Why would you ask if someone is pregnant....

[Disneylover79]

I have had 2 different people in the past 2 weeks ask me if I am expecting....

1. I am a nurse so we wear scrubs to work... this nursing student was in the unit getting her assignment for the next day and I was helping her out and she looked at me and said " are you expecting", before I could even think I replied with " no I am just fat thanks"... the whole room was in shock she even asked this... I mean she was a complete stranger and only knew me for like 3 minutes....

2. This person I know and she walked up to me and started rubbing her belly and said "what's going on here"? I was like what do you mean....

So I guess the take away message is I am FAT.... well I am not FAT I just hold all of my weight in my belly...yeah I could stand to loose a few pounds but I DO NOT LOOK PREGNANT...

I guess I would never ask this to anyone so why would people just ask this...

Have you ever asked anyone or been asked.. please share your stories..

 

[happygirl]

I have had that happen to me. I just try to think I'm glowing and not that I'm getting fatter lol

 

[december]

About 2 wks ago I was in Walmart, and a guy I grew up with asked me when I was due. He got away from me fast when I told him "5 wks ago!" NEVER ask a woman if she is pregnant!

 

[MariDisney]

On a rare occasion someone has asked me when I'm due. I tell them the truth...November 5th (1999).

 

[leagirl12]

I have asked someone once....and trust me once was all it took. I will NEVER ask someone that question.

I was a receptionist at the time and someone had come in to meet with someone in our office. I called the person to let them know she was there and he said it would be a few minutes. So she was sitting there waiting and that is when I asked. Yeah then he was like another 10 minutes coming to get there so we sat there in a VERY UNCOMFORTABLE silence waiting for him to come get her from my office area. It was one of the most embarrasing things I have ever done.

 

[KristaTX]

Oh, yeah. I'm a nurse, too. I'm not overweight, but I do tend to hold any extra pounds in my abdomen and not my hips. I guess that makes me an "apple". But scrubs are not flattering on anyone no matter what your weight or shape is.

Anyway, I once caught a drug rep staring at my belly. And her eyes started to get all big and she made some sort of motion indicating she was asking if I was pregnant. I'm kind of considered polite, quiet, professional, etc. around the office. The other nurses I work with were literally speechless when I gave the rep the glare from hades and loudly informed her how rude it is to imply that someone looks pregnant.

How can any adult NOT know that it is a huge social no-no to ask if someone is pregnant based on their appearance ? I think I even said something like that to the drug rep at the time.

 

[disneynewbee]

I was shopping with my mother looking for clothing for my then 6 month old daughter. There was an obviously pregnant lady there shopping and she started talking to me. She asked me what sizes I was buying and was saying how she didn't know how much of each size to buy etc, etc. Then she asked when I was due. I said I'm not my daughter is 6 months. It was kinda uncomfortable after that and magically she needed to go check the other isles.

 

[KristaTX]

Oh - another story. . .

The outfits the cast members at Boma have to wear seriously seem to be made to make everyone look pregnant. They are super poofy and stick out just like a pregnant belly is under there. And of course, my father-in-law asked our waitress if she was pregnant . I bet those poor waitresses have to hear that all the time.

 

[jas_mom1]

I delivered my son in March. Went to a FAMILY wedding 3 months later in June. Had an uncle of my DH ask me when I was due. That was fun!

Dianne

 

[MaumeeMom]

Been there - when I was first married, I gained some weight (post wedding blues) and had a few people say things like, "You started right away, huh?" and "Oh, a honeymoon baby!"

It makes you feel two inches tall. I'm sorry this happened to you, just know that there are plenty of us here to commiserate with.

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

I can see asking somebody in a maternity section. At least there it is kind of understandable if you are shopping for baby things. I still wouldn't do it, but I wouldn't be as offended. I am overweight and carry all my weight in my midsection, so I'm terrified of being asked this question. So far I haven't been. But I'm waiting for the day. (Of course, it probably helps that most people seem to think I am 12).

 

[Buckalew11]

I had an old boyfriend's dad ask me. This was years ago, before I'd even had a baby. I wasn't even "chunky" and but I was wearing some type of dress that I'm sure didn't help my figure. I remember being so shocked and upset. At that point, I was probably 10 lbs heavier than when I dated his son.

 

[lovetoscrap]

I was the asker.

When I was teaching a boy in my class told me several times that his mom was having a baby. I hadn't seen her in a few months and when she came for a conference she had a noticeable belly. She was a pretty skinny woman and she really looked about 4-5 mo pregnant. So of course I said "Joe said that you are expecting, when are you due?"

She just looked at me and said that she wasn't and she had gained some weight. I felt so incredibly stupid. I don't think I would ever even ask a woman panting in labor if she was pregnant! I learned my lesson.


But I have to say, I was never really sure if I believed her. She was kind of odd to begin with and she really did look pregnant. You just don't usually see a super skinny woman gain weight in the shape of a basketball to the belly. I moved away so I never did see her after the end of the year to know if she had a baby.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I'm rowing the same boat as all of you.

It certainly didn't help when surplice empire blouses came out...I couldn't find anything else in my size for the longest time.

 

[Beca]

Right after I got married, I was all of 95lbs (I'm 5' 5") and was waitressing at Hooters. I went to Target with my dh to look for furniture wearing a t-shirt and some loose shorts. The girl working at Target comes over to help us and says, "Are you going to be shopping for baby furniture soon?" We were TOTALLY confused. She said, "I mean, you are expecting, right?"

Now that I am older, have had a child, and do carry my weight out in front, I have heard this comment a couple of times. It doesn't matter if I am a size 6 or a size 12...every once in a while I will get a comment. The funny thing is, I am now 6 months pg, and people keep commenting on how tiny I am, and that there is NO way I could be so far along!! No one ever asked me if I was pg until I was 5 1/2 months along....weird!!!

When we went to WDW in Jan., we went with friends, and people kept assuming my friend was pg. She was totally embarrassed, and I felt badly for her....it always stinks!!!

I'm not sure why people feel a need to discuss pregnancy. I did not start telling anyone I was pg until about 17 wks, because I did not want to be a "topic of conversation"....when are you due, what are you having, what are you naming the baby, did I tell you about my pregnancy, what does your dd think about this, and the list goes on and on!! It does seem like complete strangers want to have conversations about pregnancy an awful lot!!! I think that is one reason why the question gets asked so much!!!

 

[honugirl]

You can't always assume that someone shopping in maternity is pregnant. My disease has caused me to gain a lot of weight in my belly, but is wastes away your arms, legs, and of course, my backside. Normal clothes don't fit me well because of the way I'm now shaped, maternity actually fits better and looks semi-normal at times.

I've been asked when I'm due at the OB-GYN office before from a really annoying clerk and no, it wasn't on the paperwork or was in any way shape or form asked in a medical way, I was coming out of my yearly exam. Um, non-pregnant people go there too lady.

 

[sunlver]

ALthough I have been overweight much of my life.. nobody has ever asked me when I am not pregnant. I do believe now a days..ladies get asked more because of the style of clothing that is around. It is true. there are times I see ladies and wonder if they are pregnant by the clothes they are wearing. It seems to be the style(whehter one has a big gut or not)to wear the jeans that sit on the hips and short shirts and let it all hang out.

Even the nicer cut shirts, resemble maternity shirts I am no fashion person, but honestly I dont really understand the whole look now. LIke I said, I have always been overweight, and the last thing I want his my big gut hanging over my jeans, or to wear shirts to even hint I maybe pregnant when I am not. Yes. to each his own. My point.. I think the style of clothes these days make more women look pregnant when they really arent.

 

[MomNeedsVacay]

I'm so sorry that has happened to you. I actually have told people that I'm not pregnant when I am just to mess with them. I'm somewhat diabolical.......

 

[TIGGER1981]

a few years ago, I was heavier ( 5'11'', size 18/20), but I didn't look pregnant...I had a rude woman in the office I worked at, bring in a bag of maternity clothes...and tell me I could have them. I said I wasn't pregnant...she said, "well, you're a big girl, and I was your size when i was pregnant...so I figured you could use these."

 

[mjkacmom]

I've been asked - once a few weeks after giving birth, at the grocery store, when the cashier said "wow, you're buying formula, and are already pregnant again!" Idiot. I once said something to a woman who I hadn't seen in a while, but it turns out she gave birth 2 days earlier, so she did look pregnant. Ever since, I will not mention the possibility of pregnancy, even if the woman looks 9 months pregnant, until she brings it up.