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[poohandwendy]

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There wasn't any concern that she would buy the "wrong gifts" and no one was "talking behind her back".. It was just a simple question - "What did you buy and what did 'Marie' buy?" - so they would have an idea of what they should purchase themselves.. They never dreamed in a million years that she would do something so calculated and so entirely against their wishes.. We also discussed who bought what for whom so there would be no duplicates with gifts for the adults either.. It's a normal swapping of lists that goes on every year - nothing out of the ordinary..

I guess I was thinking more along the lines that since you knew it would not go over well, it may have been better to stay out of it and just tell them to talk to her directly. The way it stands, she may think you had less than kind intentions and maybe enjoyed telling them that she was the 'bad grandma' once again. It sounds like you two have issues to begin with, that is why I would have stayed out of it completely.

Well, it's Christmas time, hopefully everyone can put this behind them and not have negative feelings over it.

 

[UtahMama]

I hate those immodest dolls! I've taught (imposed my opinion upon) my dd2 that they are yucky! My friend's DD has one of those overbig bratz baby dolls who wears a THONG! Total hooker dollys! That's just MY opinion though. I've looked at them carefully and there's not one I'd buy (my dd still has all her dolls nekkid...so I SOOOO dont think so on the Bratz dolls)

That Grandma is totally enjoying the drama she's purposely created!!!!!!
Eh, break Her Drama-Queen heart now before your grand daughter is confused by the taking away of the gifts. I think other Grandma is seeking attention by purposely going against the parents clear wishes.

I had one of those MIL once! VERY frustrating!

 

[C.Ann]

It sounds like you two have issues to begin with, that is why I would have stayed out of it completely.

Well, it's Christmas time, hopefully everyone can put this behind them and not have negative feelings over it.

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I wouldn't say we have "issues" - we're just worlds apart personality wise.. I try to "go with the flow" when it comes to DGD (regardless of whether or not I agree with my DD and her DH) and "Marie" tends to be very controlling, demanding, calculating, and manipulative.. (Even her DH will attest to that..) She doesn't like not being able to control every aspect of DGD's life (as well as her son's) and frequently tries to slip out of the "Grandma" role and into the "parent" roll where DGD is concerned..

I make sure I'm aware of the rules my DD and her DH have in place and abide by them.. I don't try to skirt around them - nor do I ignore them.. DGD is not my DD and therefore I don't get to make the rules - and that's the way it should be..

I'm sure it will all blow over - after a bunch of whining, pouting, and the "big chill".. Luckily I'm headed to a warmer climate soon! LOL

 

[poohandwendy]

I'm sure it will all blow over - after a bunch of whining, pouting, and the "big chill".. Luckily I'm headed to a warmer climate soon! LOL

I am sure it will and have a great time!

 

[fabshelly]

I'd really be grateful if someone stepped up on behalf of my wishes as to how my child is raised. Rather than feeling guilty, give yourself a gold star and a pat on the back!





PS: Don't eat the gold star.

 

[kdibattista]

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There wasn't any concern that she would buy the "wrong gifts" and no one was "talking behind her back".. It was just a simple question - "What did you buy and what did 'Marie' buy?" - so they would have an idea of what they should purchase themselves.. They never dreamed in a million years that she would do something so calculated and so entirely against their wishes.. We also discussed who bought what for whom so there would be no duplicates with gifts for the adults either.. It's a normal swapping of lists that goes on every year - nothing out of the ordinary..

Seriously?!?!? It sounds like that's what she live's for