12/09/06 Cruise Continued ~ Pirating Bananas DIS Geekorama Part 2 Part 10

[lillygator]

so where are all the WDW dinners...?? you know ya'll want V there..... if not just to take pics and write about in my pirate adventures.

 

[pyramid2000]

Hey, if you're going to do it, you may as well do it RIGHT!

And, you have reminded me - I have not even THOUGHT about the magnet door signs, and we are just a bit over a month away!

Right now, this is our door sign



















John1

That's almost as nice as mine John.

 

[pjpoohbear]

Is it 1900 dinner that you are joining us then?

I thought so, what time was that?

Pj

 

[pyramid2000]

Just an FYI....I cannot add the Thanksgiving image into my signature because it will put me over the limit of three images.

Well gee Lisa, it is the holiday season! Maybe they need to spread a bouncing turkey!

 

[bubbasmom99]

Howdy all -- there's no way I'm going to catch up over the last few days

My dog is sick -- he's 14 years old and the vet just did a blood screen. It appears to be Cushing's Disease but without further testing, we won't know definitively. Not going to go that route since we couldn't really treat it even if we know it's Cushing's for sure. the vet we saw was hell bent on euthanasia but I don't know if we're ready to really consider that yet. I don't know if he has 2 days or 2 months or what but I have a feeling we'll be having to make some tough decisions here before we go on vacation

 

[MrsMork]

oh my.....my bad weeks seem to just keep rolling. I think I am having the turn 32 pre mid life crisis. These girls....I cannot begin to imagine age 16. Somewhere along this motherhood journey, I am just not V anymore. And selfishly I know, but I hate that. Alot. I know we are AWFUL parents. We are pretty go with the flow and I am a spoiler, so I have created these monsters myself. I just want everything for them to be so much better than it was for me. Is there a way to incorporate that without creating brats?

Then today. The school schedules conferences...so far they have always said no need - they go over the children's skills and where they are lacking. But Haley's teacher is concerned by her speech - well, lack thereof. (her ped is NOT, he wrote down all the words she said in his office and said she was fine)....now I know this is MY FAULT. I let her have a binky....we're lazy I know. And Samantha speaks for her and above all. I can tell what she wants/needs by her looks and actions and I try to anticipate that. But I guess now I won't. All this goes in their school record so I feel my not even 2 year old is being judged.....and I know they have to evaulate....but gosh. I feel like such a failure. And I know without a doubt she is the absolute favorite at school. This child gets SO much attention I am embarrassed (well, sometimes) the teachers from the other class come and visit her. Everyone HOLDS her all day long and even the kids in Samantha's class all scream "Haley" when we come in. And above all she is the teeniest one there....but they all tell me, she has no issues holding her own and that no one....boy or girl takes anything away from her.

and to be honest. I don't want to rush her through anything. With Samantha I was there, with a notepad waiting, wishing, willing her to do something great.....I'm sorry. I guess they should require testing before you become a parent. Johnny and I probably shouldn't be parents.

My goodness, Vanessa. Don't be so hard on yourself. You and Johnny are wonderful parents! You love those girls and give them the attention a child deserves. Your doc says she is fine. Some of us are less vocal than others (well, not me, but some are!). She's only 2 years old. Just let her be herself, if that means not talking alot well that is fine. And a 2 year old with a binky is absolutley fine! We all fly by the seat of our pants raising children, there is no manual all you can do is love them, and you do a fine job of that!

 

[MrsMork]

John, have to have ketchup, lol. My mom could never have her eggs without ketchup, but I am the one who have to do ketchup duty, lol.

Pj

Having never eaten there, I guess I need to know the story with the ketchup.

 

[bubbasmom99]

Patsy, actually all the teachers (aside from the HS volunteers) are college educated (in some education field) and have had to go through the state of FL's requirement preschool teaching classes. (not sure of the formal names)

I guess my position is....they (as well as "we") baby her as much as anyone. For example. She is between rooms right now...but Haley has to make an "enterance in the Little Bee room" before being taken to the Big Bee room. While I am so pleased they love her to death, I fear that not only is it bad for the other children but it sets her up for life...not everyone is going to love her....(BUT look at her pics....who couldn't)

I know I am at fault for a lot. and just as bad to compare her to Samantha. Which the teachers do as well. .......apparantly Haley is the sweet one. (not at home)

My experience... my DD has been at her preschool since their opening day (she was 10 weeks old) and she has been spoiled rotten by the teachers there... so much so that they pretty much have zero authority in her eyes. She's having a difficult year because her pre-k teacher is the first one in the whole school who isn't giving in to her whims and tantrumms. All the other teachers just think she's being "cute" and frankly, I think she's being obnoxious but I've also told them (the principal is a friend of mine) that they created this monster!

Not that you have to take a swing in the other direction but it really isn't doing Haley any favors if they continue to coddle her too much. I only speak from experience.... while I love the fact that her school is her 2nd home, this has been a horrible year so far in that I'm constantly getting nastygrams from her teacher telling me what she's done wrong that day. And while I'm far from a perfect parent or having the perfect household, I do know she follows rules better at home because she does fear the consequences here. At school, she just thinks they'll let her slide.

Okay, I just reread what I wrote and I'm not sure it makes much sense so I hope you get what I'm saying. I'd be happy to detail it more in email or we can chat on the cruise if you can wait.... I've had such a stressful couple of days that I'm not thinking straight.

 

[lillygator]

My goodness, Vanessa. Don't be so hard on yourself. You and Johnny are wonderful parents! You love those girls and give them the attention a child deserves. Your doc says she is fine. Some of us are less vocal than others (well, not me, but some are!). She's only 2 years old. Just let her be herself, if that means not talking alot well that is fine. And a 2 year old with a binky is absolutley fine! We all fly by the seat of our pants raising children, there is no manual all you can do is love them, and you do a fine job of that!

Thank you - and everyone for the kind words.


I think more and more....I am so trying to live up to some image - I don't even know of what. The wife, the mom, the "me".....and is that possible? I'm her mom, so I know what she is "saying" and I will bet $$$$ - for most all of you, if you know me.....you will know what she is saying by her looks as well!! I guess I just feel I have been so much more neglectful this time around.

thanks for listening!

 

[pyramid2000]

OK....so now I move on to today's fiasco at school. I spent all but 1 hour at the school from 8 am - 6:45 pm there. People were suppose to pick up their stuff 2:30-6:30. Well at 6:45 we put 41 boxes of stuff in the walk in freezer. So now instead of being able to go to the scrapbook store for ME time....I need to go in and call all of those PIA lazy parents who didn't pay attention to the two notices or the phone message that was done over the past week to let them know. Please note......

I WILL NEVER EVER EVER WORK THE FUNDRAISER PICKUP AT THE SCHOOL EVER AGAIN!!!

This is what I am afraid is going to happen with our school fundraiser and just one of many reasons I thought it was a bad idea in the first place. Having people order perishables is crazy. Who ever doesn't pick them up should have them left to rot if they couldn't let you know there would be a problem. Glad the PTA isn't involved with this one.

Lisa!!

 

[pyramid2000]

oh my.....my bad weeks seem to just keep rolling. I think I am having the turn 32 pre mid life crisis. These girls....I cannot begin to imagine age 16. Somewhere along this motherhood journey, I am just not V anymore. And selfishly I know, but I hate that. Alot. I know we are AWFUL parents. We are pretty go with the flow and I am a spoiler, so I have created these monsters myself. I just want everything for them to be so much better than it was for me. Is there a way to incorporate that without creating brats?

Then today. The school schedules conferences...so far they have always said no need - they go over the children's skills and where they are lacking. But Haley's teacher is concerned by her speech - well, lack thereof. (her ped is NOT, he wrote down all the words she said in his office and said she was fine)....now I know this is MY FAULT. I let her have a binky....we're lazy I know. And Samantha speaks for her and above all. I can tell what she wants/needs by her looks and actions and I try to anticipate that. But I guess now I won't. All this goes in their school record so I feel my not even 2 year old is being judged.....and I know they have to evaulate....but gosh. I feel like such a failure. And I know without a doubt she is the absolute favorite at school. This child gets SO much attention I am embarrassed (well, sometimes) the teachers from the other class come and visit her. Everyone HOLDS her all day long and even the kids in Samantha's class all scream "Haley" when we come in. And above all she is the teeniest one there....but they all tell me, she has no issues holding her own and that no one....boy or girl takes anything away from her.

and to be honest. I don't want to rush her through anything. With Samantha I was there, with a notepad waiting, wishing, willing her to do something great.....I'm sorry. I guess they should require testing before you become a parent. Johnny and I probably shouldn't be parents.

I just want to let you know we all fell this way at times...actually a lot of the time. Heck, most of the time!

 

[lillygator]

My experience... my DD has been at her preschool since their opening day (she was 10 weeks old) and she has been spoiled rotten by the teachers there... so much so that they pretty much have zero authority in her eyes. She's having a difficult year because her pre-k teacher is the first one in the whole school who isn't giving in to her whims and tantrumms. All the other teachers just think she's being "cute" and frankly, I think she's being obnoxious but I've also told them (the principal is a friend of mine) that they created this monster!

Not that you have to take a swing in the other direction but it really isn't doing Haley any favors if they continue to coddle her too much. I only speak from experience.... while I love the fact that her school is her 2nd home, this has been a horrible year so far in that I'm constantly getting nastygrams from her teacher telling me what she's done wrong that day. And while I'm far from a perfect parent or having the perfect household, I do know she follows rules better at home because she does fear the consequences here. At school, she just thinks they'll let her slide.

Okay, I just reread what I wrote and I'm not sure it makes much sense so I hope you get what I'm saying. I'd be happy to detail it more in email or we can chat on the cruise if you can wait.... I've had such a stressful couple of days that I'm not thinking straight.

I get what you are saying and that is my fear! Haley does not get away with anything at school ---- in terms of doing something to someone else, taking away toys, etc. But when it comes to lovin' oh my...that girl leaps out of my arms in the morning to her teachers. Which warms my heart as I know they care for her but also worries me for her next steps in life.
In the end - I don't want to be thier friend (well in my heart I do) I want to be their parent. I just feel I am coming up short!

 

[bubbasmom99]

In the end - I don't want to be thier friend (well in my heart I do) I want to be their parent. I just feel I am coming up short!

Absolutely do not question your ability as a parent! You are doing fine -- you LOVE your children... everything else is just icing on the cake.

 

[pyramid2000]

Well, that's late enough for me. Tomorrow they had better watch out because I do not feel like holding anything back. If the principal asks me why I am not staying past 2:30 tomorrow I will simply tell her because I will not screw up my family life another day because people aren't courteous enough to show up when they are told.

And your word for the day will be...???

 

[pyramid2000]

Oh tequilla does bad, bad stuff to Angie.....or Angie does bad, bad stuff when on tequilla. Remember table dancing story and then there was the front lawn while poor DrHug had to take care of DD who had a migraine. But that cool grass felt soooooo good, never mind what the neighbors thought! HHmmmmm, I think not this time.

So who is slipping Angie some tequilla??

 

[pyramid2000]

Howdy all -- there's no way I'm going to catch up over the last few days

My dog is sick -- he's 14 years old and the vet just did a blood screen. It appears to be Cushing's Disease but without further testing, we won't know definitively. Not going to go that route since we couldn't really treat it even if we know it's Cushing's for sure. the vet we saw was hell bent on euthanasia but I don't know if we're ready to really consider that yet. I don't know if he has 2 days or 2 months or what but I have a feeling we'll be having to make some tough decisions here before we go on vacation

Joy...

 

[MrsMork]

I just want to let you know we all fell this way at times...actually a lot of the time. Heck, most of the time!

And it never ends. Even when they are grown they do things that just make you thinkg "ouch! I should have done this or that differently." Bottom line, love them and just do your best.

 

[MrsMork]

So who is slipping Angie some tequilla??

Funny, Caroline. I heard that!

 

[lillygator]

Ok- on W nights...I am "doing" an Int'l Finance "class" and one lady taking the class works for our local DA.
We (the county) have several death row cases coming up...the latest one being a "great looking" 30 something who killed his wife. By accident. Apparantly, they were having, "realtions" and were in to the strangulation deal when he really strangled her to death. In stead of calling 911 he stuffed her in the water bed???!!! Come to find out, he did this at age 16 as well!

Wow!

 

[pyramid2000]

Ok, let's lighten the mood! Confession time!!!!