wow, just wow

Lorelei Lee

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How do you have the chutzpah to actually write a letter to someone and tell them what not to post on Facebook?

I mean, we all know there folks who talk about you behind your back, who pick apart what you post on the internet. I unfriended someone who was a FB friend but who was taking shots at me on a message board.

And I do understand about FB news feeds. I mean, I had an elderly cousin who asked me to stop posting so much political stuff on my FB page (he was voting for the other guy). I didn't stop posting, but I filtered what status updates he could see on his news feed.

And I have a friend who likes to post about a favorite band. He posts about it a lot. I mean, like every night. One of his so-called "friends" told him to stop posting about the band. I told him "I don't know anything about the band except what you post, I don't even like the band, but it gives you pleasure to talk about it, so keep posting." Needless to say, Mr. Negativity was eventually unfriended. My friend is still posting about the band.
 
http://www.jsonline.com/news/facebook-friend-sends-anonymous-note-stop-the-vacation-postings-b99193584z1-242449741.html How do you have the chutzpah to actually write a letter to someone and tell them what not to post on Facebook? I mean, we all know there folks who talk about you behind your back, who pick apart what you post on the internet. I unfriended someone who was a FB friend but who was taking shots at me on a message board. And I do understand about FB news feeds. I mean, I had an elderly cousin who asked me to stop posting so much political stuff on my FB page (he was voting for the other guy). I didn't stop posting, but I filtered what status updates he could see on his news feed. And I have a friend who likes to post about a favorite band. He posts about it a lot. I mean, like every night. One of his so-called "friends" told him to stop posting about the band. I told him "I don't know anything about the band except what you post, I don't even like the band, but it gives you pleasure to talk about it, so keep posting." Needless to say, Mr. Negativity was eventually unfriended. My friend is still posting about the band.

Crazy!!! Just click the unfriend or unfollow button.

That said, DH and I are mindful not to boast or brag about vacations on FB. Many of our friends and family are not as lucky as us to travel as much as we do. We will post a few photos when we get back, but not post anything leading up to the trip or photos/posts while we are on the trip.

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That's crazy. I could possibly see complaining to somebody(to their face, not through an anonymous letter) if they were posting things that are actually inappropriate(even on facebook I've seen pictures that show way more than I want to see) but more likely than not I'd just unfriend them. Why waste your time. Even if the person writing the letter was in the right(which they aren't) did they really think something positive would ever come out of this? Did they think these people were just going to say "you're right, it's selfish of us, we'll stop posting about things that make us happy since it upsets you"?
 
My personal rule is that I don't post anything on FB, or elsewhere on the net, that I wouldn't want to see on the front page of the NY Times.

But if I want to talk about sports or politics or music or my vacation, I'm going to. You don't like it, hit the "back" button.
 

I agree...if I don't like what someone posts on their account, I unfriend. Then I don't have to see it anymore. If they are posting about games that I don't play or don't want to play, I block the posts from the games. (Lots of people get upset if they see that kind of stuff....and all they have to do is just block the game...)

I have one friend who gets aggravated when he posts something that his "friends" don't agree with, and he has deactivated his FB account (or threatened to) several times. Uh...you know...just unfriend the person who offends you (or understand their "can we agree to disagree" posts...) :rolleyes:
 
I've found that the easiest, non-offensive way to handle those friends who inundate you with stuff every day is to just unfollow them instead of unfriending them. They stay on your friend list, but doesn't add their posts to your news feed. You can always go to their page if you're curious, but it can cut down on the stuff that shows up each day. :)
 
I have a Facebook friend who likes to enter contests of the "comment and share this post to enter" variety. It got so bad I was having to wade through dozens of these junk posts a day in order to read posts I actually cared about. What did I do about it? I figured out how to block her posts from my newsfeed. Now I don't have to see them anymore and I didn't need to say anything to her about it. Pretty simple.
 
I blocked my cousin's posts on my newsfeed because I disagree with his constant political opinions. Better than unfriend, which would cause family issues. I occasionally look at his page to see if there's something I should see. If he wasn't family, I would unfriend. He got mad because I told him to stop emailing me political stuff during the last election.
 
Even if you don't want to unfriend someone on Facebook, you can still hide all their posts from your news feed. So if you are worried about offending them by unfriending (although whoever wrote that letter was CLEARLY not worried about offending the couple!), they still don't have to see their posts. I did that with a co-worker who regularly updates her status with complaints about EVERYTHING. I got sick of seeing it, so I hid all of her posts.

However, good on that couple for being able to take so many vacations!
 
I'd probably ramp UP my vacation posts if I were them. Or, make a giant collage of all my vacation photos in the shape of a middle finger.
 
This happened to my cousin as well. She's expecting a baby and very happy in her new house w/ the baby's father and got an anonymous letter about how people are sick of seeing how happy she is.
 
Crazy!!! Just click the unfriend or unfollow button.

That said, DH and I are mindful not to boast or brag about vacations on FB. Many of our friends and family are not as lucky as us to travel as much as we do. We will post a few photos when we get back, but not post anything leading up to the trip or photos/posts while we are on the trip.

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+100 to your post. Hiding someone's feed is like the easiest thing in the world.
 
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I cannot count the number of ways that I am annoyed by the person that sent that letter and the letter itself. But here are the top 5:

1) Everybody knows how to use Facebook in a way that allows you to view only the content you want to view

2) How cowardly to go to the effort of not only sending it anonymously but also sending it from a city where you don't reside; that just means that you KNOW what you're doing is not right

3) "Go have some kids and stop thinking about yourselves all the time"...not only is that statement incredibly offensive on so many levels and absolutely NONE of the senders' business, but if that person is close enough to receive their Christmas card then they KNOW the woman is a psychotherapist who helps abused children and that they do Big Brothers/Sisters...that is WAY more than most people do for their communities whether they have children or not.

4) Why is the sender so entitled and immature that if they can't have something this couple has then the couple doesn't have the right to enjoy it?

5) Why doesn't the sender redirect the obvious energy they put into writing this letter then jumping through hoops to send it from Miami and focus it on improving their own life?
 
Crazy!!! Just click the unfriend or unfollow button.

That said, DH and I are mindful not to boast or brag about vacations on FB. Many of our friends and family are not as lucky as us to travel as much as we do. We will post a few photos when we get back, but not post anything leading up to the trip or photos/posts while we are on the trip.

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I agree on the bragging. The list of vacations did seem braggadocios.
 


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