Would you do what this nurse did?

[MrsPete]

The nurse was out of place here, of course. It sounds like she was badly placed in an abortion clinic.

HOWEVER, as a parent . . . this does make me think of a friend of mine . . . she had an abortion in college, and she had complications -- infection, etc. She was miserably sick for a long time (this was 20 years ago, and I can't remember details), but she wouldn't, wouldn't, wouldn't go back to the doctor. She just figured it'd just all heal up okay eventually -- it didn't work that way. She's over 40 now and despite her best attempts to conceive and lots of money spent, it's never happened for her. She's certain it's because she didn't get proper treatment back in her teens; her doctors say it might be true.

What if someone had told her parents way back then? Her dad WAS a doctor. He'd have forced her to get medical treatment. I bet they'd be over it by now, and she'd probably be a mother.

 

[Disney Doll]

The nurse was out of place here, of course. It sounds like she was badly placed in an abortion clinic.

HOWEVER, as a parent . . . this does make me think of a friend of mine . . . she had an abortion in college, and she had complications -- infection, etc. She was miserably sick for a long time (this was 20 years ago, and I can't remember details), but she wouldn't, wouldn't, wouldn't go back to the doctor. She just figured it'd just all heal up okay eventually -- it didn't work that way. She's over 40 now and despite her best attempts to conceive and lots of money spent, it's never happened for her. She's certain it's because she didn't get proper treatment back in her teens; her doctors say it might be true.

What if someone had told her parents way back then? Her dad WAS a doctor. He'd have forced her to get medical treatment. I bet they'd be over it by now, and she'd probably be a mother.

That is a sad story.

 

[MrsPete]

Clearly the 16yo knew that it was best not to tell her parents. How disgusting that the nurse thought she knew better.

I can't believe that it was actually BEST for her parents NOT to know that she had a serious medical procedure, NOT to know that she's have unprotected sex and is putting herself at risk for not only pregnancy but also diseases that could change her life and their lives forever. The girl should've told her parents.

 

[Mermaid02]

The nurse was out of place here, of course. It sounds like she was badly placed in an abortion clinic.

HOWEVER, as a parent . . . this does make me think of a friend of mine . . . she had an abortion in college, and she had complications -- infection, etc. She was miserably sick for a long time (this was 20 years ago, and I can't remember details), but she wouldn't, wouldn't, wouldn't go back to the doctor. She just figured it'd just all heal up okay eventually -- it didn't work that way. She's over 40 now and despite her best attempts to conceive and lots of money spent, it's never happened for her. She's certain it's because she didn't get proper treatment back in her teens; her doctors say it might be true.

What if someone had told her parents way back then? Her dad WAS a doctor. He'd have forced her to get medical treatment. I bet they'd be over it by now, and she'd probably be a mother.

She was legally an adult... it was up to her to have the sense to seek treatment. NOBODY had the right to breech her confidence. It was her decision to make even if it was a stupid one....

 

[scottishduffy]

I most assuredly would not have told.

I have been in situations where a patient does not want family to know what type of surgical procedure they were having. Twice this involved abortions (usually not done in the hospital but due to special circumstances they were). In each case the patient said no family members were to know. the whole point of being in the hospital was secrecy and to attempt to pass off the procedure as something else. If this is what the pt feels she needs then that is what I will do. The Nurse here was wrong as she violated pt privacy and had a serious negative impact and this girls home life.

As a nurse, you have to seperate your own emotions and moral standards from those of your patient. It isn't our job to dictate morals, it is our job to care for our patients.

 

[scottishduffy]

I can't believe that it was actually BEST for her parents NOT to know that she had a serious medical procedure, NOT to know that she's have unprotected sex and is putting herself at risk for not only pregnancy but also diseases that could change her life and their lives forever. The girl should've told her parents.

The girl should have told her parents, but perhaps she could not.

Some children come from very bad home situations and telling the parents may mean abandonment or much worse. Not all parents would understand or *ever* forgive their kids. Secrecy really is a better option in some situations, as sad as that it.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

I can't believe that it was actually BEST for her parents NOT to know that she had a serious medical procedure, NOT to know that she's have unprotected sex and is putting herself at risk for not only pregnancy but also diseases that could change her life and their lives forever. The girl should've told her parents.

Why, so the parents could have thrown her out sooner?

I don't really give a flying fig about what's best for this girls parents. They have proven themselves to be the pond scum of parenting by throwing their daughter out of their home over this (IMO). Clearly it would have been best for the daughter if her parents hadn't known, then she wouldn't be homeless right now. She knew it, and it was no one else's place to decide it would be "better" if her parents knew.

 

[ginna74]

If I were that girl I wouldn't have any trust in the system and that is sad for such a young girl. You hear too often about teen suicide and I have to wonder if things like THIS are a good cause of it. She has got to be devistated and I hope she isn't alone, I hope she has people to turn too. This is just beyond horrible to me...

 

[minkydog]

This is a question for nurses about a 16 year old who had an abortion and the nurse attending told her aunt, btw the girl was legally of age to have treatment without parental consent and 16 is the age of consent for sex as well so there was no under age problem. Would you tell and risk your career or not? Was she right to do that? personally she was wrong and hopelly will get struck off for doing this.


http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/h...olic-parents-about-16-year-olds-abortion.html

It looks like the nurse will be struck of for breaching patient confidentiality.

I don't know what the laws are there but here in the U.S. that would be a huge HIPAA violation for which a nurse would be terminated from her job. There's no excuse for what she did, assuming that her life wasn't in mortal danger

 

[minkydog]

I can't believe that it was actually BEST for her parents NOT to know that she had a serious medical procedure, NOT to know that she's have unprotected sex and is putting herself at risk for not only pregnancy but also diseases that could change her life and their lives forever. The girl should've told her parents.

Yes, maybe the girl should have told the parents, but she didn't for whatever reasons. THat does not make it legal to tell that girls business to another relative. We're not talking about a 12yo. This was a 16yo adult in the eyes of the law whose rights were soundly violated.

 

[freckles and boo]

I can't believe that it was actually BEST for her parents NOT to know that she had a serious medical procedure, NOT to know that she's have unprotected sex and is putting herself at risk for not only pregnancy but also diseases that could change her life and their lives forever. The girl should've told her parents.

Obviously the girl knew her mother well enough to know that mom would put her religiosity before her own child's well-being.

 

[disney4us2002]

16 year old adult? Interesting. Who pays for abortions for 16 yr old adults? Is that covered by the parents' insurance? Would she have had to have cash? Is that a free procedure?

Obviously, the nurse is legally obligated to keep her patients' care confidential and if true (and proven) she may indeed lose her job.

 

[Gigi22]

I believe this procedure occurred at a hospital in England, where there is public health insurance coverage.

 

[Sparx]

that nurse should lose her job over this.

i would never have said a word about it.

 

[PaulaSB12]

I can't believe that it was actually BEST for her parents NOT to know that she had a serious medical procedure, NOT to know that she's have unprotected sex and is putting herself at risk for not only pregnancy but also diseases that could change her life and their lives forever. The girl should've told her parents.

Considering the mother kicked her out and is refusing to speak to her she was right not to tell.

 

[PaulaSB12]

16 year old adult? Interesting. Who pays for abortions for 16 yr old adults? Is that covered by the parents' insurance? Would she have had to have cash? Is that a free procedure?

Obviously, the nurse is legally obligated to keep her patients' care confidential and if true (and proven) she may indeed lose her job.

The abortion was obtained on the NHS so there where no costs involved, don't forget that most people use the NHS so don't have private insurance.

 

[Liberty Belle]

The nurse should be fired and a lawsuit should be brought against her.

Absolutely. What the heck made her think she had that right?!

 

[Hoodie]

The abortion was obtained on the NHS so there where no costs involved, don't forget that most people use the NHS so don't have private insurance.

Well, no costs to her.

There were costs involved. She just didn't have to pay anything directly. (sorry - pet peeve)

 

[Hoodie]

The nurse is 100% in the wrong and should be terminated.

That said, the girl is now learning that if she is old enough for sex and old enough for a medical procedure, she is now old enough to live on her own.

 

[hentob]

And now because the mother knows she had an abortion she has turned her out of her home and is refusing to have anything to do with her. All due to a nosey nurse.

Well, also due to the fact that her parents are not nice people.

The nurse was VERY wrong, but what awful parents to turn away their child