4:55 a.m. tomorrow morning..UPDATE pg.5

[C.Ann]

Hugs to you and your family. My Dad died two years ago today, January 18, 2004. Today was a quiet day for me. No one in my family called me, it felt weird, but I guess everyone has their own way of dealing with it. I had a mass said for both my Mom & Dad at our local church and I left messages on my sisters's answering machines.
Michele

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Sorry if my post in any way made today more painful for you.. You're definitely right about people dealing with it in different ways.. Not one of my DH's 5 adult children called, but then again, this was a "first" for them too, so I'm not about to pass judgement on them.. They may have gone to the cemetery, they may have spent a quiet day at home, or they may have just gone on about their business.. Whatever works is what people have to do..

 

[diznygirl]

The note your granddaughter wrote is sooooo sweet! I'm getting all teary-eyed..... What a special thing to do for you.

 

[lucyanna girl]

I hope all your happy memories bring you comfort.

 

[C.Ann]

The note your granddaughter wrote is sooooo sweet! I'm getting all teary-eyed..... What a special thing to do for you.

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Yep - she's a gem..always doing things like that.. Back awhile ago when her mom had shingles, she got permission from her teacher to make her a card during school hours and then go all around the building having kids and adults alike sign it, sending their good wishes for a speedy recovery.. She's definitely "a keeper"..

 

[Mimi Q]

I just read the note from your granddaughter. What a sweet, sweet girl.

 

[mt2]

The first thing I thought of when I read your post was that your DH was letting you know that everything is ok. I am truly sorry for your pain.

Have you talked to your DH's children yet? I was wondering if they thought that you should have called them?

I have a co worker whose father is dying of cancer. Her stepmom is unkind (according to co worker) and won't share too much info. Both are accussing each other of not being there for him. Not a good situation at all.

 

[C.Ann]

The first thing I thought of when I read your post was that your DH was letting you know that everything is ok. I am truly sorry for your pain.

Have you talked to your DH's children yet? I was wondering if they thought that you should have called them? .

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No - I haven't talked to them recently.. Two of them live in other states; one is helping her own DH wage an exhausting battle against cancer; the youngest hasn't been able to come to terms with it yet; and the eldest daughter - the one I chat with on a regular basis - is having a crisis with her stepson needing another kidney transplant..

I'm still working on the Memorial scrapbooks for them though (2 down, 3 to go) and hope to get them mailed out to them sometime soon.. I think they'll be happy with them.. Lots of photos of their Dad - them with their Dad - their Dad with the grandkids; things that he kept (Father's Day cards; report cards; etc.) - the photos he carried in his wallet until the end; copies of his work awards; all sorts of memorabilia from his Marine Corps days; his medals; etc.. It's taking a lot of time because each one is individualized to the specific child that will be receiving it, but I won't stop until I get them ALL done and mailed!!