1 Year after a relatives wedding & still no thank you...WWYD?

[terri01p]

 

[cheermom1]

The poor girl wasn't to busy to open the present was she? It takes about 1 minute to be thoughtful and thankful for something not hours of your day.

but if you would read I said she may not even realize she didn't say thank you!

 

[luvmy3]

The poor girl wasn't to busy to open the present was she? It takes about 1 minute to be thoughtful and thankful for something not hours of your day.

That really depends on how many guests were at the wedding and the shower

 

[jrmasm]

But how would the giver know it was appreciated when they don't even know if it was received?

The OP said her aunt said the clothing was cute.

If you're not sure, pick up the phone and ask or send an email.

 

[cheermom1]

I would like to know if the op was at the wedding? Reason being is that she could have done a blanket thank you to everyone..I did and every wedding I have been has too..

now if she wasn't at the wedding and she sent a gift that might be a little different.

 

[Scurvy]

but if you would read I said she may not even realize she didn't say thank you!

I could see forgetting to thank someone for one gift during a very hectic time, but it sounds to me like there have been several things that she didn't thank the OP for. If that's the case it's more of a pattern of behavior, and I can certainly understand curtailing gift giving for someone who doesn't ever thank you for the gifts.

(I'm confused about what you mean by the "blanket thank you to everyone", but it doesn't sound like the OP received any thank you at all.)

 

[terri01p]

 

[cheermom1]

I could see forgetting to thank someone for one gift during a very hectic time, but it sounds to me like there have been several things that she didn't thank the OP for. If that's the case it's more of a pattern of behavior, and I can certainly understand curtailing gift giving for someone who doesn't ever thank you for the gifts.

(I'm confused about what you mean by the "blanket thank you to everyone", but it doesn't sound like the OP received any thank you at all.)

I know that at my wedding I said "Thank you to everyone for all the gifts" I didn't go around to everyone and say thanks a hundred times nor did I send thank notes. I just didn't have the time, I was preggo plus being a new wife and then having her I was very busy and if someone got mad b/c they didn't think I thanked them "properly" than they can bite me. I don't care if they send me another gift either b/c that just means they have no understanding of situations like that anyway.

but if the op knows that this girl hasn't said thank you in the past than why get mad when she doesn't one time? if she is so worried about stop it giving the gifts if all you want in return is a thank you. or better yet call her and talk to her. how hard is that???

eta: personally if I had given a gift that I didn't get a thank you for I don't think I would have even noticed..

 

[LunchladyDoris]

Meh, I would be a little annoyed but would I remember it a year later? Nope. Would I send a gift again? Yeah. I mean, if she thanked me as she recieved by gift then that is fine with me. I don't need a letter for validation.

 

[terri01p]

 

[Cinderella94]

Get over it?

 

[Cinderella94]

What????? The OP was not mad because she "wasn't thanked a hundred times". Confused much???

I think cheermom1 said "100 times" meaning all the guests at her wedding.

 

[terri01p]

 

[cheermom1]

I think cheermom1 said "100 times" meaning all the guests at her wedding.

yes I didn't individually go up to everyone and said thank you nor did I send a thank you note to anyone. i was way too busy getting ready for my FIRST baby and being a new wife it was all so new and I was just trying to adjust. Plus I was sick the whole time. that is all I am trying to say about this girl, I wonder if the op has even had any contact with her since the wedding? and if not she might not know how it all went good or bad. I do wish the op would come back say weather she has talked to this girl after the wedding. b/c like I said the girl might not even realize she didn't say thank you we do not know.

 

[Mermaid02]

Do you give a gift in order to receive a Thank You card? I don't.

 

[Scurvy]

I think by blanket thank you she is refering to one card for everyone, such as a church that would just post it for all to see.

Oh! Yes, I have heard of that, thanks! Typically I hear of people doing that when a group gives a gift, like when the College of Education got together to send me flowers and I sent a card to the whole department to thank them as a group. I haven't ever heard of anyone doing that to thank people for individual gifts before.

ETA - With the update I see what you were saying, Cheermom1. I've never heard of anyone doing anything like that before. I do think that anyone who chooses to do that does need to understand that many people will likely be offended not to be thanked individually for the gift they took the time to select.

 

[cheermom1]

Oh! Yes, I have heard of that, thanks! Typically I hear of people doing that when a group gives a gift, like when the College of Education got together to send me flowers and I sent a card to the whole department to thank them as a group. I haven't ever heard of anyone doing that to thank people for individual gifts before.

ETA - With the update I see what you were saying, Cheermom1. I've never heard of anyone doing anything like that before. I do think that anyone who chooses to do that does need to understand that many people will likely be offended not to be thanked individually for the gift they took the time to select.

Sorry but where I am from I wouldn't have batted an eye if I didn't get a thank you. I had several close friends that I was involved with their weddings and it was so stressful that I wouldn't have expected them to remember to thank me later. but they did say thank you while they opened the gifts to everyone. I guess I don't get why something like that is a battle that is worth fighting over. I mean we should know most people that we go to their wedding well enough to know if they appreciate the gifts, right?

 

[aprilgail2]

yes I didn't individually go up to everyone and said thank you nor did I send a thank you note to anyone. i was way too busy getting ready for my FIRST baby and being a new wife it was all so new and I was just trying to adjust. Plus I was sick the whole time. that is all I am trying to say about this girl, I wonder if the op has even had any contact with her since the wedding? and if not she might not know how it all went good or bad. I do wish the op would come back say weather she has talked to this girl after the wedding. b/c like I said the girl might not even realize she didn't say thank you we do not know.

OK- even if you were to ill to write thank you notes there is another person that could have sent a thank you note- the HUSBAND!! I know my friend just got married and she wrote the thank yous for her side and he did the thank yous for his side....if the wife was to ill or busy the husband could have stepped up and done it. I have never ever been to a wedding where the couple gave a blanket thank you and that was it-even if they said thank you at the wedding it is followed up by a written one! I have been to one wedding where the couple didn't say or send thank yous- still talked about 5 years later by the family!

 

[cheermom1]

OK- even if you were to ill to write thank you notes there is another person that could have sent a thank you note- the HUSBAND!! I know my friend just got married and she wrote the thank yous for her side and he did the thank yous for his side....if the wife was to ill or busy the husband could have stepped up and done it. I have never ever been to a wedding where the couple gave a blanket thank you and that was it-even if they said thank you at the wedding it is followed up by a written one! I have been to one wedding where the couple didn't say or send thank yous- still talked about 5 years later by the family!

LOL my ex right???

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

i'm pretty sure it's not your cousin TRYING to be rude or anything, but a baby takes up a LOT of your time, ESPICALLY in the first year. she probably just hasn't been able to get around to sending out thank you's


idk i wouldn't get upset over it, but i guess that's just me. i don't go to a wedding expecting a "thank you" i go because i'm happy for the couple.