My MIL passed away last year and since then things have been different with DH's family, his one sister has been treating me differently and after a year of this I am starting to wonder if I should keep blowing it off or take it personally.
I have tried to talk to DH, but he isn't *getting it*. He doesn't see a problem, so I am asking you if maybe I am being too sensitive or if I should be hurt by all this.
We've been married 15 years and I always thought that this SIL and I got along, but now I wonder
Maybe she is still adjusting to not having her Mom around, I don't know. She did make the statement soon after the funeral that she "is the new matriarch of the family", which I found odd, but never said anything to her.
Many things have happened to make me feel like something is going on, but the latest thing was this past 2 weeks, I made her some DVD's and sent them with a Valentine's Day card. I wrote in the card and asked her to let me know if the DVD's worked on their player (because I have made other DVD's and sometimes they work in one player, but not another... so I just wanted to make sure hers worked). I had spent weeks going through old video tapes and had made her 3 DVD's. The first was her 3 kids at their HS Graduations (they don't own a camcorder, so I know this is her only copy of those events). The second DVD has all the nieces and nephews graduations and the third is her son's wedding from 1999. I put the bridal shower on it, the wedding rehearsal, the wedding and the dance. All broke up into chapters, so you can easily go to a certain part to watch it.
Over a week goes by and not a word. I finally asked DH to call her last night and I could hear her answers through the phone (she talks loudly, I wasn't trying to listen in
). When asked if she had gotten them she said yes and when DH asked if they worked she said yes, then she changed the subject and they talked about one or two other things and hung up. OK, well you are welcome
She has just been so cold to me and this has put me on edge, there are so many other things as well... but this is more than long enough already
So, if you are still reading this, would you feel hurt or am I being too sensitive and should blow it off. I didn't expect a huge thank you, but a "we got the DVD and it works" would have been nice.
I have tried to talk to DH, but he isn't *getting it*. He doesn't see a problem, so I am asking you if maybe I am being too sensitive or if I should be hurt by all this.
We've been married 15 years and I always thought that this SIL and I got along, but now I wonder
Maybe she is still adjusting to not having her Mom around, I don't know. She did make the statement soon after the funeral that she "is the new matriarch of the family", which I found odd, but never said anything to her.Many things have happened to make me feel like something is going on, but the latest thing was this past 2 weeks, I made her some DVD's and sent them with a Valentine's Day card. I wrote in the card and asked her to let me know if the DVD's worked on their player (because I have made other DVD's and sometimes they work in one player, but not another... so I just wanted to make sure hers worked). I had spent weeks going through old video tapes and had made her 3 DVD's. The first was her 3 kids at their HS Graduations (they don't own a camcorder, so I know this is her only copy of those events). The second DVD has all the nieces and nephews graduations and the third is her son's wedding from 1999. I put the bridal shower on it, the wedding rehearsal, the wedding and the dance. All broke up into chapters, so you can easily go to a certain part to watch it.
Over a week goes by and not a word. I finally asked DH to call her last night and I could hear her answers through the phone (she talks loudly, I wasn't trying to listen in
). When asked if she had gotten them she said yes and when DH asked if they worked she said yes, then she changed the subject and they talked about one or two other things and hung up. OK, well you are welcome She has just been so cold to me and this has put me on edge, there are so many other things as well... but this is more than long enough already
So, if you are still reading this, would you feel hurt or am I being too sensitive and should blow it off. I didn't expect a huge thank you, but a "we got the DVD and it works" would have been nice.
