StitchesGr8Fan
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- Jul 17, 2009
Here is the background:
My DD is on a developmental dance team, and has gotten close to one of the girls on the team. I’ve gotten to be friends with this dancer’s mom, as well as all the other moms of girls in the group, so people tell me things.
This other dancer has a younger sibling that is out of control. She has been like this for the 3 years I’ve known this family. They make her come to the studio for all of her sister’s classes. She runs around the viewing area screaming, bumping in to people, being mean to other kids. The parents do nothing. The mom has admitted they are frustrated with her behavior, but they don’t do anything to discipline her in public. They just bring a tablet which doesn’t keep her entertained for long. The dad is oblivious as the mom is dealing with all of her kids.
Multiple parents have complained about this child to the studio manager (not the owner). I know because they told me they’ve complained. The studio manager has put up signs about behavior and has advised the front desk staff to say something when any kid is acting up. It hasn’t done anything to make the situation better. Some of the parents are actually choosing classes for next year based on when this sibling won’t be in the building.
Another layer of complexity - this family’s business is a major sponsor of the studio. The people who have put 2 and 2 together think that this is why the child is allowed to act this way.
I have said nothing to the other mom about the complaints because the studio owner doesn’t like drama. She is a sweet woman and is overwhelmed with all her kids and having to deal with this one with extreme behavior issues. This child wants to be in the developmental group for younger kids next year but her behavior might keep her out of it.
Here is my WWYD - Should I say something to mom? I think it would be heartbreaking for her to get a letter (which is what the manager is considering) about this kid’s behavior. There is also time to turn things around so that this child could still be accepted in to the developmental program. I feel like it might blindside her that people have complained and it would be better to hear from a friend that the issue is being escalated rather than from the studio.
I’m leaning toward just staying silent. But I keep thinking if I was in her shoes I would want someone to tell me.
My DD is on a developmental dance team, and has gotten close to one of the girls on the team. I’ve gotten to be friends with this dancer’s mom, as well as all the other moms of girls in the group, so people tell me things.
This other dancer has a younger sibling that is out of control. She has been like this for the 3 years I’ve known this family. They make her come to the studio for all of her sister’s classes. She runs around the viewing area screaming, bumping in to people, being mean to other kids. The parents do nothing. The mom has admitted they are frustrated with her behavior, but they don’t do anything to discipline her in public. They just bring a tablet which doesn’t keep her entertained for long. The dad is oblivious as the mom is dealing with all of her kids.
Multiple parents have complained about this child to the studio manager (not the owner). I know because they told me they’ve complained. The studio manager has put up signs about behavior and has advised the front desk staff to say something when any kid is acting up. It hasn’t done anything to make the situation better. Some of the parents are actually choosing classes for next year based on when this sibling won’t be in the building.
Another layer of complexity - this family’s business is a major sponsor of the studio. The people who have put 2 and 2 together think that this is why the child is allowed to act this way.
I have said nothing to the other mom about the complaints because the studio owner doesn’t like drama. She is a sweet woman and is overwhelmed with all her kids and having to deal with this one with extreme behavior issues. This child wants to be in the developmental group for younger kids next year but her behavior might keep her out of it.
Here is my WWYD - Should I say something to mom? I think it would be heartbreaking for her to get a letter (which is what the manager is considering) about this kid’s behavior. There is also time to turn things around so that this child could still be accepted in to the developmental program. I feel like it might blindside her that people have complained and it would be better to hear from a friend that the issue is being escalated rather than from the studio.
I’m leaning toward just staying silent. But I keep thinking if I was in her shoes I would want someone to tell me.