Would you forgive your partner if they confessed to a one-night stand?

[Charlotte ~08]

I wouldn't, I would never trust them again. Infidelity and dishonesty are deal breakers as far as I'm concerned.

would you???

 

[beattyfamily]

Before I was married I always said never but now that I'm married with kids, possibly I'd be able to forgive.

It depends on the circumstances, his level of remorse, and if we have children.

I always say, never say never.

 

[Papa Deuce]

Probably not, but I wouldn't expect to be forgiven either.

 

[Michelle67]

Probably not, and my husband made it absolutely clear before we were married that he would absolutely not.

My ex was a cheater...I don't ever want to live through that again, nor do I ever want to hurt another person like he hurt me. Certainly not my husband, whom I adore. Even if I decided it was over between us, I think the very least I owe him is to be honest about that and deal with it, instead of sneaking around behind his back.

 

[sorcerormickey]

No way.

 

[Fintastic]

No, absolutely not. DH and I both agree about this. It wouldn't be about the other woman - it would be about the lack of respect for me and how I feel about it. Cheating is one of my dealbreakers.

 

[SydneyBristow]

I would forgive because I follow Jesus, but I have no idea if the marriage would survive.

 

[Bluestars]

No, I would not be able to forgive. Once the trust is broken, I would never be able to feel the same or be able to fully trust him. I would not want to live the rest of my life with someone who didn't take his vows seriously and who I could never trust again.

 

[rentayenta]

No. I haven't been in that situation but I am pretty positive all trust would be gone.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

I've always told DH I can stand anything he dishes out, except.....

if he would ever cheat on me or hit me. So no I couldn't forgive.

 

[java]

RIght now I could say no forgiveness if he cheated but I voted don't know. Because it's one thing to be hypothetical another entirely to be in the situation.

 

[GeorgeG]

That's something I can't even comprehend. We've been married a long time with neither of us ever straying and at our current age and comfort level it's not likely to ever happen.

 

[NMAmy]

Nope. I dealt with this in my previous marriage and it's an absolute deal breaker for me. DH has always been well aware of my position on this.

 

[C.Ann]

It would depend.. (Of course my DH is no longer alive..) However, I have known several couples where one or the other either had a one-night stand or a full-blown affair - and after intense counseling and a lot of very hard work on their parts, when on to be happily married for 20 to 30+ years with no further infidelity..

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Yes I would forgive but I have no idea if the marriage would survive.

I have been with my DH at about half of my life. I don't know if I would waste the second half looking over his shoulder.

I would most certainly seperate and take some time to see what the right thing to do is.

 

[maidenfairy]

No, Dh knows that is a deal breaker for me. My father was a cheater and I will not be married to one.

 

[chrisw127]

My husband is probably the best father I could ever ask for and is a very good person, so if he cheated, there would have to be something pretty major going on so I'd forgive him and we'd work through whatever it is.

Doesn't mean I wouldn't be very mad at him, though.

 

[crz4mm2]

No.

I don't think I could ever trust him again. Trust is very important to me.

 

[EpcotBeauty]

It would depend.. (Of course my DH is no longer alive..) However, I have known several couples where one or the other either had a one-night stand or a full-blown affair - and after intense counseling and a lot of very hard work on their parts, when on to be happily married for 20 to 30+ years with no further infidelity..

....that you know of.

Nope, not for me, a deal breaker.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Oh I have to add this....You said "confessed" to a one night stand.

That would probably be a deal breaker for me because I told my DH if he has a one night stand to keep it to himself.

So that would piss me off on top of the affair.