Yup.....we really ARE going.......and SOON! - Matty's Wish Trip December 12-18, 2009

Thought I'd start adding journal entries consisting of random thoughts, background information, ideas/opinions,whatever........maybe mostly for me as I'll be printing this whole thread out for a remembrance of our trip. Of course any and everyone else is welcome to read them as well. It might make following along on our journey a bit more personal, with an "insider's view". I must alert you however that this first one might be too serious for some. I'll just entitle it "My Matty:love:"

Matty? What can I say about my Matty? Matty was born on January 1st, 2003. HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!! He was perfect:lovestruc At 8 1/2 pounds he was the biggest of my babies with the chubbiest little face and the biggest blue eyes and a crown of strawberry blonde hair:eek: Where did that come from?????? To this day we still aren't quite so sure (nope, the mailman doesn't have red hair either). By looking at him you'd never have suspected how wrong things had gone inside that little chest of his. Fortunately, we already knew.

The news had been delivered that previous October. After a questionable 20 week scan (gotta love those huh?) there were a number of follow-ups that eventually led to a referral to Boston Children's Hospital for a fetal echocardiogram. Dh and I went to that appt. full of optimism. "It'll be fine" we would tell each other. The referring radiologist had led us to believe we were facing a relatively small defect that could be corrected in a single, rather routine, uncomplicated surgical procedure right after birth. Ok.....so not what we were hoping for but, that was doable. He would be ok. Unfortunately though the radiologist was not the one with the final say. That honor belonged to the fetal echocardiogram and the fetal echocardiogram had something quite different to reveal.

Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome. That was the diagnosis. Ummmmmmm, let's just say......"not good". How 'bout "devastating". I remember the cardiologist delivering the news in a small, cold, quiet room. I didn't say much. I looked like I was listening. I wasn't though. I checked out pretty much after I heard words like.............life-threatening, open heart surgeries, heart transplants, risks, complications etc. etc. etc. When the meeting (torture session was more like it) was over, Jaime (our beloved pediatric cardiolgist still to this day:hug:) noted that I had handled the news remarkably well.......better than most. Little did she know however that on the way back to the elevator I ducked into an empty room and collapsed in tears.

Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome. What the heck is that you say? In simple terms a life-threatening congenital heart condition characterized by a complex set of heart defects incompatible with life. The most prominent defect is an underdeveloped and, as a result, nonfunctional left ventricle; hence the name "hypoplastic LEFT heart". Left untreated a newborn baby will die within a week. The treatment? A series of open-heart surgeries (generally 3, sometimes more depending on complications) within the first 3-4 years of life OR a heart transplant. Until the 1980's all babies born with this condition simply died. They often referred to them as 'blue babies'. My Dad (now 80 yrs old) tells me of his brother, a 'blue baby' who died at birth. Hmmmmmmmm.....makes me wonder.

It's been over 20 yrs since they pioneered the surgeries that now give these babies a chance at life. It's not a cure per se. Their hearts are not fixed. There's still alot of funky stuff going on in there. But they work:) The surgeries manipulate the anatomy and physiology in such a way that the heart works and supports life. For how long no one is quite sure yet. In the fall that Matty was diagnosed Boston Children's Hospital was also pioneering a fetal intervention; a surgical intervention that might alter the course of the disease process in utero. They asked us if we were interested in participating. There were no guarantees and in fact, there were serious risks. But we decided Matty deserved a chance to avoid all the surgeries and the life-long uncertainties that would come with being born with HLHS. So we said yes. We were the 8th to have the procedure done. I was 25 wks pregnant.

Long story short, the next 13 weeks were filled with countless fetal echocardiograms in an effort to check for positive changes. We had such high hopes. But in the end, Matty was still born with HLHS (albeit with a better than average prognosis due to anatomical specifics - i.e. an aorta that was near normal size-wise......something not typical of HLHS.......................we attribute this to the fetal intervention). Our journey had begun.

I won't bore you (or myself) with the details of the next 6 yrs. Suffice to say we have had more than our share of open-heart surgeries and other related procedures; lots of doctors visits, medications etc. We've had issues with eating (my carpets will forever be a reminder of the days of projectile vomiting:eek:). We've had issues with growth. Matty is a tiny bundle of energy. He and his 4 yr old brother (Matty will be 7 in January) are pretty much head to head. He is such a skinny little bean. Not even ON the charts:laughing: But that's ok. Developmentally he was always on the later end of normal, but he always got to where he needed to be, just in his own timeframe. He started Kindergarten this year (I waited an extra year) and he absolutely loves it:) I expect some academic struggles because of the first two years of life when his oxygen levels were soooooo low (high 60's/low 70's for the first 6 months; low to mid 80's until age 2..............now in the high 90's. For those who don't know, 100 is normal). But that's ok. He's here. He's living the life of a normal little boy. That's a gift in of itself.

So Matty. Who is Matty? A crazy, silly, fun and fascinating little creature; always on-the-go and ready to have a good time. He'll try almost anything (at least once:)). He loves adventure. He loves amusement parks and water parks. He LOVES Elmo (just don't tell his friends;)). He loves his swimming lessons (ok, so no matter he's been in the pollywog class for 2 yrs now:confused3); is an orange belt in karate; takes tennis lessons (his favorite sport) and rock-climbing:eek:, and learned how to ski last year! Matty has an infectious laugh. He is sweet. Still alittle shy and reserved among those he does not know but we're working on that. And, truth be told, he's a momma's boy:lovestruc (how lucky am I???????)

I still can't believe MAW is doing this for my little kooky kid. He sooo deserves it. It's just gonna be great!!!!!!!!


More pictures coming soon

Pamela:santa:
 
Thank you for sharing more about Matty and what he's been through. :hug: I truly believe our kids are stronger individuals for everything they have to go through. While I realize everything is relative, there are times I feel like telling people how much worse it could be when they're complaining about their child's cold, or strep throat, etc.

And woooohoooo for the trip packet! So excited for you guys!
 
Such a great attitude - thank you so much Pamela for sharing Matty with us!!

counting blessings - easier than counting tears! I know when dd was born, I thought she was so beautiful, so special, I had this prayer ' please God let me keep her" - and every struggle we go through - I think blessings... count the blessings of today - not the "what ifs"

easier said than done some days!!

Your trip packet came!! :cool1:

wonder if you could exchange one of those Birnbaum books for the kids edition?
 
I first learned about hypoplastic left heart syndrome two years ago when a single dad in my neighborhood approached me about babysitting. We had met in a community special needs kids group. He was worried about her social skills as she approached Kinder because she had lived so much of her life in the hospital. She was a smart little tyke, and opened up to us very quickly. Isn't it amazing how far the medical world has come in the last couple of decades? Thank heaven! I loved you description of Matty, especially the infectious laugh.
 

Thank you so much for sharing some more about Matty!

I am so excited that I will get to meet you guys!! :)

You have reminded me that I need to print Lauren's MAW TR - I still have not done that yet.
 
ok time for pictures:yay: I'm so proud of myself!
I'll just entitle them "Matty through the years" (although you'll notice he doesn't change much LOL)





"I've had better days" (days after birth)
mattyhospitaltake2.jpg


"I'm a star!" (6 months of age)
mattylivnicktake2.jpg


"whattaya lookin' at?" (9 months of age)
daddyandmattytake2.jpg


"whattaya think of my hat?" (first birthday)
mattybdayhattake2.jpg


"just call me Matty Magoo!" (about 18 mos of age)
mattymagootake2.jpg


"I'm the little brother" (about 2 1/2 yrs of age)
mattyandnickytake2.jpg


"I'm a handsome devil" (Easter '07, 4yo)
mattyeastertake2.jpg


"haven't changed a bit" (Xmas '07, one week shy of 5 yo)
mattyxmas07take2.jpg


"momma and me" (fall '08, 5 1/2 yo)
mattyandmomma08take2.jpg


and a copy of the most recent......Sept '09
mattyfall09take2-1.jpg





Sorry for the excess!! I just couldn't resist. Maybe I can go back and resize the photos from the other day......now that I know what I'm doing haha

Pamela
 
Awwww! So cute! I love how he goes from a tiny little peanut to a total chub at 18 mos. :) I'm so glad you figured it all out. I can't wait to meet the rest of the family.
 
There is no such thing as excess when it comes to pictures! Really. We LOVE pictures!

He is so adorable!
 
Awww! Matty is adorable and thanks for adding more of his story. Poor little guy has been through so much.
 
Hi Pamela,

I just stumbled over your TR while looking through the Wish Trippers thread. I've had to change my username (used to be just Khalana) as for some reason I'm not able to log in (even after resetting my password :confused3). Anyways, my daughter Lydia went on her Wish Trip last December. She also has heart issues (several left heart stuff and had OH for a coarct and a pda) and is now most likely (no other viable option) going on the transplant list after Christmas. Pretty scary, but as long as she gets a heart and survives, we'll be happy. :) We will actually be in the Orlando area around the same time as you and will visit GKTW one of the days. It would be fun to meet up (we haven't booked our tickets yet). Meeting another heart mom is always encouraging. It might not work with your schedule, but if it does it would be fun. :thumbsup2
 
Hi Pamela,

I just stumbled over your TR while looking through the Wish Trippers thread. I've had to change my username (used to be just Khalana) as for some reason I'm not able to log in (even after resetting my password :confused3). Anyways, my daughter Lydia went on her Wish Trip last December. She also has heart issues (several left heart stuff and had OH for a coarct and a pda) and is now most likely (no other viable option) going on the transplant list after Christmas. Pretty scary, but as long as she gets a heart and survives, we'll be happy. :) We will actually be in the Orlando area around the same time as you and will visit GKTW one of the days. It would be fun to meet up (we haven't booked our tickets yet). Meeting another heart mom is always encouraging. It might not work with your schedule, but if it does it would be fun. :thumbsup2

Oh my gosh!!!!! Hello!

Have you emailed a Mod? To try to get your account unlocked?

I am so, so sorry to hear about Lydia going on the transplant list. :hug:

I will also be in Disney at the same time!! :) Maybe we can connect!!
 
Oh my gosh!!!!! Hello!

Have you emailed a Mod? To try to get your account unlocked?

I am so, so sorry to hear about Lydia going on the transplant list. :hug:

I will also be in Disney at the same time!! :) Maybe we can connect!!

Hi Maroo! :)

No, I'm not sure where to find a mod email thingy? :confused3

Would be fun to meet! :thumbsup2
 
Hi Pamela! As another Central MA person, I just wanted to stop in and see how your planning is going. I love all the family fluff - your pics are great! Did Matty have his heart surgery at Children's? Both of my girls are followed by cardiology there, as they both have ASDs. And I love your energy.:banana:

How have you found working with the MA MAW chapter? We are just in the very initial stages of planning, though I have been verbally assured that Ali has a wish-qualifying diagnosis. I filled out the online form last week, but I haven't heard anything else yet. Did you start the process with a phonecall? How long did it take from initial referral to approval?

Anyhow, I have subscribed and I look forward to following you through planning and the actual trip!

Kelly
 
SA_WEEEEETTTT!!!!! That is so exciting!!!

Now 1 question before I go beating down my mail lady lol. Did you get yours in the mail because you are not having a send off party?

Nobody ever mentioned to me to be looking in the mail, but we are supposed to have aour granters come out on Dec 1 for our send off. They just said theat they would be bringing food for dinner and our tickets. They are bringing pizza for everyone except Alyssa and I because we have wheat allergies so we are getting Wendy's baked potatoes ( I just tried to make it easy for them).

Right now the odds are they may have to bring our send off to the hospital because I think she is going to be admitted :sad1:.

At least she would have that to look forward too.

Since we are going on the same dates Im just wondering how different our chapters are?

SO THRILLED!!! NOW WE HAVE TO PICK A TIME TO MEET AND SAY HELLO!!! Im going to go back and look at your schedule and see what days we might be at the same places.

:rainbow::rainbow:


Hi Chrissie,

The Wish Kit actually came from WDW not GKTW or our MAW chapter. I have no idea whether or not they are plannning anything more than a meeting to drop off the tickets/expense check etc. We didn't talk about that at our first meeting and all my contact since that meeting has been with the rep in the office, not with the Wish volunteers.

We absolutely do have to connect. This is such an unexpected benefit of having gotten involved in this forum.......being able to connect in person with those of like minds going through similar experiences........and what incredible experiences they are going to be:cool1:

Pamela:santa:
 
You guys are worse night-owls than me! But what a pleasant midnight surprise!

Take this with a large grain, since we haven't been yet, but my understanding is that the stickers are in addition to the the button. I remember reading one mom's blog who took the stickers to an office supply place and had them turned into buttons as well. If things play out in a similar timeline for us that is what I plan to do also, since both of my girls would have theirs in shreds within the first hour.


You have noooooo idea!!!! This has completely thrown me for a loop as far as my sleep schedule is concerned. Since dh doesn't generally come home until later I don't get started 'til late and then up all night which THEN results in my being useless during the day! So what do I do??? Nap!!! THEN I'm wide awake again at night and the pattern continues. :sad2: Oh well.....all for a good cause right?????:)

Thanx for the info on the stickers and buttons. I hid them from my kids just in case. They'd be lucky to last 24 hours if they saw them!

Pamela
 
Those stickers will NOT replace the button.

Honestly...until about 3 weeks ago...I had NO idea that anyone would recognize those stickers at all.

But when I was talking to the Marketing person for PhotoPass, she mentioned that they use the "Genie" to alert CM's about a Wish Family. I told her that we never did know what to do with the stickers. :rotfl:

You will still get the magic button...and you will still get a GAC card issued by GKTW...but, heck, I would wear the stickers, too! :rotfl2: Can't hurt! :yay:

We got our packet when they came to give us our itenarary (how on earth do you spell that?!?!?)...

Yeah, and how practical is that????? STICKERS with kids? And your supposed to use the same ones ALL week:eek:? Well, ok..........I lie.......they did give us enough for 2 for each person. Perhaps they thought they'd help us minimize the need for luggage..................2 outfits per person:sad2:


btw: Itinerary. I-T-I-N-E-R-A-R-Y Itinerary.


Pamela
 
Thanx for the kind words on the pictures guys. I no longer feel guilty for the excess and would be more than happy to bore you with many many more:)

Pamela:santa:
 
Hi Pamela,

I just stumbled over your TR while looking through the Wish Trippers thread. I've had to change my username (used to be just Khalana) as for some reason I'm not able to log in (even after resetting my password :confused3). Anyways, my daughter Lydia went on her Wish Trip last December. She also has heart issues (several left heart stuff and had OH for a coarct and a pda) and is now most likely (no other viable option) going on the transplant list after Christmas. Pretty scary, but as long as she gets a heart and survives, we'll be happy. :) We will actually be in the Orlando area around the same time as you and will visit GKTW one of the days. It would be fun to meet up (we haven't booked our tickets yet). Meeting another heart mom is always encouraging. It might not work with your schedule, but if it does it would be fun. :thumbsup2

Hi Khalana!!!!!!

I'm so sorry to hear about Lydia's recent turn of events healthwise. Crossing my fingers for some miracle for you so that a transplant isn't necessary but, you are oh so right.........you just want her here, healthy and happy and if it takes a heart transplant to make that happen, then you just go with it.

Medical technology is an amazing thing isn't it? Heart transplants, while certainly still very scary, are so much more routine now. And the whole possibility of artificial hearts??????!!!!! I know for me that knowledge keeps the hope alive that Matty will indeed have the opportunity to live a long happy life.

So when will you be in Orlando? Are you going to WDW? I'd love to hook up. I'm sure we can make it work somehow:)

Pamela:santa:
 











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