Would this make you mad

[huey duey & luey]

My dh is outside putting up lights. We have been married for 8 years, for 8 years he has decorated with only white lights. I go outside to find that he bought colored lights. I stongly prefer white lights and he knows it. He asked me how I liked it and I told him I like white lights, now he is mad at me

 

[sunkissed212]

Well, yes and no. I think that it would have been nice for him to mention to you that he was thinking about decorating with colored lights this year and ask for your opinion on it before doing it. However, after he put in all that hard work, I'm the kind of person that would have just sucked it up and say that it looked nice. I guess I just feel like if he did all the work on it, that he should be able to decorate any way he wants to. Don't get me wrong, I'm totally a "white light" lover too but...

...I do think he should have mentioned it beforehand though especially if he knew you were partial to white lights.

 

[huey duey & luey]

...I do think he should have mentioned it beforehand though especially if he knew you were partial to white lights.

thats the part that annoyed me, and disassembled the part of my brain that tells you to think before you speak

 

[Tasha+Scott]

My DH prefers colored lights too. It seems that white lights is all we see around here anymore, so sometimes colored lights is a nice change of pace. Yes, I think your DH should have consulted you, but I don't think it would have made me mad. I would make a deal w/him...he can do colored lights this year, but next year you get to have your white lights. I would just alternate every year. It's only a few weeks out of a year anyway.

 

[CEDmom]

Well, yes and no. I think that it would have been nice for him to mention to you that he was thinking about decorating with colored lights this year and ask for your opinion on it before doing it. However, after he put in all that hard work, I'm the kind of person that would have just sucked it up and say that it looked nice. I guess I just feel like if he did all the work on it, that he should be able to decorate any way he wants to. Don't get me wrong, I'm totally a "white light" lover too but...

...I do think he should have mentioned it beforehand though especially if he knew you were partial to white lights.

I pretty much agree with what sunkissed212 said. Part of me would be mad especially that he hadn't said something about liking colored lights and wanting to put them up this year. I actually like both white and colored as long as the colored aren't all blue. The blue ones just leave me feeling cold.

 

[dg39]

I strongly believe that its the women of the house's job to decide what, where and how, and the mans job to DO what, where, how,and WHEN, SHE says it.

 

[sorcerormickey]

DG39, you are my kind of person!! LOL!!

But, HD&L - he's a man. What can you expect?

All kidding aside, as long as they look nice, I wouldn't be HUGELY upset, slightly ticked and him in the doghouse? Yes.

 

[dopeys biggest fan]

All I know is I have much more important things to worry about than the color of the lights on my house.

 

[orvilleair]

No, as long as it looks nice and even.

 

[palmtreegirl]

I strongly believe that its the women of the house's job to decide what, where and how, and the mans job to DO what, where, how,and WHEN, SHE says it.

Oh my.....................


To OP- No, I wouldn't be mad at all.

 

[becka]

Well I would have been suprised but certainly not mad. It is after all just Christmas lights and DH's opinion means as much as mine so if he felt like colored lights one year it wouldn't bother me especially if I had been getting the white lights for 8 years.

 

[gr8tpanther]

They stay up for a few weeks and they come back down, precisely why this year, all we have is a tree with ONE strand of COLORED blinking, twinkling chasing lights, a few ornaments and a plastic tree, next year, we are going total fiber optic with no ornaments! Christmas is becoming WAY too much work for the little time spent enjoying it!

 

[septbride2002]

Maybe your DH prefers colored lights and since he is the one taking the time to put them up - I would think his opinion would count a little. By the way - I think you owe him an apology - he was probably very proud of himself and you knocked him down.

~Amanda

 

[C.Ann]

I don't think I would be mad.. After all, it's his house and his holiday too! I would have just told him it's nice to have a change every once in a while and he did a great job..

It's definitely a job I wouldn't want - and that goes for stringing the lights on the Christmas tree too! LOL

 

[Serena]

I would be surprised, but not angry. After all, it's just lights.

 

[disneydragon]

Since you've had your way for 8 years, with white lights, I'd say it's high time it's his turn to choose the color.

 

[huey duey & luey]

He is the one that is mad. I was not expecting that when I walked out, and he asked me what I thought, and my thought was I like white lights. In 8 years he never gave an idea that he would have preferred colored lights, thruthfully I thought he really didnt care one way or another, and obviously I do have a prefernce

 

[dopeys biggest fan]

There only lights, let it go. Is it really worth fighting over? I would apologize for hurting his feelings after all his hard work and then move on.

 

[Hippychickali]

I understand your initial reaction but I think we have to remember why we are putting Christmas lights in the first place.

Ali

 

[Auggietina]

All I know is I have much more important things to worry about than the color of the lights on my house.

(amazing how trival things aren't important anymore)

I'm with you. Be happy you have lights to put up and your family is together, there are much more important things in life to be worried about other than what color lights you have up.