kamgen said:
Hey everyone. Well, hospice nurse just left. They are giving him hours to days at most.....

Even the nurse was sad....hard to see a 55year old man like this...and today is my parents anniversary....geez, this is hard.

But I want him to be at peace, so I hope he passses soon....goes up with the angels.
Thank you all for your emails, pms and nice comments. I cannot wait to meet you all and thank you personally.
Kamy...
... Our family will be praying for your family. For what-ever it might be worth ... I was the primary care giver for my Mother about 18 years ago in her battle with multple myeloma (a form of cancer in the blood/bone marrow - not leukemia as I understand it). So, I can really relate to what your family might be going through.
Years from now you may look back on this time and see something... what? Who knows... but in myself I think it is a part of life to go through these times with the ones you love and care about. Right now we have near a half dozen who are family or good friends who are facing similar chronic challenges. One example: We have a friend who was just diagnosed with kidney cancer who was cited as having about 20% of a chance for 2 years.... shes' in her early 40s like us with a young child. Circumstances for others deal with similar conditions - all chronic with final outcomes likely - and under half are under age 50. Shoot, I used to not think much about these sort of things but all of a sudden mortality is threatening several folks at or near our age!
I think that in looking back a lot can be gleaned from these times. Adversity builds character in some. Sometimes it might even add some wisdom in others ... or at the very least - an understanding how to improve on the future if similar circumstances are encountered. Either way - we are all survivors in very very difficult times. I imagine that I'm risking something in saying what I'm thinking -
and "just in case" I'd like to offer an apolagy if I have failed to be diplomatic and proper. I just have strong feelings about difficult health challenges like this - and I simply have a profound depth of sympathy for caregivers and family who are fighting through these sort of challenges.
Please hang in there with the best clearity of mind that you can manage ... take care of each other through these times ... and it will get better someday one way or another. And ...
remember too that once in a while predatory people seek out folks undergoing extreme stress... BAD predatory people. <to underscore this point - I believe next months' issue of
MONEY magazine {Nov. p.112} has a story on how smart people get bilked by scams and people practicing financial fraud!> Just last week I was helping my best friends' mother-in-law with a predatory financial salesperson who had probably engaged in senior abuse with HER best friend (who has just passed away). It seems pretty clear to me that this "suspicious" financial salesman in trying to shift money/insurance proceeds around with the mismatched (unsuitable)instruments/products sold amount to
extremely inappropriate counsel . I should have an opinion on this since I've been a wholesaler in financial services for 15+ years with 100s of agents transacting through me. So, be on your guard in these times AND watch over your expanded family in all ,atters (not just financial). You've heard of the adage to never make important decisions when under distress (if possible).
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On a seperate note... my family has been traveling in FL this past weekend so out of touch here these past few days. It's nice to see a nice dialog going!
ANd.... safe Haunting to all this Halloween evening....!
