Would you be offended....

[tinkerrn]

Would you be offended if you were told what dish to bring to a party?
I always make homemade macaroni and cheese for Thanksgiving and Christmas. Its been a long tradition in my family. Since, we've been married; I've taken this dish to everyone of his holiday get togethers also. When we first started dating I made a broccoli casserole (yuck), which I hate to make and eat. This was about 6 years ago.

Ok, so I was planning on making mac and cheese to take to my moms and to his on Christmas. Well, hubbys sister calls 'him' yesterday and tells him to bring broccoli casserole. I am a little offended, I can understand if it was to bring a 'veggie' casserole, but not to tell me what exactly to make. I know that she doesn't like my mac and cheese, neither do her kids. They have the mac and cheese out of a box. That is just kinda gross for a nice holiday dinner; a regular meal at home is another story. I have had loads of compliments on my mac and cheese from most of his other relatives.

Am I being silly? Should I make the broccoli casserole? I just don't feel that I should make something that I don't like to make or eat. I am vegetarian, and what I make will more than likely be the only thing I will be able to eat.

 

[akhenaten]

bring both!!!!

edited to add: about being offended ...i probably would be a bit offended BUT at this point after 20 years of marriage and much offense all around each holiday...my DH family is not talking ......
so my advice is let it go.... and bring both.......

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Potluck is simply that---pot LUCK. That is how I interpret any invitation to bring food. I would honor a special request (i.e. I had expected you to say that someone wanted your mac and cheese).

If I am contributing, I would want to contribute what I wanted to make, though I would be inclined to make sure that everyone likes it. If it is a super large gathering, then I don't worry myself much with that either.

My feeling is--you don't like broccoli casserole, so why do you have to suffer with preparing it? If she wanted it so bad, she could have made it herself.

Potluck is luck for who attends---not the guest preparing their contribution.

 

[hiwaygal]

Personally, no, I wouldn't be offended...but that's because I hate to try to figure out what everyone will eat and what to make. I find it so much easier for someone to tell me what they do want.

But, in your situation, considering you might only have what you bring to eat.

Maybe make a small broccooli casserole (very easy velveeta and frozen broccoli) and a small mac and cheese for yourself.

 

[mickeyboat]

Hmmmm. That is a good question. I might be more offended if it was coming from an acquaintance or not so close of a friend. I probably would not be offended if it came from a close friend or family.

I really doubt this is a personal snub or attack on you or your mac and cheese. I think the planner just has the menu in mind, and has chosen brocoli casserole. I think people attribute evil motives to other people sometimes that are never intended.

My suggestion, to keep the peace and not ruin the holidays over a side dish, would be to either ask nicely if you can substitute mac and cheese, or bring some of both.

Happy holidays.

Denae

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Just realized that Dsis is not the host.

I'd tell her to make her own stinkin' casserole.

 

[VioltePrincess]

yes, I agree...bring both, and you'll have your choice of what to eat.

 

[Melisa1]

I think I would make both too.

 

[TurboKitty]

Would you be offended if you were told what dish to bring to a party?
I always make homemade macaroni and cheese for Thanksgiving and Christmas. Its been a long tradition in my family. Since, we've been married; I've taken this dish to everyone of his holiday get togethers also. When we first started dating I made a broccoli casserole (yuck), which I hate to make and eat. This was about 6 years ago.

Ok, so I was planning on making mac and cheese to take to my moms and to his on Christmas. Well, hubbys sister calls 'him' yesterday and tells him to bring broccoli casserole. I am a little offended, I can understand if it was to bring a 'veggie' casserole, but not to tell me what exactly to make. I know that she doesn't like my mac and cheese, neither do her kids. They have the mac and cheese out of a box. That is just kinda gross for a nice holiday dinner; a regular meal at home is another story. I have had loads of compliments on my mac and cheese from most of his other relatives.

Am I being silly? Should I make the broccoli casserole? I just don't feel that I should make something that I don't like to make or eat. I am vegetarian, and what I make will more than likely be the only thing I will be able to eat.

Since you are a vegatarian, and I doubt this will be news to your SIL, I do find it slightly rude. If it were me, I'd make the mac and cheese anyway, possibly bringing along a package of frozen broccoli to mix in half of the mac and cheese if I get any flack from SIL...

 

[tinkerrn]

Thanks for the advise. I don't want to make 2 dishes. Maybe I can find a recipe that uses macaroni, cheese, and broccoli. I just irrates me that I am told what to bring. Like I said, it would be different if they said, a veggie side dish.

 

[DisneyWorldWisher]

I'd bring both.

 

[Captain Brain]

My mom is generally in charge of "get togethers." Our family asks what to bring, and Mom usually says a course. Like desert for instance.

 

[hiwaygal]

Just realized that Dsis is not the host.

I'd tell her to make her own stinkin' casserole.

Oh yeah...I'd call MIL and ask HER which she prefers.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Thanks for the advise. I don't want to make 2 dishes. Maybe I can find a recipe that uses macaroni, cheese, and broccoli. I just irrates me that I am told what to bring. Like I said, it would be different if they said, a veggie side dish.

On that thought--if you don't wish to stir the pot, I would make hubby make it.


Is your sister organizing this shindig or is this an ongoing family thing? It seems it is at the mom's house so mom is officially the hostess. If that is the case, SIL shouldn't be making requests of you for a side dish. If she doesn't like what you bring, then it would be her obligation to make something for her family to consume.

But as I said--if you don't feel like making two dishes--then don't. But if I were in your shoes, I would be making what I thought most everyone else has enjoyed over the years and either tell SIL to stuff it or tell hubby to make what his sister is requesting.

 

[Maleficent13]

All I have to say is...mmmmm...homemade mac and cheese...

Sorry I have no helpful advice. But you can bring the mac and cheese to my house!

 

[xyzabc33]

Well she did call your hubby and tell "HIM" to bring it. SO by my thinking (and I hate when ppl tell me what to bring to a potluck-I cant always afford what they want), your hubby should bring it, not you. Hey, if she makes an issue, just say she asked him to bring it. Either that or I would be really rotten, still make my mac and cheese and bring a teenie tiny casserole dish with just broccoli in it. She didnt specify how much. HEHEHEHE!

 

[tinkerrn]

I found this recipe. It actually sounds pretty good. I might 'tweak' it and make it. that way, it has broccoli in it. Is this too passive aggressive of me?
Hubby told me that his mom put her in charge of the menu.

Cheesy Macaroni with Broccoli
8 ounces Elbow Macaroni
1 cup Broccoli florets fresh or frozen
4 tablespoons Butter
2 tablespoons Flour
2 cups Low-fat (1%) milk
1 cup Shredded sharp cheddar cheese
1/2 cup Shredded Gruyere cheese
1/4 cup Grated Parmesan cheese
1/2 teaspoon Salt
1/4 teaspoon Cayenne pepper
1/4 cup Whole-wheat bread crumbs



In a medium saucepan, cook macaroni according to package directions, until al dente, or still slightly firm. Drain well.
Fill another saucepan 3/4 full with water. Bring water to a boil, add broccoli, reduce heat to medium and cook until al dente; Drain and set aside.

Preheat oven to 375°. Grease an 8 x 8 inch glass baking dish.

In a medium saucepan, melt butter. Add flour, stirring 1 minute, until smooth. Gradually whisk in milk, stirring continually until thickened, about 3 minutes, remove from heat.

Reserve 1/2 cup cheddar cheese. Stir remaining cheddar, Gruyere, Parmesan, salt, and cayenne into sauce until cheeses melt. Add macaroni and broccoli to sauce. Pour into prepared baking dish.

Bake 15 minutes. Sprinkle top with reserved cheddar and bread crumbs. Bake 10 to 15 minutes, until bubbly.
Serves 4.

 

[TurboKitty]

That recipe looks delicious!

 

[akhenaten]

I found this recipe. It actually sounds pretty good. I might 'tweak' it and make it. that way, it has broccoli in it. Is this too passive aggressive of me?
Hubby told me that his mom put her in charge of the menu.

Cheesy Macaroni with Broccoli
8 ounces Elbow Macaroni
1 cup Broccoli florets fresh or frozen
4 tablespoons Butter
2 tablespoons Flour
2 cups Low-fat (1%) milk
1 cup Shredded sharp cheddar cheese
1/2 cup Shredded Gruyere cheese
1/4 cup Grated Parmesan cheese
1/2 teaspoon Salt
1/4 teaspoon Cayenne pepper
1/4 cup Whole-wheat bread crumbs



In a medium saucepan, cook macaroni according to package directions, until al dente, or still slightly firm. Drain well.
Fill another saucepan 3/4 full with water. Bring water to a boil, add broccoli, reduce heat to medium and cook until al dente; Drain and set aside.

Preheat oven to 375°. Grease an 8 x 8 inch glass baking dish.

In a medium saucepan, melt butter. Add flour, stirring 1 minute, until smooth. Gradually whisk in milk, stirring continually until thickened, about 3 minutes, remove from heat.

Reserve 1/2 cup cheddar cheese. Stir remaining cheddar, Gruyere, Parmesan, salt, and cayenne into sauce until cheeses melt. Add macaroni and broccoli to sauce. Pour into prepared baking dish.

Bake 15 minutes. Sprinkle top with reserved cheddar and bread crumbs. Bake 10 to 15 minutes, until bubbly.
Serves 4.

I never made a broccoli casserole but that sounds good....what is normally in broccoli cass?
I think that sounds like it may be a good compromise.....

 

[deekaypee]

My first thought, which echoes those of other posters, is that she called your husband. If he wants to make a brocolli casserole, so be it. You go ahead and made your world-famous (or at least DIS-famous) mac and cheese.

Btw, I just don't get a family that doesn't like homemade mac and cheese and prefers broccoli!