would you let your 16 year old spend the night at the boy/girl friends house?

[babytrees]

Only in my house because the daughter in question could sleep in my room with me and dad could sleep in the same room with the boy. But then still only in some extinuating circumstance!!

 

[Stepht5]

no my friend is just dropping her daughter off to spend the night there like its no big deal and she knows how ubsessed her dd is with this guy

I think your friend is trying too hard to be her dd's friend instead of a parent!

 

[NMAmy]

As the mother of a 17 yo dd, my answer is NO. Because I said so, that's why.

 

[Steffi]

I'm not sure, but I might. They'd be in separate rooms, though. I'm up all hours of the night and when i do sleep, I do so lightly, so I don't think they'd be up to anything right under my nose.

I remember being a 16 year old kid, and if my boyfriend had been allowed to sleep over, I wouldn't have dreamed of doing anything with him with my parents right down the hall.

We'll see if I still feel the same when DD is 16, though.

ETA: I read the question wrong...I wouldn't let my DD spend the night at a boy's house, but I might, just might, let a boy spend the night over here under my eagle eye.

 

[Mermaid02]

I just looked in the mirror and it doesn't say STUPID on my forehead... no way would that be happening...

 

[mom2boys]

I was just wondering. Do you have a problem with your teenagers sleeping at the girl/ boyfriends house?

over my dead body!

 

[Stepht5]

I just looked in the mirror and it doesn't say STUPID on my forehead... no way would that be happening...

 

[poohandwendy]

No. Even if I was ok with it, my DH would absolutely not go for that.

 

[MichelleVW]

Not a chance!!!

 

[PatsGirl]

Only in extenuating circumstances and ONLY if I were there so said GF could sleep in my room and DS could sleep in his own room, two floors away.

 

[EthansMom]

I think she is nutts!

Yup, she's certifiable.

Does she plan on raising her grandchild?

 

[mommiepoppins]

my dh dose not want my dd ever to go my friends house because he feels that she cant be trusted and might let our dd get into @#$!@.. so I have to make up excueses all the tim to why the girls can not hang out ( any way my dd really dose not want to hang out with her dd ) so i have to bite my tounge all the time and we have felt this way sense we new she was letting boys spend the night at 14 ( and letting them sleep over)
did I mention my friend buys her daughter sexual p.js and still thinks her dd is a virgin???? alll righty then ok just wanted to vent i have never really said anything to her

 

[MELSMICE]

Not unless there was absolutely not possible way at all that they could get home.

Otherwise, no. I see no need.

 

[rwrocksme]

no. but if dd's bf is over and they fall asleep on the couch watching a movie, i wouldn't freak out.they would be woken up, however!

 

[arminnie]

Worked real well for Jamie Lynn didn't it.

 

[Camicar]

Let me put it to you this way --

I do know parents who let their child spend the night at their boy/girl friend's house. I do not know a single one of those teens who did NOT have sex.

Either the parent actively allowed it by permiting them to sleep in the same room or the kids waited until everyone was asleep and then did it. In some cases, the permissive parent LIED to the other parent about the chaperonage bec they believed the other parent was too strict. As for the rest -- Believe me, not only did the nearby proximity of the parents NOT deter them, for most of these kids the thrill of the potential of being caught was part of the game. And one of these parents was a woman who bragged how lightly she slept -- we all used to snicker bec we knew her dd was in the NEXT room screwing the brains out of her boyfriend.

Now, I'm sure that there are some very disciplined kids who would not do it. But, as 'good' as a kid might be, there are some temptations they don't need to have placed before them and sleeping over is one of them.

 

[connorlevismom]

As for the rest -- Believe me, not only did the nearby proximity of the parents NOT deter them, for most of these kids the thrill of the potential of being caught was part of the game. And one of these parents was a woman who bragged how lightly she slept -- we all used to snicker bec we knew her dd was in the NEXT room screwing the brains out of her boyfriend.

It's not nice to talk about me like I am not here (the kid, not the mom). This is SOOOOO me!

There is no way in hell that my child would sleep at their GF/BF house. I know exactly what I was doing at that age and I am not dumb enough to think that my son would not be doing the same thing.

Kristine

 

[englishteacha]

No kids here, but when I was in HS in the mid-1990s, my (very old fashioned, strict) parents let boys stay at the house overnight (I was dating a boy I met at church camp, and he came to some dances with me, and my senior prom date was from out of town, too). The boy slept in the guest room next to my parents' room, and I slept in my room downstairs. It was NOT a regular occurrence, though. I think my parents were just thrilled that the boys I liked were from some distance away!

 

[graygables]

3 words for you: Jamie Lynn Spears. 'nuff said.

I have 4 daughters, my 19yo's boyfriend that she met while on the CP at WDW is spending a month with her at my parents' home and they are making good and sure that they are in separate rooms. Both of them do believe in waiting for marriage and he is VERY respectful in that area, so everyone is OK with that situation. At 16 though, nopers.

 

[RitaZ.]

my friend was going to drop her dd off at her best frinds for the night(the mothers best friend) house knowing that that boy has just moved back home.. I think she is nutts!

Well, I hope she has provided her DD with birth control.

No way would DH and I allow that.