Would you let your child(ren) go to WDW with someone else?

[torinsmom]

I am bummed because I really wanted my nephews(11 and 14 at the time) to go to WDW with me and DS15 this summer. My sister says she doesn't want them to go, and that her husband wouldn't even let them go if she went without him. They are unable to go because of new jobs, but I have offered to pay everything for the boys. We are very close, and I even kept the two boys when they were babies. We live a few miles apart and the boys are together quite a bit.

Anyway, it kind of makes me feel like they don't trust me. They are sending their boys to several sleep away camps this summer for 3-4 nights, with virtual strangers watching them, but they won't let them go with me for the week. The boys would love it! They went to WDW when they were 4 and 2 and then when they were 9 and 11. Both of those were whole family trips, and they have no desire to go back(the parents), so its unlikely the boys will be going back before they are grown.

 

[MomRN]

I probably would not have let my ds go on his first trip to WDW without me, unless I was pretty sure I couldn't afford to take him during his childhood years. Now that we've taken him once, anyone else that wants him can have him!

(lol, all joking aside, that only applies to my MIL and SIL. And my dad, but he wouldn't consider that. Maybe a race, or a football game, but not WDW. I would not trust my mom or sister, but they have issues)

 

[rkandmjsmommy]

I wouldnt let someone else take them on their first trip to the world but I would after that, I hope its not that they dont trust you...maybe they just want to be there and see them experience it

 

[mom2boys]

I wouldn't want to miss out on sharing the experience with my boys - now 14 & 16.

 

[hereyago]

I am bummed because I really wanted my nephews(11 and 14 at the time) to go to WDW with me and DS15 this summer. My sister says she doesn't want them to go, and that her husband wouldn't even let them go if she went without him.

Both of those were whole family trips, and they have no desire to go back(the parents), so its unlikely the boys will be going back before they are grown.

Say what? Her husband wouldn't even let her take the kids without him? Your sister and her husband are trippin seriously. I would like to hear someone say i couldn't take my kid, I am a whole lotta woman.

And the parents really have no desire to go, but don't want you to take them. They just dont want to look like losers in their kids' eyes, that is all.

With that said, I may be taking DD11's friend with us. Her DM has never taken her anywhere, she can afford to, but just doesn't.

How dare a parent not let their kid enjoy something because they can't or wont take them

 

[handinpocket]

I wouldn't let any of my kids go without me until they were at least 16. I don't mean this to be offensive, but no one loves my kids like I do, and no one will watch after them with my eagle eye. I trust them at the age of 16 to watch after themselves and use the judgement I have instilled in them.

 

[Ohiodislover]

I don't think I would want to miss my child's first time seeing the castle, meeting Mickey and all the other great memories.

They will be begging you to take them ANYWHERE soon enough.

 

[Colleen27]

My older two went on their first Disney trip without me. It was a tough decision, tougher than it should have been given how little it really means in the big-picture sense, but my in-laws wanted to take them, I couldn't get away to go with because I was maid of honor in a wedding that same week, and at the time DH & I didn't know if we'd ever afford to take them ourselves.

Could it be a matter of money rather than trust? A lot of people would feel a little uncomfortable/embarassed to have a relative give such an expensive gift to their kids. I know I'd feel a little odd if it had been one of our siblings rather than the spoiling grandparents offering to pay our kids' way on such an expensive vacation.

 

[Katie's Butterflies]

Maybe it isn’t that they don’t trust you, but rather don’t trust all of the people who visit WDW. Sleep away camp is enclosed with, hopefully, responsible adults who have most likely had background checks and training to work with children. Anyone who can pay can go to WDW.

You also said your sister said “that her husband wouldn't even let them go if she went without him.” To me this says that it isn’t you. Your bil doesn’t want his kids going without him even if his wife (whom he should trust) goes with them.

So, it most likely is not you

 

[mking624]

My first time was when I was 7...my aunt and uncle took me along with my cousins. My parents simply could not afford to take me and they had no problems letting them do it. If it were my children, I would want to see their faces for their first time. Not that I'd never let them go with someone I trusted, but I'd have a hard time not being there to share the moment when they first go.

 

[Nancy]

I let my sister and mom take my kids when they were little. They had such a good time. It was my youngest daughters first trip too and she was in kindergarten. While I would have preferred to be the first one to take her I knew that wouldn't happen anytime soon and this was a wonderful opportunity for them to go and have a good time. The other 2 hadn't been there since they were really little and had been wanting to go back.

 

[disneyaddicted]

I'm thinking they don't want you to spend that kind of money on their kids. It is pretty expensive. You said they've been before so it's not the "I want to experience it with them factor" It's hard for me to accept epensive gifts for my children from other people, but I think being cloesely related they should let you do this for them.

 

[kacaju]

Yes,Ii would have no problem with it. My brother and sil took each one of my kids back to my sil's home island without us. They took each one at different times and paid for it. I only had to pay for the passport.

 

[aprilgail2]

If I hadn't taken my child by the time they were 11 and 14 then yes, I sure would let someone else take them! Now if they were younger then I would want to do the whole first time at Disney thing with them but by 11 and 14 I would let someone else take them.
I took my godson at 3 to Disney without his mom and again 3 or 4 times more without her...we had such good times!

 

[bicker]

Anyway, it kind of makes me feel like they don't trust me.

I'm sorry that what they've done resulted in you feeling that way.

One thing to consider is that the most likely "reason" for their decision is not because they're reacting to any lack of trust for you (even if they actually would say something like that), but rather because they're reacting to other, internally-directed considerations that they have, such as a reluctance to miss-out on the experience themselves.

 

[bicker]

Now that we've taken him once, anyone else that wants him can have him!

Hehe... well that's pretty much the way it worked out for us a couple of years ago. I was planning on a big family trip, my family and my older brother's family, and quite unexpectedly my brother said, essentially, "Great idea, but my wife and I are going to put the kids on the airplane to Orlando and spend the week in Cape May..."

 

[MerMom60_94]

I'm going to be honest, and I am not saying my situation is the situation here. I can't figure from your post what your sister's rationale is. Generally speaking I would let me daughter go to WDW with another family. That does not mean I would let her go with just any family. As an example, I have a sister whose husband can't keep his hands to himself so if they ever were to ask the answer would be a flat out NO! My daughter has never even met this uncle and never will so long as I can help it. Nice enough guy but exhibits poor judgement at the very least. The other thought I have is that I let my daughter make me the bad guy if she is uncomfortable doing something for whatever reason. If she doesn't want to and she is feeling pressured or put in an awkward position I tell her to say I won't let her do whatever it is. I am sorry your sister won't let her sons go with you but I am sure she has her own reasons - even if it's nothing like the reasons I have given. I would move on and find someone else to invite.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

No. I wouldn't let someone take my kids on vacation with them.

 

[1stluvispooh]

Ok answer to your question. Yes I would let my kids go to WDW without me at this point in there lives but I think you are taking this a little too personal. Have you asked them why??

My own point of view is it most likely has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Maybe they want to go too and would feel left out. Maybe they feel that it is a vacation and vacations should be a family affair. But camp is camp and well lets face it parents aren't' at camp.

In my own life my single sister goes on vacation with us all the time. The only time she hasn't was WDW. The first time we went I didn't ask her because I wanted it to be just us. Our little immediate family. The second time we went she had just changed jobs and couldn't get off work.

So in other words don't take it personal.

 

[Magic Mom]

I am bummed because I really wanted my nephews(11 and 14 at the time) to go to WDW with me and DS15 this summer. My sister says she doesn't want them to go, and that her husband wouldn't even let them go if she went without him. They are unable to go because of new jobs, but I have offered to pay everything for the boys. We are very close, and I even kept the two boys when they were babies. We live a few miles apart and the boys are together quite a bit.

Anyway, it kind of makes me feel like they don't trust me. They are sending their boys to several sleep away camps this summer for 3-4 nights, with virtual strangers watching them, but they won't let them go with me for the week. The boys would love it! They went to WDW when they were 4 and 2 and then when they were 9 and 11. Both of those were whole family trips, and they have no desire to go back(the parents), so its unlikely the boys will be going back before they are grown.

Maybe it's a pride thing. They don't want you to take their kids on a family vacation as if they can't.