Would you allow your kids to have sex at EPCOT

[salmoneous]

As suggested in another thread...

Assume you are were going on a family vacation to Disney with your unmarried (18+) son/daughter and their signficiant other. They suggest a sleeping arrangement that would put the two of them alone in their own room. Would you go for it?

EDIT - OK, so it's not exactly *at* EPCOT, but you get the idea

 

[lindakmonty]

NO WAY! I know plenty of people that would be ok w/it..and it does depend on the person... but my first instinct is to say no way!

 

[mickeyfan2]

I was expecting to see to teens doing it while I walked around Epcot.

ETA: I would be really upset if my son or daughter was the one going on vacation and I did not know that they had their own room with their boy or girl friend.

Also No way for me too.

 

[Maleficent13]

18+? Then yes. Less than 18, no.

Actually, it wouldn't be that cut and dried...I would take other things into account too, such as the length of time they'd been dating, whether they shared an apt in "real life" (ie, not on vacation), if they were graduated from high school (some 18 yos are still in high school).

So, assuming 18+, appropriate length of relationship, living arrangement when not on vaca, and level of schooling, then probably. I think there comes a point when their lives are theirs.

Now, ask me what my DH would say...

 

[drumgoth]

lol
i would it's there choice

 

[Michie]

Do you mean your son and daughter and a 3rd person Noooooo!

 

[Laurajean1014]

Ah, let me think................................ NO!

 

[Maleficent13]

Oh, wait...I forgot to ask if sex between unmarried adults was legal in FLA. Can't be contributing to lawlessness!

 

[mickeyfan2]

So, assuming 18+, appropriate length of relationship, living arrangement when not on vaca, and level of schooling, then probably.

If they paid their own way and did not live on my dime, they are free to do as they please.

I was thinking of dependent adults when I answered.

 

[ducklite]

Who's paying for the room?

I guess if they were paying their own way then it's really not my choice. My 20 year old son is planning on taking his 17 year old girlfriend to WDW for her 18th birthday, and I'd be unrealistic to think that they'll be doing nothing but riding roller coasters.

Fortunately she lives 350 miles away.

I do really like this girl, they've been friends for five years now, together on and off for three, and are talking marriage "down the road" (neither is at all in a rush), but because of her age the distance doesn't break my heart.

Where it gets tricky is if you've also got your younger kids along. Then I would probably ask them to not share a room during the trip.

Anne

 

[Bob Slydell]

If it's my son and he brought a girlfriend along, no, I wouldn't go out of my way to afford them the opportunity. I remember going on vacation with my girlfriend (now my wife) and her parents when we were 19 and they insisted on the two of us being in separate beds every night. It didn't really bother me, since the thought of with my future in-laws next door kind of weirded me out anyways.

 

[Dakota_Lynn]

As suggested in another thread...

Assume you are were going on a family vacation to Disney with your unmarried (18+) son/daughter and their signficiant other. They suggest a sleeping arrangement that would put the two of them alone in their own room. Would you go for it?

EDIT - OK, so it's not exactly *at* EPCOT, but you get the idea

If they were paying for the extra room, well yeah, of course. Why would I tell my legally grown daughter she can't have sex with her partner?

 

[Maleficent13]

If they paid their own way and did not live on my dime, they are free to do as they please.

I was thinking of dependent adults when I answered.

See, to me the key word in the last sentence is "adults". I am not so sure how money, or lack thereof, relates to sex.

Having said that, I am fully aware I am in the VAST minority on this. I'm okay with that. I hope to raise my kids to be responsible adults who really don't need me to make their relationship decisions for them by the time they reach 18+. Doesn't mean I won't have a strongly worded opinion...

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Glad they're not doing it in the World Showcase. Or should I say in Future World!

Well, it depends. Are they supporting themselves, paying for the trip themselves, and on their own in every sense of the word? If so, there's not much I can do to stop it. If it's on my dime, then no way, no how.

 

[cardaway]

Yes. I'm don't think it's necessary to go the "Meet the Parents" route and pretend they're not already active and separate them just because they are not married. If you have told them it's wrong then I don't expect people to change, but if you're buying your daughter BC pills it seems odd to me to pretend on vacation.

It's not like they are going to do it in front of you.

 

[PrincessAurora]

As long as they are paying their own way, they can do what they want. If I am paying, unless there is a ring - ummm, no.

And BTW - I am WAY over 18, have had boyfriends and would NEVER have sex not only in my parents house or my friends house when we aren't married. Just ingrained in me since childhood. Nope. Not doing it. Once I had a boyfriend stay at my parents but we stayed in seperate rooms.

My own house - another story.

 

[lissawynn]

No, I don't think my child and his s/o would be sharing a room on our family vacation. I don't think I'd want him with a girl whose parents were ok with that. I'd get a villa or suite and make sure he was sleeping with his dad, I had close tabs on her.

 

[budbeerlady]

If I were paying for the room it wouldnt be for their shacking up together. That being said as a responsible adult with a DD now. And untill she is 40 DD wouldnt be allowed to go on vacation with a boyfriend unless all members girls of the family are in one room and the boys another! I dont even think she can meet a boy untill she is 40!

But the me that used to find away around all the rules and vacation living arragements when I was dating Dh would tell you there isnt much you can do to stop it short of handcuffing one of them to you at all times! You cannot watch them 24/7 and you have to trust that they are being responsible.

I wouldnt put a 3rd person in the room to ensure nothing goes on b/c that really doesnt work. And who really wants to be the poor 3rd person!

 

[twojo21]

18+? Then yes. Less than 18, no.

Actually, it wouldn't be that cut and dried...I would take other things into account too, such as the length of time they'd been dating, whether they shared an apt in "real life" (ie, not on vacation), if they were graduated from high school (some 18 yos are still in high school).

So, assuming 18+, appropriate length of relationship, living arrangement when not on vaca, and level of schooling, then probably. I think there comes a point when their lives are theirs.

Now, ask me what my DH would say...

im with you on this one maleficent, you took the words right out of mouth.

 

[mickeyfan2]

It didn't really bother me, since the thought of with my future in-laws next door kind of weirded me out anyways.