5+ years between kids?

[Tinkmom75]

I have DD14 DS10 and DS3. My DD and DS10 fight like cats and dogs. DD10 is a little jealous of DS3, but it is just starting to get better where he now likes to help with DS3 and play with him and stuff. DD14 love DS3, but I have to say it is kind of funny when they both act the same way i.e tantrums, it's all about me, etc. I saw a parenting class in our local paper on similiarities between teenagers and toddlers. Although I didn't make it, I bet I can guess what they are since both are very self oriented

Likes: DD14 babysits and is a big help, I am much more relaxed as a parent and more able to go with the flow. I think DS3 was just the surprise I needed to help me relax more in life in general and cherish the time I have with my kids even more.

Dis-likes: DS3 is independent and very much wants to be a "big boy" and wants to do what the older kids do.

 

[mousiemom]

it will probably takes us longer this time, i hope not. my SIL has been trying for years and they've both been tested and their fine. have you ever been to disney when you were pregnant? like i said before, we are planning on getting ap in feb. and we have planned 5 trips next yr to wdw but if it happens before feb. we will not get one.
mousiemom

 

[disneymom2003]

I think I'm in the lead. My "kids" are 24 (still at home), 7 and 4. There is a 20 year difference between the first and the last. But in my case, it's not like sibblings - it's like an extra parent in the house. Ashley is a 2nd mother to my little ones. Just recently, I've heard my ds7 tell her she can't tell him what to do because she's not his mother -- she took care of that right away. My ds7 and dd4 are starting the regular sibling bickering/arguing.

I can relate. My oldest is 38 and my youngest is 18. They never lived together. My son moved into his own place when I was pregnant with my daughter. I have two in between. A dd 33 and a ds 21. My youngest son was born on his brothers 16th birthday. The biggest problem was with the 33 year lod and the 21 year old. When he was 3 she was 11. She was not used to someone else bothering her things. We did not plan the last one but we are sure happy to have her,she has been a delight not only for us but to her brother (the 21 year old)who adores her. By the way my oldest granddaughter is 17, just 14 months younger than my daughter. They have all kept us young!

 

[skuttle]

I'm glad I stumbled upon this thread! Our DS had his 5th birthday in July. We've been trying for #2 for 2.5 years with no luck. We both have issues unfortunately. DS was a surprise so all of this trying with no luck is new to us, and very discouraging. I've been feeling like I'm running out of time!

 

[december]

it will probably takes us longer this time, i hope not. my SIL has been trying for years and they've both been tested and their fine. have you ever been to disney when you were pregnant? like i said before, we are planning on getting ap in feb. and we have planned 5 trips next yr to wdw but if it happens before feb. we will not get one.
mousiemom

Wow-I want to be you! My 1st trip to WDW was in 2006 when my kids were 6 and 9 (he turned 9 in Epcot).

 

[rparmfamily]

LMAO I guess I'll be joining this group!! We just confirmed today that #3 is on his/her way, a TOTAL SHOCK I have to say!!!

Mine will be 6 and 8 when baby comes. And we thought we were done. I need some cheering up...anyone else get a big surprise like this? I know we'll be totally thrilled and beyond blessed to hold our little one but right now, I'm feeling overwhelmed.

DH was getting the V in 3 weeks, he just had the consultation last month. Talk about a surprise!

 

[Colleen27]

LMAO I guess I'll be joining this group!! We just confirmed today that #3 is on his/her way, a TOTAL SHOCK I have to say!!!

Mine will be 6 and 8 when baby comes. And we thought we were done. I need some cheering up...anyone else get a big surprise like this? I know we'll be totally thrilled and beyond blessed to hold our little one but right now, I'm feeling overwhelmed.

DH was getting the V in 3 weeks, he just had the consultation last month. Talk about a surprise!

DH had the big V over the summer last year, and we found out we were expecting #3 in November. Yeah, it was a bit of a shock. My older kids were 9 and 5 at the time, and it did take some time to adjust to the idea of starting over, even though we'd been trying for a third child just a year or so earlier. The first month or so of the pregnancy was tough - it took so long to adjust to the idea that we were done when trying for #3 didn't work out, and we spent a year talking overseas travel and school and all the other things that we knew would be on hold if we had another until I was actually pretty excited to be moving into a baby-free stage of life. Then BAM, it all turns around again, and all those things are back on hold until this one is older.

It really did take some getting used to and the first couple months of the pregnancy were a very emotional time, but by the time we started baby shopping I was as excited as with my other two. And now that she's 2 months old, I can't imagine how I ever thought our family was complete without her - the older kids adore having a little sister, DH is already wrapped around her little finger, and we're all just so happy to have her in our lives. Plus we get the fun of taking another little princess to Disney for the first time.

 

[tinkerlisa]

LMAO I guess I'll be joining this group!! We just confirmed today that #3 is on his/her way, a TOTAL SHOCK I have to say!!!

Mine will be 6 and 8 when baby comes. And we thought we were done. I need some cheering up...anyone else get a big surprise like this? I know we'll be totally thrilled and beyond blessed to hold our little one but right now, I'm feeling overwhelmed.

DH was getting the V in 3 weeks, he just had the consultation last month. Talk about a surprise!

My hubby was a "v" baby. His father was supposed to have one but missed the appointment due to catching a cold! A few weeks later, his mom found out she was pregnant!
His oldest sis is 14 years older than he is and his older sis is only a year and a half older than him.
I am 14 years older than my sister as well. But thats because my parents split when i was a kid and my mom remarried and had my sister. but my sis was a shock to them. my mom was 38 and the doc told her the stomach ache was an ulcer! then when they did more tests they were like uh... we were wrong(yet again) and told her she was pregnant!

 

[laceemouse]

My brothers were 15 and 13 and my sister was 9 when I was born. Basically we were raised in different families, I hardly remember living with them. I have nephews almost as old as I am.
My parents did not plan it this way, but I know they loved me and I never felt like an accident. My siblings love me too and we have tried to be close as we have gotten older. I guess if your older kids never move out or move away or go off to college or whatever they can stay close, but I would never choose to have a huge age gap on purpose.

I had my 4 in 6 years time. Of course they fight, but they also share clothes (the girls) and have mutual friends and have each other to go through things with. I prefer them close because they have what I didn't have growing up.....each other!

I know lots of folks get "surprises" but we never did. We had a plan and it worked perfectly

My siblings just have a million memories and funny stories and they talk about people they used to know and teachers they all had and NONE of that has anything to do with me......

 

[tinkerlisa]

My siblings just have a million memories and funny stories and they talk about people they used to know and teachers they all had and NONE of that has anything to do with me......

I know what you mean. I said before my sis and I are 14 years apart. Her gym teacher and math teacher I had them in her grade. It may be the same school district but they recently built a new middle school and my memories of those teachers are from the "old" school. There were things that my brother and I got to do and have memories of that she doesn't and she expresses her jealousy towards that. She was basically an only child. When she was 3 i moved in with my dad(i was 17) and our brother always lived with him. I think when I moved out, it hurt our relationship alot. We used to be so close and maybe its because I am an adult now, but now we are so distant from each other. Sometimes I wish I had re thought my decision to move in with my father, but, my mom wasn't the greatest to me and I felt that if I wanted to save my sanity going to my dad's would be the best for everyone.

 

[brookeprincessbaby]

DD will be 6 when #2 is born and this baby, like the first, is a total shock. We had just booked our trip and I was thinking about whether or not I would start when we were at Disney and realized I was a week late! 3 tests confirmed it! I go for an ultrasound on Wed. to see how far along I am (and to make sure there is just one...I come from a long line of twins!) I am excited about what the future holds. My sister and I are 4 years apart and were never close growing up so maybe 6 is the magic number for us. I'm looking forward to one last trip to WDW as a little family of three. We leave in 8 days...YIPPIE!!

 

[danilynn19]

My boys are 19 and 8. Yes there are 11 years between them (had to find a better husband for the second one ). I wouldn't trade the years between them for nothing though. Everyone always said how great it would be to have a built in baby sitter, but we made it a point to NEVER do that to our older son. Which has made him love is brother even more, because he's not a job or a chore. Plus, when we do ask him to babysit for us it's not a big song and dance because we don't ask that often.
I enjoyed the 11 years apart from each other too because I enjoyed all those years with the older one and now that he hangs out with his friends, works, goes to college (locally) I can spend time with the little one and I don't feel guilty like I have heard some people say that they do because they have to "divide" my time between each one.

 

[rparmfamily]

DH had the big V over the summer last year, and we found out we were expecting #3 in November. Yeah, it was a bit of a shock. My older kids were 9 and 5 at the time, and it did take some time to adjust to the idea of starting over, even though we'd been trying for a third child just a year or so earlier. The first month or so of the pregnancy was tough - it took so long to adjust to the idea that we were done when trying for #3 didn't work out, and we spent a year talking overseas travel and school and all the other things that we knew would be on hold if we had another until I was actually pretty excited to be moving into a baby-free stage of life. Then BAM, it all turns around again, and all those things are back on hold until this one is older.

This is (was) us too...we had a vacation to Tokyo planned for May to see friends and his sisters wedding in Scotland in July. Now we can't do either. DH has to save his vacation time for the birth so we can't go period. Then he deploys and then we move from Hawaii so there just isn't time.

I am feeling better about it...I'm 9w now, and I have started allowing myself to peak at baby clothes and newborn things and they make me feel better. This has just been such a rollercoaster. Both #1 and #2 were very planned and I'm a planner and this surprise pregnancy is really throwing me off. I know as soon as the baby is here we'll feel like we could never live without him/her.

I'm glad pregnancy is 9 months, that for sure!

 

[Lady V]

I have 4 kids now. Well, technically I have 2 my first marriage (ages 7 and 9) and two more that came with my second marriage that was this past August! (twin 15 year old boys!!)..So, combined we have 4 kids! We have been talking about having one that is 'ours' but 5 kinda scares me! Also-there would be at least an 8 year diference...