Would this bother you

[happygirl]

If your spouse got a speeding ticket and didn't tell you

 

[minniecarousel]

If your spouse got a speeding ticket and didn't tell you

yup - it would bother me, because it may affect our auto insurance. It's the type of thing that I believe needs to be disclosed.

 

[AshleyW]

It would bother me. The fee for the ticket would come out of OUR checking account, and affect OUR auto insurance, so it's something that should be shared.

 

[debf]

Yes!I would be very upset if Dh got a speeding ticket and didn't tell me.We live in a small town and news travels fast.I would not want to hear it from someone else and not know what they were talking about.

 

[ginna74]

yep, to me same as lying...lying by omission...finding out later cause you will.. er did

 

[lil mermaid]

Yes, I wouldn't be happy.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Not too much. I think he should tell me, but if he didn't and I found out, I wouldn't be that upset. I guess I'd just ask why he didn't tell me.

 

[karibritt01]

I got a speeding ticket 2 weeks before Christmas, and did not tell DH. He was super-stressed out about money, and I did not want to ruin the holidays with worrying over my stupid ticket. I ended up telling him about a week before my court date in Jan. I am not sorry that I didn't tell him earlier. I know how he reacts to things, and I knew it would worry him from the moment he found out until it was resolved.

 

[AKL_Megs]

Yes, if my DH lied to me about something financial like that, I would be very angry. Like someone else said, it affects banking accounts, insurance rates, and marriage vows, I might add.

 

[AKL_Megs]

I got a speeding ticket 2 weeks before Christmas, and did not tell DH. He was super-stressed out about money, and I did not want to ruin the holidays with worrying over my stupid ticket. I ended up telling him about a week before my court date in Jan. I am not sorry that I didn't tell him earlier. I know how he reacts to things, and I knew it would worry him from the moment he found out until it was resolved.

I think this is different because you eventually DID tell, and only didn't tell right away was so that the family could enjoy the holidays. You didn't keep it from your spouse all together.

 

[Bluestars]

It would bother me for a couple of reasons. The first is that I would want to know so that it was handled in the right way. A lot of times if you go to traffic school, the ticket will be dismissed.

The second thing would be the hiding it from me. I would wonder why he would feel the need to hide something like that from me. I think the main reason people don't tell their spouses things is because they think it will upset them. I would hope that my spouse would feel comfortable telling me things and would not feel like he has to hide things because of my reactions.

BTW, my husband got a ticket last year (the first in 15 years) and went to traffic school. The ticket was then taken off of his record. I am glad he told me. It wasn't a big deal, but if it had been a big deal, I would have wanted to see what I could do to help.

 

[alexandria674]

If he forgot I would be forgiving BUT if he lied to me about, yeah I would be pretty mad.

 

[C.Ann]

Yes - it would..

 

[Aisling]

No. If I got a speeding ticket, I wouldn't tell my spouse. I'd pay it and learn my lesson. I'm his wife, not his daughter, and I don't feel I have to report everything to him. He has the right to feel the same way.

 

[janey99]

No. If I got a speeding ticket, I wouldn't tell my spouse. I'd pay it and learn my lesson. I'm his wife, not his daughter, and I don't feel I have to report everything to him. He has the right to feel the same way.

Thanks for saying this!

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks this is a non-issue. Thie highest ticket I can think of for a moving violation is about 400$. This is not a "break me" amount for our finances, and beyond that, who cares? We're both adults.

Jane

 

[OctMtnWoods]

In my book, telling a lie always gets you in more trouble than the original offense (the ticket). Yet, men still lie.

 

[janey99]

In my book, telling a lie always gets you in more trouble than the original offense (the ticket). Yet, men still lie.

Why is not telling "a lie?"

I imagine the scenario in my house -

I am in DH's craphole car for some reason, and I find a crumpled up speeding ticket on the floor.

me: what's this?

him: a speeding ticket I got last week. The *bleeper* caught me doing 40 in a 25.

me: haha - loser!

end of convo.

Where is the lie?

 

[suejai]

Not too much. I think he should tell me, but if he didn't and I found out, I wouldn't be that upset. I guess I'd just ask why he didn't tell me.

This would be my take on it as well. I would assume that it had just slipped his mind, we only talk briefly once a day at the end of the day ( he works out of town) and by the time he did make it home he would likely have forgotten. It would come out eventually as I pay all the bills and get the mail etc.

 

[Maleficent13]

It would bother me for a couple of reasons. The first is that I would want to know so that it was handled in the right way.

Is there a reason your husband would not be able to handle it "the right way"? I guess I'm thinking if he can get one, he can handle one.

To the OP, nope, wouldn't bother me.

 

[JessicaR]

I don't consider him not telling me the same thing as him lying to me.

If my husband got a ticket he would tell me cause I would be the one dealing with paying it. But to answer the question posed, yes it would.