TarzansKat
Not all treasure is silver and gold, mate.
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TK don't forget that you are an individual too...not just part of a family. I didnt' take that job because it wasn't good for me, not the family. Liam would have been fine and DH would have loved the extra money coming in. But I decided that I didn't want to be tired and stressed which would make ME unhappy and then spread to the rest of the family.
In my heart, I know you're right. I guess I've fallen into that "mother sacrifices" trap, you know? I just need to get this worked out so I can start feeling like everyone values what makes me tick, you know?
Not to be a downer but a realist......I know I'm about 5 years older than you but "plenty of time to have a baby" might not be true. Two of my girlfriends tired to get pregnant for the second time at age 35. One got pregnant on the first try. The other has been trying for almost a year and has had 2 miscarriages and is still trying. Time slips away from us....I don't want it to slip away from you and another nugget.![]()
Again, you're right. It is totally realistic that we could have a hard time the longer I wait. I guess that I have made peace with that. I will not have another baby while I'm working at this job. Period, end of story, flat out refuse. And I don't see that as an ultimatum for my husband, just a simple fact. I cannot handle more on my plate than what I already have.
I'm just glad your trip is almost here so you can re-charge.
I can't wait. I'm really looking forward to relaxing there.
