OP, good luck today. I know that this step of seeing a lawyer is a hard one. I think overall, regardless of what your dh has said, what he is doing, what the girl seems to think is the right thing to do, there are always mixed emotions when seeing a lawyer and knowing that you are disolving your marriage. It is not easy no matter the circumstances.
My dh cheated 3 xs before I had the courage to end it. I found an excuse each and every time. The problem is, I was miserable. The kids were miserable because I was miserable. The only person happy was the ex. He didn't have to feel or be unhappy, things had worked out marvelously for him.
Just remember, your happiness counts. Your baby's happiness counts. The ex and the girl...well, its not looking good for him but thats just an outsiders opinion. Again, right now I would take the high road and let them have each other. Get your life in order. Start the steps to being a single parent. Find happiness in whatever and wherever you can. And 6 months from now, when the reality of his situation sets in you will be much stronger and in a much better place to deal with HIM and whatever you feel is best for your family then. Right now, the shock and the sucker punch along with being pregnant, there is no way you can even remotely work on a relationship with this man and make good and rational decisions. Trust me. No matter what, if you feel someday this can be worked out, you have to give it time. Working it out today is not working it out. It will be giving your dh a chance to take advantage of your emotional state to get his way.
Just be conscience of the fact that really, this isn't about him anymore. Its about where you want to be and how you want to live your life. Take back the power to be happy YOUR way, not his.
Kelly
My dh cheated 3 xs before I had the courage to end it. I found an excuse each and every time. The problem is, I was miserable. The kids were miserable because I was miserable. The only person happy was the ex. He didn't have to feel or be unhappy, things had worked out marvelously for him.
Just remember, your happiness counts. Your baby's happiness counts. The ex and the girl...well, its not looking good for him but thats just an outsiders opinion. Again, right now I would take the high road and let them have each other. Get your life in order. Start the steps to being a single parent. Find happiness in whatever and wherever you can. And 6 months from now, when the reality of his situation sets in you will be much stronger and in a much better place to deal with HIM and whatever you feel is best for your family then. Right now, the shock and the sucker punch along with being pregnant, there is no way you can even remotely work on a relationship with this man and make good and rational decisions. Trust me. No matter what, if you feel someday this can be worked out, you have to give it time. Working it out today is not working it out. It will be giving your dh a chance to take advantage of your emotional state to get his way.
Just be conscience of the fact that really, this isn't about him anymore. Its about where you want to be and how you want to live your life. Take back the power to be happy YOUR way, not his.
Kelly