me. I almost feel sorry for him at times - how do you make such a mess of things and not be able to understand where you went wrong?!

His parents have been very, very nice to me so far. His mom sent me an email after she told the girl's mother everything, telling me what had been said. His parents are nice, normal people and they're truly horrified at the way their son is behaving. They've asked if I'm coming back to California, and asked if they can visit the baby and I some time in the new year. I asked them if we could wait and make that decision once he was here, and they agreed. I don't want to cut them out of my son's life if at all possible, I'm just waiting to see how this all plays out.