Will this start a flowergirl war?

[princess pooh]

I know this isn't a big deal but I could use some opinions. We're having three flowergirls at our wedding, two 5 year olds and a toddler. We wanted to get each girl a wreath of flowers for their hair and the florist suggested they all be exactly the same or else it could start a "flowergirl war" (I guess she meant that one girl could want what the other had). The mom of one of the five year olds called me last night to tell me her daughter was going to wear the silk flowers clips that she (the mom) had worn when she was a bride. Sooo, what do I do? Do I just order the wreaths for the other two? Should I get one for the toddler and let the other girl pick her own hair accessories? Do I get three wreaths just in case of a flowergirl war? Do I just forget about the hair stuff since I already paid for their dresses?

Before someone tells me that is silly - I already know that. I just don't want any of their feelings to be hurt. It's just small issue I need resolved

 

[Kermit]

I'd just ask their mothers. It's so hard to say with little girls that age.

 

[Daxx]

OK, whose wedding is this? Yours! Do you want the girls to wear wreathes? If so, then tell Mommy-Who-Is-Making-Her-Own-Rules that it's your wedding and her child wears what YOU want her to wear.

As for the flowergirl war ... get them all the same wreathes. That way, nobody's arguing that they want pink ribbons or blue ribbons or whatever.

The big issue is more w/the other child whose mother wants her to wear special flowers. I can just see the other two girls wanting flowers like the one girl and then what are you going to do? You can't single out one child over the other.

Good luck ... and remember, it's your wedding, you're the boss!!!!!

 

[Jenn Lynn]

OK, whose wedding is this? Yours! Do you want the girls to wear wreathes? If so, then tell Mommy-Who-Is-Making-Her-Own-Rules that it's your wedding and her child wears what YOU want her to wear.

As for the flowergirl war ... get them all the same wreathes. That way, nobody's arguing that they want pink ribbons or blue ribbons or whatever.

The big issue is more w/the other child whose mother wants her to wear special flowers. I can just see the other two girls wanting flowers like the one girl and then what are you going to do? You can't single out one child over the other.

Good luck ... and remember, it's your wedding, you're the boss!!!!!

I agree with this! Good luck.

 

[Maleficent13]

I'm with Daxx. If it was just one flower girl and the mom wanted her to wear her clips, then I'd be fine with that. But with two other little girls, I can definitely see this turning into three major tantrums.

 

[The Disney Bunch]

The mother should have asked you before deciding what her daughter would wear in her hair- it is your wedding- if you want them all to wear the same thing, then tell her - the daughter can wear the clips some other time.

 

[stinkerbelle]

OK, whose wedding is this? Yours! Do you want the girls to wear wreathes? If so, then tell Mommy-Who-Is-Making-Her-Own-Rules that it's your wedding and her child wears what YOU want her to wear.

As for the flowergirl war ... get them all the same wreathes. That way, nobody's arguing that they want pink ribbons or blue ribbons or whatever.

The big issue is more w/the other child whose mother wants her to wear special flowers. I can just see the other two girls wanting flowers like the one girl and then what are you going to do? You can't single out one child over the other.

Good luck ... and remember, it's your wedding, you're the boss!!!!!

I totally agree.
If this woman puts up a stink...just say " you want them all to look the same in the pictures...but she is free to put those clips in her hair AFTER the pictures or...when she gets married."

hehehe

some people...sheesh!

 

[princess pooh]

Thanks for all your advice! I knew I could count on you guys

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Be prepared for them to play with the wreaths--take it off there head...you know--fun stuff.

Otherwise--the moms should be asking what "you" want the girls to wear and not telling you what they will be putting on their hair.

 

[mickeyboat]

I agree with eveyrone else. But I'd like to offer a compromise.

Can you find someone who can design hair clips similar to the ones the mother wants the daughter to wear? Are they something you would like?

Good luck!

Denae

 

[ckret01]

Can you tell the mother that the little girl can wear the mothers hair clips when the little girl gets married????? j/k

Be honest with her and tell her you had your heart set on the wreaths if it means that much to you

 

[Jennifer S]

OK, whose wedding is this? Yours! Do you want the girls to wear wreathes? If so, then tell Mommy-Who-Is-Making-Her-Own-Rules that it's your wedding and her child wears what YOU want her to wear.

As for the flowergirl war ... get them all the same wreathes. That way, nobody's arguing that they want pink ribbons or blue ribbons or whatever.

The big issue is more w/the other child whose mother wants her to wear special flowers. I can just see the other two girls wanting flowers like the one girl and then what are you going to do? You can't single out one child over the other.

Good luck ... and remember, it's your wedding, you're the boss!!!!!

Yep!!

 

[Ava83]

I have had my DD in a wedding as a flower girl and the main thing is that the mom should have asked you about the clips

I agree with Mickeyboat, can the clips be replicated?

 

[diznygirl]

The time to deal with this situation was when you spoke with the girl's mother. When she mentioned the clips, your response should have been, That's nice, but I've already decided on wreaths for all the flower girls.

Now you have to find a graceful way to go back and tell her you changed your mind. Good luck.

 

[DizMare]

Or, you could just order the three wreaths and when it is time to put them on, deal them out to the other two and offer it to the clip child. I'm betting she'll near break an arm to get one of those wreaths!

 

[Sparx]

why don't you get some of the same clips like the mom wants on her daughter for the other two.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

I know this isn't a big deal but I could use some opinions. We're having three flowergirls at our wedding, two 5 year olds and a toddler. We wanted to get each girl a wreath of flowers for their hair and the florist suggested they all be exactly the same or else it could start a "flowergirl war" (I guess she meant that one girl could want what the other had). The mom of one of the five year olds called me last night to tell me her daughter was going to wear the silk flowers clips that she (the mom) had worn when she was a bride. Sooo, what do I do? Do I just order the wreaths for the other two? Should I get one for the toddler and let the other girl pick her own hair accessories? Do I get three wreaths just in case of a flowergirl war? Do I just forget about the hair stuff since I already paid for their dresses?

Before someone tells me that is silly - I already know that. I just don't want any of their feelings to be hurt. It's just small issue I need resolved

if oyu dont want her to wear the flower clips then tell her so
its your wedding
if you want them all to wear matching wreaths say that

 

[nemo1987]

why don't you get some of the same clips like the mom wants on her daughter for the other two.

I think she should have the girls wear what she had originally decided for them to wear. She should not have to change the looks of the flower girls just to please one mom. It is her wedding and whatever she chooses goes. If the mom does not like it, she can either not have her daughter in the wedding, or have her in the wedding and suck it up. Oh and Princess Pooh- Go bridezilla on them if you have to. It may be the only solution to your problem!!
-Sarah

 

[princess pooh]

Thanks everyone. It's not that I really care what the girls wear in their hair, I just don't want any of the girls to feel bad. I tried to find similar clips but they don't seem to make them like that anymore . I spoke to the other moms today and they'd like the girls to have the wreaths. I'll just order the three wreaths and if they want to wear them, that's fine. If they want to use them as frisbees, that's fine too. As long as they're happy, I'll be happy!