Worst Wedding

[tkd lisa]

It must be wedding season given the number of these threads!

The worst wedding I went to was primarily because of the couple.

The wedding was in Chicago. Bride was from a very traditional Italian family (Both parents were born in Italy and immigrated as young children). They ended up having 14 attendants in the wedding because they couldn't tell anyone no???? The dinner was huge, with full open bar, hor-doerves, appetizers, choice of 3 main couses, a huge dessert table not even counting the cake. There were 400 people there. The worst part of it was? One month later, the bride was crying in my house because her new husband was beating her, and she couldn't tell her dad she wanted a divorce since they had just spent all that money on the wedding.

This wedding was 4 weeks after my wedding (we were in each others weddings as we had been good friends all through college). At our wedding, we had punch and cake in the church fellowship hall. A large portion of my family isn't comfortable around alcohol, and we didn't want to spend a fortune (we paid for the entire wedding ourselves). After the "formal reception" everyone was invited to change into casual clothes and come to a picnic at a local site (the ones who wouldn't be near alcohol didn't come to that part). We brought in big sub sandwiches, potatos salad, etc. and had some beer, wine, and alcohol available on a serve-yourself basis. We had a DJ to play music for dancing, and a playground for the kids. Overall, we probably spent 10% of the big wedding above.

I do agree that we all think way too much about the fancy trappings of a wedding, and not what's truly important.

 

[missypie]

One of my high school friends was the type who was a bridemaid in about 15 weddings. One time she was asked to come a bit early to help with the food at a wedding in our (Baptist) church fellowship hall. The bridesmaids were presented with loaves of bread and cold cuts and were expected to make a bunch of sandwiches. Later, the bridesmaids realized that there was absolutely nothing to drink, so they scrounged around the church kitchen and found some iced tea mix and filled the punch bowl with instant iced tea!

 

[BabyTigger99]

At my wedding, we didn't run out of food (most weddings here are family style, usually chicken and fixins), but, my tacky uncle and his even tackier wife went around to all the tables after dinner, before they were cleared, and started filling up a box with leftover chicken and dinner rolls to bring home!! They also took a few trips out with several pieces of cake each time, and what really ticked me off, was we had cookies decorated with our names and wedding date at each place sitting, and they went around and snagged them as well!! I didn't even get one!!!

 

[mrsheppo]

We have one of these weddings coming up in just a few days. The bride is my stepdaughter. She and her mother finally told us at Christmas that she was getting married only because they needed us to help out financially. We weren't originally going to be invited. She didn't even ask her dad to walk her down the aisle. The only thing mother has paid for is the dress and suits for my DH's 5 sons as they are all in the bridal party. There is going to be a total of 25 in the bridal party. I don't think even Princess Diana had that many attendants. They invited 250 guest and only about 40 are coming. We are not rich by any means and we have purchased meat & cheese trays, vegetable trays and fruit along with sparkling cider for the toast (no boose per the church) for the reception. In the last week we have ordered the food, cake, flowers and just today we were finally able to obtain a minister to marry them. We are also paying for the church, the invitations, the party supplies, guest book, flower girl's basket , etc. I also made all the favors. Every time we call to ask their opinion on something or what they would like for their wedding, they tell us they have been too busy to do any arraignments or they have no idea what they would like. I have ended up making most of the decisions. They were not thrilled that the flowers are going to be silk, because at this late date to have real bouquets is too expensive and not enough time to make as many as needed. We have been planning all this from another state while the bride and her mother live near where the wedding is to take place.

Even though we have willing done all this, we will probably not even get a thank you for all our work. After all, I am referred to as the ESM (Evil Step Mother)

 

[tigercat]

For my wedding (almost 30 years ago) we did not have alcohol of any kind but did have soft drinks and punches. At my dd's wedding 7 yrs. ago we had a cash bar for alcohol. Her mil insisted that there be alcohol but she was not prepared to pay for it and since we do not have anything to do with it we wouldn't either. My dd decided to have a cash bar then. We did provide free soft drinks as well as several punches. There was plenty to drink that was free. I know the caterer was upset because hardly any alcohol was purchased. We had a buffet for her wedding and the bride and grooms table were the first to go up for food and then the guests followed table by table. The last tables to go were us the parents table. My feeling was that if someone comes to my home and I am the hostess I am not the first in line for food. I usually make sure my guests are served first. I wanted to make sure that everyone got food as I have been to some buffets where there wasn't enough food. If I was the one to not get food then I would be talking to the caterer myself.
tigercat

 

[Tiger Fan]

I'm taking notes on all of this as my youngest sister is getting married in September. She's getting married at our church, but her reception will be at our local country club. We live in a small town and most everyone is a member there anyway - it's not "uppitty (sp?)" at all. We are having a buffet and it will many various tables set up so everyone hopefully will mingle around and no one will be "last". She's serving shrimp, roast beef, chicken strips, fruits, vegetables, lots of dips and sauces in bread bowls, and I'm sure I forgetting things. I'll have to ask her about the birdgage or box or what they plan to do. What I've usually seen is a decorated table for people to put gifts on. I'll be sure to post back in September to let you all know how things went. LOL.
Lisa