IdesOmarch
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I'm not married.
I'm not married.
Oh, so if you're in a committed relationship, live together, and have children together, it's not immature/unhealthy/crazy to have an affair?
We are still friends and have a good relationship. I actually haven't done anything......yet.
Haven't done anything as any new activity with a new person. WHy do you care so much about what I'm doing? Living vicariously?
Boy, I've been wasting my time on Facebook....just chatting with friends about my upcoming trip to WDW, discussing family matters with my sister, looking at pictures from a friend's trip...while all this time I could be hooking up. Just goes to show you that most people are using Facebook for fun.
OP, it's well known how much you hate Facebook. I suggest you leave it, reunion or not.
That was the old Ides, the new Ides LOVES facebook.
And as far as hypocrisy goes, I didn't say I was judging anyone, or saying they were necessarily wrong about what they are doing. I just find it very interesting. And as you can probably imagine, I'm not giving YOU the full story either.![]()
Well, you did say that it was crazy and they were acting like teenagers, but maybe that's not a negative thing for you?
Wow never knew how many married women were so eager and anxious to cheat on their husbands until I got on Facebook. Then there is the type that publicly posts about how great their husband is and all the great things he does, meanwhile she's cheating.
Then there's the two women politely chatting with each other about mundane things, both married, both not even knowing what they have in common which is they're both cheating with the same guy.
Even weirder one woman in particular is a great person, good mom, involved in all types of charities, posting on FBook about how great things are at home, but all while living a double life. I see now how FBook can cause so much drama, it's toppled governments I see so easily now how it can topple marraiges.
Wow, Ides, what kind of idiot friends do you have?![]()
I couldn't agree more.
I know of many of affairs (among my social circle) that started on Facebook.
One was actually 'outed' on it too.
Another women, even though it is well known she had an affair on her H, now completely overcompensates with all her post about how great her H is and all the wonderful things they do together. All her pictures she posts of her and he H kissing, hugging etc. IT made me sick so I deleted her.
You can really get a sense of people's character by what they post on FB. I have seen a lot of people who come across as very self-centered, narcissistic, trouble makers, drama queens...etc.
I very rarely go on FB now because of it all. I have come close many times to deleting my acct. but, I like keeping in touch with my family and friends who live far away. I went through a mass deletion of many "friends" instead of deleting the acct. Then I hide myself from them.![]()
Isn't the minimum age on Facebook 13? Why in the name of all that's holy did she let her eight-year-old join?![]()
You do realize that most people who cheat aren't really looking to cheat. It isn't like they set out one day thinking "I'd like to cheat on my wife/husband. Who's willing???"
They tend to be missing something inside THEMSELVES, find validation and that "new love" connection and fall into cheating. Most cheating starts out on the emotional level with bad boundaries...flirting, attention and grows into a cheating relationship.
Facebook makes it VERY easy to reconnect with crushes, flirt and chat w/out your spouses knowledge. It is a place where boundaries are crosses easily.
YES, it is 100% the cheating spouses fault and they are responsible but Facebook opens up avenues to cheating that weren't there before. It makes it easier. Just like researchers in the 60's noticed that the growth of professional women in the workplace resulted in more cheating.
It certainly isn't Facebook's fault and it doesn't stop me from having an account but it isn't as black and white as people make it seem.
See what happened since they let women learn to read? First they start writing.... then they start sinning.
And Ides, of course you've had offers. They can't help themselves.