Would you let your child(ren) go to WDW with someone else?

[golfgal]

I know many will disagree but the truth of the matter is not letting your kids go to WDW is not keeping them in a bubble, or not letting them spread their wings. I am a parent who wouldn't let my kids (at the age they are now) travel 2000 miles away without me or my dh, if you want to call me selfish because of that, I'm okay with that. My kids aren't living in "my bubble" and they certainly aren't at a loss for wordly experiences, they just happen to be included in ours, their parents. When they are old enough that I trust them to be able to handle any situation that arises without us, they are free to go, until then they are not, afterall they are still my children, and I do know whats best for them

How old are your kids though?

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Originally Posted by DeniseinNS
I wouldn't let anyone else, including close family that I totally trust take my kids on vacation without myself or my husband there.

Any particular reason why?



I feel that at 8 and 4 they are still way too young to be travelling with anyone but us. We enjoying planning and taking ALL of our vacations together and have no desire to vacation without the kids or let the kids vacation with others. You never know what emergency could happen so I like them to be close enough to be able to get to them quickly if need be. Disney would be a definate no for me, especially since it's in a different country.

8 and 4 is TOTALLY different than 11 and 14.

 

[Had2stopLurking]

Wow. You would really trust everyone who is a part of your daily life to take your child on vacation? I have plenty of people I'm close to who would have done a terrible job of watching my child on vacation. Maybe they don't know much about kids and wouldn't know what things to watch for or be careful of, maybe they tend to be more lax -or strict - in their parenting style than I am comfortable with, maybe they tend to be a little flighty or forgetful, maybe they already have several kids to keep up with and I don't think they could focus adequately on my child in the heavy crowds of WDW . . . there are plenty of reasons I might not have felt comfortable with someone taking my son on vacation while he was too young to watch out for himself. Those certainly aren't reasons to cut them out of my life, but they are good reasons not to send my child on vacation with them.

Yes. I would totally trust any close friend or family member that I am in regular contact with to take my child on vacation. If many people have done a terrible job of watching your child, maybe it's the child that is the variable?

The people that I am close to are really close, so we know the characteristics of the children and are accustomed to it. The children spend time at each others homes, ect, regularly, and we are all familiar with how they respond to situations. Overnights are not uncommon in my circle of family/friends.

This is one reason we have not taken my younger niece with us, because she's the "baby" and is treated as such. My sister knows that spoiled stuff doesn't fly with me and I refuse to give in to the whims of her youngest. It's not a big deal when you discuss it with people you are close to. Most people know how their children are with others, so, if your child is spoiled, then, you would probably be in the "not letting them go with you" camp. (personally, I wouldn't even offer; hence why we take the oldest but not the youngest)

If you think that's unfair that I do that, that doesn't concern me. I am close enough to my sister to tell her that I wouldn't be able to handle her youngest for more than a day or two at a time.

Don't get me wrong, we take the youngest (4 yrs old) to do a TON of stuff on weekends without the oldest, but the oldest knows she gets to go to Disney and doesn't rub it in.

I just don't think that I could consider myself close enough to someone to NOT allow them to take my child out of town on vacation. It's not like it's a professional work relationship; it's supposedly a close friendship.

If I don't have the type of friendship/relationship that I wouldn't trust them to take care of my child, then, that isn't considered a friendship; it's a casual relationship that can be dismissed.

 

[torinsmom]

I've asked several times and all I get is that they won't let them go without them. When I mentioned that it hurt my feelings that they would let the kids go to camp with people they don't know, my sister said that WDW is a lot more dangerous than the camp. I agree it is there prerogative to make decisions that I don't agree with; I just feel bad for the kids, since they really want to go.

They don't owe you an explanation. It's their call - period. IMO, an invitation is fine, but not accepting their answer is overstepping your bounds. As you said, it's their perogative. IMO your feeling bad for their kids is what is insulting, not the fact that they don't want to send them with you.

I didn't say they owed me an explanation. I said I had asked them several times. My sister kept saying they had to talk about it, and I would wait a week and ask again to see what the decision was. When she gave me their decision is when I told her my feelings. They have a right to their decision, but I have a right to feel hurt that they would not trust me enough to let them go. I sent my son with them to the beach(which I feel is much more dangerous than WDW), and I am definitely an over protective parent.

How is it insulting for me to feel bad for my nephews, who keep asking me why they can't go? I do feel bad for them because I see how much my son enjoys the parks and I know they would have a blast with us.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I didn't say they owed me an explanation. I said I had asked them several times. My sister kept saying they had to talk about it, and I would wait a week and ask again to see what the decision was. When she gave me their decision is when I told her my feelings. They have a right to their decision, but I have a right to feel hurt that they would not trust me enough to let them go. I sent my son with them to the beach(which I feel is much more dangerous than WDW), and I am definitely an over protective parent.

How is it insulting for me to feel bad for my nephews, who keep asking me why they can't go?:confused3 I do feel bad for them because I see how much my son enjoys the parks and I know they would have a blast with us.

It just is. You are simply questioning her parenting decision which you have no right to do and you have absolutely no place to be discussing it with your nephews.

It may be weird, it may be abnormal--but it is her decision to make.

FWIW, my sis' thinks she knows me, but she truly doesn't (had a falling out just last year that we are in the process of remedying--but part of the problem is her inability to not gossip about things for which she knows nothing about).

I would let her take my kids to Disney. That's no biggy.

But if I didn't, I have my reasons why and it really isn't her business as to what they are. Nor is it her place to be having such conversations with my children about it.

You are upset b/c you got told "no". And I think that is silly to take it so personally.

Your level of over protectiveness and what you are comfortable with has no weight on what she opts to do with her children and you should not be using your litmus to judge the worthiness of her decision.

You really have no right to be hurt b/c it isn't about you, though you are making it about you.

 

[torinsmom]

It just is. You are simply questioning her parenting decision which you have no right to do and you have absolutely no place to be discussing it with your nephews.

It may be weird, it may be abnormal--but it is her decision to make.

FWIW, my sis' thinks she knows me, but she truly doesn't (had a falling out just last year that we are in the process of remedying--but part of the problem is her inability to not gossip about things for which she knows nothing about).

I would let her take my kids to Disney. That's no biggy.

But if I didn't, I have my reasons why and it really isn't her business as to what they are. Nor is it her place to be having such conversations with my children about it.

You are upset b/c you got told "no". And I think that is silly to take it so personally.

Your level of over protectiveness and what you are comfortable with has no weight on what she opts to do with her children and you should not be using your litmus to judge the worthiness of her decision.

You really have no right to be hurt b/c it isn't about you, though you are making it about you.

Okay, I did not start the discussion with the boys. They know we are going, because as I said, the three boys are very close. My son has mentioned it, and we go every year--it's no secret. They asked me if they could go, and I said we would love to have them, but that was up to their parents. That is as far as I have gone discussing it. Their parents said no, as you know. I guess I should have told them no, they could not go, and not put the "blame" on their parents. Or maybe I should have lied and told them we weren't going.

It's not insulting to feel bad for someone, I don't care what you say. Feeling bad for them is not questioning anyone's parenting decisions. Those are two separate things. As I said, it is their decision. I simply wanted to find out other people's feelings about the subject, because I am really disappointed(for us and them) that the boys are not being allowed to come. It is partly about me, but partly about all three boys.

Of course, I guess you would say it is insulting for me to feel disappointed as well.

 

[Scurvy]

Your level of over protectiveness and what you are comfortable with has no weight on what she opts to do with her children and you should not be using your litmus to judge the worthiness of her decision.

You really have no right to be hurt b/c it isn't about you, though you are making it about you.

Very well said! I agree completely.

Yes. I would totally trust any close friend or family member that I am in regular contact with to take my child on vacation. If many people have done a terrible job of watching your child, maybe it's the child that is the variable?

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I just don't think that I could consider myself close enough to someone to NOT allow them to take my child out of town on vacation. It's not like it's a professional work relationship; it's supposedly a close friendship.

If I don't have the type of friendship/relationship that I wouldn't trust them to take care of my child, then, that isn't considered a friendship; it's a casual relationship that can be dismissed.

Not many people watched my child when he was young. No one ever did a terrible job of watching him, because I only left him with people I believed would do a good job. I'm close to lots of people who aren't particularly used to caring for kids. I'm close to people whose parenting styles are quite different from mine. For me, the fact that I can trust someone to watch my child is a good reason to choose a babysitter. It isn't a factor when choosing a friend. And of course you can't choose your family members. The fact that one might not be great with kids is no reason to stop having a close relationship with them. Plus, there's a big difference between trusting someone to watch your kids for an hour or two and trusting them to take the kids someplace crowded and chaotic on vacation. Certainly I wouldn't want to be close to someone who would intentionally hurt or neglect any child, but that doesn't mean that everyone I care about is able to care for my child on a vacation the way I would want them to.

I'm sure your method works for you, and you have every right to eliminate close relationships with people who you wouldn't let take your child on vacation. Most people I know don't do that, though. There's nothing wrong with not sending your kids out of town with every friend or family member who wants to take them. It's something that is up to each individual parent. There is no right or wrong as long as the children are well cared for. All that matters is what the parents feel is appropriate for their children, and no one has the right to judge whether their reasons are acceptable or not.

 

[Scurvy]

Okay, I did not start the discussion with the boys. They know we are going, because as I said, the three boys are very close. My son has mentioned it, and we go every year--it's no secret. They asked me if they could go, and I said we would love to have them, but that was up to their parents. That is as far as I have gone discussing it. Their parents said no, as you know. I guess I should have told them no, they could not go, and not put the "blame" on their parents. Or maybe I should have lied and told them we weren't going.

OP, if this ever comes up again, a better way to handle it might be to tell them you'd love for them to go with you someday without specifying when. Don't make it seem like an actual possibility for the trip your son is talking about. You could talk to their parents privately and never let the kids know there's a possibility of them going unless their parents say yes. Then it won't seem like it's you vs. their parents. (Not that you intended it to seem that way, I'm sure, but I suspect that's how the kids took it.) The way this played out, you seemed like the good guy while their parents were the mean ones saying no. It puts the parents in an uncomfortable position and it would probably be nicer to avoid that.

 

[torinsmom]

OP, if this ever comes up again, a better way to handle it might be to tell them you'd love for them to go with you someday without specifying when. Don't make it seem like an actual possibility for the trip your son is talking about. You could talk to their parents privately and never let the kids know there's a possibility of them going unless their parents say yes. Then it won't seem like it's you vs. their parents. (Not that you intended it to seem that way, I'm sure, but I suspect that's how the kids took it.) The way this played out, you seemed like the good guy while their parents were the mean ones saying no. It puts the parents in an uncomfortable position and it would probably be nicer to avoid that.

My sister and BIL don't care if the kids think they're mean, LOL. I actually don't think they think their parents are mean; they just know that's how their parents are and have always been. I was hoping they would let up a little, especially since the oldest is starting high school in the fall.

I told them the truth and I don't see anything wrong with that. I didn't put any judgement on it, such as "Your parents don't trust me with you, even though they should. Yada, yada, yada...." I just said "I'd love you to come with us, but that is your mom and dad's decision." They know they are always welcome to go anywhere DS and I go, whether its to the local carnival, the zoo, or Disney, so if I had told them they couldn't come with us, they would have known that wasn't true.

Marsha

 

[CaliforniaDreamin]

If it was their first trip, heck no. But now, they could probably give a tour of each park to whoever they went with. So yes, I would let them. It's pretty common around here to take a friend to Myrtle Beach with you during summer break. Haley went last summer with a friend, the day she came home, Hannah left and went with her friend. I mean Myrtle Beach is no Disney, but I would be fine with it if I knew the parents and we had similar parenting styles.

And I would also expect them to allow me to go if a friend asked me!

OH, and my aunt and uncle took me to WDW for my high school graduation present. They are Disney freaks too. Like a month ago, my uncle called my dad and said he was filling up the car, they were going to WDW for the 3 day weekend. No plans or anything, just woke up that morning and felt like going to Disney!
On our first family trip, with our DD's, my aunt and uncle were down there at the same time. We didn't get to see them, but I did call their hotel one night and they had just gotten back from Epcot and saw Tom Petty and his family. So my aunt and uncle go a lot. I need to ask them how many times they have been.

 

[DaParkers]

Op, I have a unique perspective on this.

1. I wouldn't let my son go with any of my siblings because I don't trust them and I don't agree with their lifestyles. I've never told them that and probably won't. I just let them believe that I'm just over protective. I don't even let him sleep by my mother's house. Her feelings are hurt, but, I refuse to give her the opportunity to abuse my child. She was verbally and emotionally abusive to me until I had enough and refused to take anymore. And she still is to my 40 year old sister and her other grandchildren. I don't tell her the truth because it would cause even more problems. He has a good relationship with his grandmother, but only in the company of me and my wife. I said all that to say this..... Maybe they don't trust you enough to take their kids that far, or there may be something about you or your husband that they don't like, but haven't mentioned.

2. My sister stopped me from taking my nephew in 07. She said that she would take him. BS! She doesn't even take him to the zoo. I believe that it was jealously. She is an envious person. She loves me, but is jealous when it comes to me. She thinks we're rich, even though we're not. I know that she trusts me, because her other 2 children actually lived with me when I was in Ky and she was in La. I just don't think she likes the idea of me doing something for my nephew that she thinks is expensive. I did take my 19 year old niece (Her daughter) this past Dec., but that was because she didn't need her mother's permission or money. I know that's a lot, but just wanted to give a couple of scenarios to you.

 

[EllaM]

My sister and BIL don't care if the kids think they're mean, LOL. I actually don't think they think their parents are mean; they just know that's how their parents are and have always been. I was hoping they would let up a little, especially since the oldest is starting high school in the fall.

IMHO, ignore the detractors you're getting here. From the sound of it the boys' parents are on a bit of a control freak trip. It could be a myriad of reasons why (i.e. the gift being too expensive, not wanting their boys that far away from them, not being there with them, etc.)

I have a set of relatives who are like that with their kids except I have been told why. The mom & dad get jealous when their kids listen to or want to be with me. I'm more easygoing and yell less. I'm more fun and make their parents look bad. Their words, not mine.

Simple fact is parents are the sole arbiters when it comes to kids. They take the full responsibility for them so get to set all the rules. Sometimes I can see where they were absolutely right and other times... well I didn't have to deal with the disappointed, disgruntled kid. My parents had their wise and dumb moments too, just as I do. So I don't let it bother me anymore.

I do get to travel quite a bit and I have taken my nieces and nephews to Disney as well as other places. (I just had to take their parents along as well.) I don't do it as much as I'd like because it gets beyond my means to take the whole family and I'm always having to deal with some parenting boundary issue. (Apparently going to the food court to get a drink refill is supposed to be a family experience.) But I figure one day the kids will turn 18 and be old enough to make decisions for themselves. There were quite a few invitations I had to decline at 17 that I got to accept at 18 when my mother's overprotectiveness clause expired. Then if they want to go and I have the means to take them it is only between us.

In your case, the kids know you wanted them. They also know you respected their parents enough to accept their authority. The rest is best left alone for now. In 4-7 years when both boys are over 18 and making decisions for themselves, they can revisit the situation and decide if this was something they see as a parenting overreach. Your role in this is done. Now it is a kid vs parent issue. For your own peace of mind, stay out of it. Divorce yourself from all feelings about it. After all, you do a lot of things with the boys anyway. Your relationship is solid. The last thing you want to do is make a big issue of it this so their parents turn it into even more of a turf war.

For the record, I think your idea to take them was great. Even if they'd never been to Disney before they are old enough to travel with extended family. If the parents were mine this decision would actually cause me to lose a bit of respect for them. This is why, as a responsible aunt, you need to back up the parents' authority in this matter. Even though you disagree with it, if the boys know their parents' make decisions for them a trusted adult disagrees with they can start doubting all their parents' decisions. You wouldn't want that when they hit an age where the dangers are even more perilous (sex, drugs, violence, etc.). Kids need to trsut their parents are making the right decisions for them (and not for a purely selfish parent issue).

 

[torinsmom]

Op, I have a unique perspective on this.

1. I wouldn't let my son go with any of my siblings because I don't trust them and I don't agree with their lifestyles. I've never told them that and probably won't. I just let them believe that I'm just over protective. I don't even let him sleep by my mother's house. Her feelings are hurt, but, I refuse to give her the opportunity to abuse my child. She was verbally and emotionally abusive to me until I had enough and refused to take anymore. And she still is to my 40 year old sister and her other grandchildren. I don't tell her the truth because it would cause even more problems. He has a good relationship with his grandmother, but only in the company of me and my wife. I said all that to say this..... Maybe they don't trust you enough to take their kids that far, or there may be something about you or your husband that they don't like, but haven't mentioned.

2. My sister stopped me from taking my nephew in 07. She said that she would take him. BS! She doesn't even take him to the zoo. I believe that it was jealously. She is an envious person. She loves me, but is jealous when it comes to me. She thinks we're rich, even though we're not. I know that she trusts me, because her other 2 children actually lived with me when I was in Ky and she was in La. I just don't think she likes the idea of me doing something for my nephew that she thinks is expensive. I did take my 19 year old niece (Her daughter) this past Dec., but that was because she didn't need her mother's permission or money. I know that's a lot, but just wanted to give a couple of scenarios to you.

I don't believe for a minute that they are pretending they trust me. They left their kids with me all days until they were in preschool and continue to let their kids spend the night with us. It is just me and DS, so no husband for them to have a trust issue with. DS is always invited anywhere they go as well, so I know they don't have a problem with him either. I think they are just worried about them going without them, which is fine. I never said they were terrible parents for feeling that way; I just asked opinions to see if I was totally off base for even asking.

IMHO, ignore the detractors you're getting here. From the sound of it the boys' parents are on a bit of a control freak trip. It could be a myriad of reasons why (i.e. the gift being too expensive, not wanting their boys that far away from them, not being there with them, etc.)

I have a set of relatives who are like that with their kids except I have been told why. The mom & dad get jealous when their kids listen to or want to be with me. I'm more easygoing and yell less. I'm more fun and make their parents look bad. Their words, not mine.

Simple fact is parents are the sole arbiters when it comes to kids. They take the full responsibility for them so get to set all the rules. Sometimes I can see where they were absolutely right and other times... well I didn't have to deal with the disappointed, disgruntled kid. My parents had their wise and dumb moments too, just as I do. So I don't let it bother me anymore.

I do get to travel quite a bit and I have taken my nieces and nephews to Disney as well as other places. (I just had to take their parents along as well.) I don't do it as much as I'd like because it gets beyond my means to take the whole family and I'm always having to deal with some parenting boundary issue. (Apparently going to the food court to get a drink refill is supposed to be a family experience.) But I figure one day the kids will turn 18 and be old enough to make decisions for themselves. There were quite a few invitations I had to decline at 17 that I got to accept at 18 when my mother's overprotectiveness clause expired. Then if they want to go and I have the means to take them it is only between us.

In your case, the kids know you wanted them. They also know you respected their parents enough to accept their authority. The rest is best left alone for now. In 4-7 years when both boys are over 18 and making decisions for themselves, they can revisit the situation and decide if this was something they see as a parenting overreach. Your role in this is done. Now it is a kid vs parent issue. For your own peace of mind, stay out of it. Divorce yourself from all feelings about it. After all, you do a lot of things with the boys anyway. Your relationship is solid. The last thing you want to do is make a big issue of it this so their parents turn it into even more of a turf war.

For the record, I think your idea to take them was great. Even if they'd never been to Disney before they are old enough to travel with extended family. If the parents were mine this decision would actually cause me to lose a bit of respect for them. This is why, as a responsible aunt, you need to back up the parents' authority in this matter. Even though you disagree with it, if the boys know their parents' make decisions for them a trusted adult disagrees with they can start doubting all their parents' decisions. You wouldn't want that when they hit an age where the dangers are even more perilous (sex, drugs, violence, etc.). Kids need to trsut their parents are making the right decisions for them (and not for a purely selfish parent issue).

I'm not making a big deal of it with them or the boys. I wish they could go, but now that my sister has told me they definitely can't, the subject has been dropped. Not saying I won't ask again next year , but then again, maybe the parents can go as well at that point.

Marsha

 

[Nancyg56]

It just is. You are simply questioning her parenting decision which you have no right to do and you have absolutely no place to be discussing it with your nephews.

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How on Earth is it to feel badly for someone? Feeling are not judgements....they are simply feelings. I feel badly for my DGD's best friend. her parents have promised to take her to WDW many times, they have gone so far as to make plans with my DD. And then just stopped. When the little girl told me that someday she hoped her Mommy would take her because when her friends talk about it she cannot "see" it I felt badly for her. I never discussed it with her but I let her talk and i did feel badly. I have that right to have my own feelings as does the OP.


Feelings are not insulting.....telling people that they are wrong in their parenting is.

It's not insulting to feel bad for someone, I don't care what you say. Feeling bad for them is not questioning anyone's parenting decisions. Those are two separate things. As I said, it is their decision. I simply wanted to find out other people's feelings about the subject, because I am really disappointed(for us and them) that the boys are not being allowed to come. It is partly about me, but partly about all three boys.

You said it so much better than I

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

How on Earth is it to feel badly for someone? Feeling are not judgements....they are simply feelings. I feel badly for my DGD's best friend. her parents have promised to take her to WDW many times, they have gone so far as to make plans with my DD. And then just stopped. When the little girl told me that someday she hoped her Mommy would take her because when her friends talk about it she cannot "see" it I felt badly for her. I never discussed it with her but I let her talk and i did feel badly. I have that right to have my own feelings as does the OP.


Feelings are not insulting.....telling people that they are wrong in their parenting is.



You said it so much better than I

OP has come across judgemental.

She doesn't understand why she can't take them and has probed.

Further, she has planted an inappropriate seed in her nephews' head to stir the pot.

Mom and dad said no--getting involved is not being a grown up about it.

Then she comes to a disboards to talk smack about the mom and dad b/c they won't let her take those children to WDW.

Then gets high fived when folks agree they are control freaks.

No--not at all...

She has every right to feel bad and question the motives of their parents. The disboards told her so.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

It's not insulting to feel bad for someone, I don't care what you say. Feeling bad for them is not questioning anyone's parenting decisions. Those are two separate things. As I said, it is their decision. I simply wanted to find out other people's feelings about the subject, because I am really disappointed(for us and them) that the boys are not being allowed to come. It is partly about me, but partly about all three boys.

Of course, I guess you would say it is insulting for me to feel disappointed as well.

You don't have to care what I say. But your first post was crystal clear that it is more than you just being saddened that you can't take them. You are offended by it.

That is what is insulting.

They don't owe you an explanation, but you feel owed.

 

[Nancyg56]

You don't have to care what I say. But your first post was crystal clear that it is more than you just being saddened that you can't take them. You are offended by it.

That is what is insulting.

They don't owe you an explanation, but you feel owed.

I did not take her post as judgemental, I saw an Aunt who was hurt. I think the reason that some of us feel that there is more to the story is becasuse the BIL will not even agree to "allow" his wife to take their children unless he is along. So yes, I think it is okay to question the decision privately because as a member of the family, the OP may sense that there is something else here.

I believe that if my sister refused to let me take her kids with me I would be hurt. I might even be insulted. I would not question that decision but I would would be hurt. Because I am so close to my sister I would also know if there was something she was not telling me. I would not feel entitled to know what that was but I would know.

 

[torinsmom]

Nevermind....its not even worth it......

 

[JerseyJanice]

This thread was an interesting read. It interested me because I am taking one nephew for the second time to WDW this summer.

I have an only son; my husband's cousin has an only son who is the same age. We're bringing them up close so that they have each other, figuring it's the next best thing to having a sibling. I would allow this child's parents to take my son to WDW or pretty anywhere. We have a reciprocal relationship; they take him often to the house they own in Beach Haven and have brought him on other vacations.

I don't mean to brag on my situation, Torinsmom. I totally understand how much it would mean to you to be able to bring them so that they could experience Disney World with you and your son.

But it is what it is. You have to accept the parents' decision gracefully for the sake of the boys. That doesn't mean you have to like it or not be hurt either.

I hope your vacation with your son is a magical one.

 

[torinsmom]

This thread was an interesting read. It interested me because I am taking one nephew for the second time to WDW this summer.

I have an only son; my husband's cousin has an only son who is the same age. We're bringing them up close so that they have each other, figuring it's the next best thing to having a sibling. I would allow this child's parents to take my son to WDW or pretty anywhere. We have a reciprocal relationship; they take him often to the house they own in Beach Haven and have brought him on other vacations.

I don't mean to brag on my situation, Torinsmom. I totally understand how much it would mean to you to be able to bring them so that they could experience Disney World with you and your son.

But it is what it is. You have to accept the parents' decision gracefully for the sake of the boys. That doesn't mean you have to like it or not be hurt either.

I hope your vacation with your son is a magical one.

I don't see it as bragging. I am happy for you! Actually, I consider my relationship with my sister to be a great one. We are very different, but that's okay. The boys are almost as close as brothers and they do get to do a lot together. All I wanted was to get an idea how other people felt on sending kids with someone else. My feelings were hurt when I posted, because it made me feel like she didn't trust me, but I am over it now.

I know we will have a great time as WDW and Universal. We always do!

Marsha