6 Days Before Our Trip, DH Just Left Me

[lillygator]

Hope everything is going ok....

 

[chell]

Hope your trip went well.

momrek06 - Sorry but I didn't run into her anywhere.

 

[Chicago526]

Any updates?

 

[bevtoy]

Any word from her?

 

[scraptoons]

Others have probably said this... but PLEASE PLEASE don't think this is a final thing!!

My DH and I have a close couple friend that went thru this.
For goodness sake, she called us in the middle of the night and we were so glad to be there for her. Those friends know you need them.

The husband went thru lots of depression, and did this very thing a few times. It happened when his depression hit a low in a cycle. He always came back after a couple of days when he came back to his senses.

It was AWFUL for the wife and kids, and his own mother too. They stuck together. His mom had a stern lecturing with him. We got them into a therapist office. It's tons better now. Of course, there is a lot of layers of issues they are working out. The husband is learning to deal with some issues he has and their relationship is slowly on the mend.

A college friend had a husband do the same thing. It was some freak depression thing. He was gone a few days. That was about 8 or 9 years ago. They are still married and doing so much better.

Remind him of your love, and even though your emotions have been wrinched thru the wringer, you are willing to figure out what needs to be done.

 

[mickeymousemom]

OP, I just read alot of this thread and I hope things are going okay for you. I hope the trip works out...I really think this is something you (and especially) the kids need. You need to show your kids AND your DH that you're a strong woman(then go hide in the closet and cry if need be).

I too, have BTDT..to a degree. DH and I have been married for 13 years. We've been thru hades and high water together and have made it thru. After the birth of our 3rd DD, things began to go downhill. He told me several times he felt unappreciated, yet I felt the same way. Neither of us got it and, on the advice of a friend, DH began to pull farther away from me to "show me" that he "didn't need me". What bad advice. I had made a new group of friends on the computer and alot of my attention was going places it shouldn't have. To make a long and painful story short, DH got a rude awakening and since then our marriage has never been better. We "found" each other again and I have my best friend back, better than before.
What I'm trying to say is, this may be something that needed to happen. Whether it be for you, or for your marriage. Your DH may be confused and just needs to sort some things out. I certainly don't agree with the way he did it, esp. where the kids are concerned, but none of us are perfect, and there are times when all we can do is our best AT THE TIME.

You will make it thru this, and will be stronger for it, regardless of the outcome. I promise.

and I'll keep you in my prayers!

 

[bridget&jimmy]

Hope you and your kids had a nice trip

 

[zalansky]

OP, where are you? Update us

 

[disneyfanforever]

Just wanted to say I am so sorry for you. I hope your trip went well.

 

[alliecats]

Bumping for an update. I've been thinking about you & hope things are better right now than when you last posted.

 

[Jennifer S]

I saw that the OP posted on the Disney resorts board today. Her son got a stomach bug on their trip - so she did go but didn't mention anything else.

 

[willis37862]

Bumping. Also interested in how op is doing!

 

[LuluLovesDisney]

me,too! Hope things are better.

 

[Patty3]

 

[crazee4mickey]

Just read through the entire thread and my heart goes out to you and your children.
I was glad to read that you went on your trip even though it must have been extremely difficult for you with everything that had just happened.
I can totally relate to what you are going through, it wasn't easy for me and my kids but it made me stronger in the long run.
I have to say I would take the advice of the lawyer, money, and door locks.
My ex husband turned into someone I did not know at all after he left, I was shocked at the person he had become...thanks to his girlfriend.
Take care of yourself and stay strong for your kids' sake

 

[rileyroosmom]

Hi everyone- I'm back and I did take the kids on the trip. It wasn't the best trip due to sadness and a stomach bug that ran through my boys.

My dh is still out of the house but we are going to counseling and we agree that we both want our marraige to work. It seems that he is very passive and has let many things bother him through the years and it all just blew up for him. I'm hopeful that we can work it out.

He did not take any money or clean me out. He gave me his keys and garage door opener. There is definetly not a girlfriend, I did have him followed.

Thanks to everyone for your thoughts and prayers. I was a little overwhelmed by the outpour of support. I won't be posting about this situation anymore because it is very personal and too close to me heart to have out there. Thanks again for all your encouragement and I hope to one day be able to post that we are back together and better than ever.

 

[kdibattista]

Best of luck

 

[chell]

Thank you for the update. Just remember we do care about you and are here if you need us for anything at all.

 

[DVCCarrie]

I hope all works out for you. Just know you have one heck of a support system here on the boards, if you ever needs us

 

[Disney Doll]

Even though the trip wasn't the best one ever, it probably did you and the kids some good, and maybe your husband missed you guys a bit and had some time to think.

I wish you well in working on your marriage. It won't be easy, but if you are able to move forward and improve things, it will certainly be worth the effort. You will be in my thoughts.