WWYD??? Christmas Exchange

[debbiedoo]

Say there was an exchange, and it was decided that the gift limit was $50. Then you find out that the person did not do a gift for $50, and went under the amount.

What would you do in this situation?

 

[MushyMushy]

I try to think the best of everyone, so I'd assume there was a good reason for it. I might do a mental eye roll if I suspected the person was just cheaping out, but I'd never really "do" anything about it.

 

[CEDmom]

Did the person buy something on sale that was originally $50? If so I don't see the problem. If not I'm not sure what you can rdo that wouldn't be a display of bad manners.

 

[debbiedoo]

I do not see a problem if the items were originally 50 either, but in this situation they were not. It was agreed maybe 2 wks ago, that this friend and i would do 50. We trade every year, and decided to set a limit since everyone's finances were tight this yr.

IMHO if the friend did not want to exchange this yr, due to many reasons just like the rest of us, I would have understood, and I did say that to this friend.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Nothing? Just because the limit is $50, doesn't mean the gift had to cost $50. Anything under $20 (when the gift limit is $50) is a little tacky, imo, but I still wouldn't do anything.

 

[paigevz]

Bad form for the friend, but you should do nothing. As I tell my schoolkids in their gift exchange, it's about the GIVING, not really the getting. Yes, your friend should have honored the agreement, but in this case, anything less than graciously accepting what you've been given is stooping to her/his level.

 

[debbiedoo]

The gift was in the $20 range

I know Christmas is about giving, and ppl that know me, know I am a generous person.

I know that there is not alot I can do. . . just wanted opinions.

 

[paigevz]

I didn't mean to sound preachy, that wasn't my intent. I was just giving my opinion. Sorry.

 

[debbiedoo]

I didn't mean to sound preachy, that wasn't my intent. I was just giving my opinion. Sorry.

you did not sound preachy

 

[BabyPiglet]

Nothing? Just because the limit is $50, doesn't mean the gift had to cost $50. Anything under $20 (when the gift limit is $50) is a little tacky, imo, but I still wouldn't do anything.

ITA.

The limit was $50, but it doesn't mean you have to spend $50.

 

[Aunt Michelle]

I do not see a problem if the items were originally 50 either, but in this situation they were not. It was agreed maybe 2 wks ago, that this friend and i would do 50. We trade every year, and decided to set a limit since everyone's finances were tight this yr.

IMHO if the friend did not want to exchange this yr, due to many reasons just like the rest of us, I would have understood, and I did say that to this friend.

Maybe her finances were a little tighter than she let on and she was too embarrassed to tell you? I wouldn't do anything. I mean the object of setting a limit is so people don't go hog wild, not to get people to buy you a gift for that amount. JMHO

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Did you bake her yummy stuff?

As far as your friend, I agree that there's not much you can do. Sounds like for some reason she cheaped out of you, which is too bad. I wouldn't do it next year, either.

 

["Got Disney"]

first of all $50 for a gift exchange is a lot IMO...unless it is for a family member.

If I knew that this person had no $ and even $20 was a stretch than I would understand and except what was offered with a smile.

If the person makes enough $$$$ to afford it but went the cheep way out just because....than I would feel insulted, but not say anything. Just hope you don't get this person again next year, but if you do be prepared for the same

Merry Christmas

 

[debbiedoo]

Did you bake her yummy stuff?

As far as your friend, I agree that there's not much you can do. Sounds like for some reason she cheaped out of you, which is too bad. I wouldn't do it next year, either.

Not everyone get my yummy goodies When my arm was hurt, I was not able to do what I normally do, but I did fullfill the limit that was agreed on. This friend has received them in the past though.

[QUOTE="Got Disney";22243523]first of all $50 for a gift exchange is a lot IMO...unless it is for a family member.

If I knew that this person had no $ and even $20 was a strech than I would understand and except what was offered with a smile.

If the person makes enough $$$$ to afford it but went the cheep way out just because....than I would feel insulted, but not say anything. Just hope you don't get this person again next year, but if you do be prepared for the same

Merry Christmas[/QUOTE]

This was a good friend, have known this person for a few yrs. The limit was set due to several reasons, we both have a lot of ppl to buy for, which was understood with the economy and the way it is right now.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Personally, if the limit is $50 I would spend close to that, if not that much (and sometimes over if I wanted to and was able). It's one thing to spend a little less, but around $20?

 

[disykat]

While I agree it would seem odd if they just gave something REAAALLY cheap, I always though the gift limit was the maximum to spend, not the target.

I do admit that for a family member I found the perfect thing for $20 and our limit is $40 and I do fell obligated to sort of "fill in" a bit with something else. It still won't hit $40 though.

 

[debbiedoo]

Personally, if the limit is $50 I would spend close to that, if not that much (and sometimes over if I wanted to and was able). It's one thing to spend a little less, but around $20?

Exaxtly. . . I would ball park in 45 to 55 range. When I shop for things, I am like, BOOM that is the gift for so and so. If that item is not what was agreed upon, then I get a few things to get to that amount.

I guess I was brought up different than some ppl, I was brought up to be a giving person, and to make others smile, and make them happy. I do have a gift for shopping for others, it is hard to explain. Just like with you Tig, I had NO idea that pralines were your favorite!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Exaxtly. . . I would ball park in 45 to 55 range. When I shop for things, I am like, BOOM that is the gift for so and so. If that item is not what was agreed upon, then I get a few things to get to that amount.

I guess I was brought up different than some ppl, I was brought up to be a giving person, and to make others smile, and make them happy. I do have a gift for shopping for others, it is hard to explain. Just like with you Tig, I had NO idea that pralines were your favorite!

They're bear claws. I made the mistake of telling my husband about the shortbread thingies that have pecans on them and he likes them. Darn.

 

[debbiedoo]

They're bear claws.

yes bear claws!!!

and here there are gang:

 

[Liberty Belle]

Exaxtly. . . I would ball park in 45 to 55 range. When I shop for things, I am like, BOOM that is the gift for so and so. If that item is not what was agreed upon, then I get a few things to get to that amount.

I guess I was brought up different than some ppl, I was brought up to be a giving person, and to make others smile, and make them happy. I do have a gift for shopping for others, it is hard to explain. Just like with you Tig, I had NO idea that pralines were your favorite!

Are you talking about your friend here or some of the people in this thread. I hope that just because we don't agree with you, you don't think we were brought up any differently than you.