I am terrified to go to sleep tonight. I had been dating this guy for a little over three years. We're both in our early thirties and highly educated. We're not technically together right now and are free to see other people. We never had a big fight or anything we just want different things. I want to get married (not necessarily to him) and he never wants to get married. We still talk several times a day and see each other a couple of times a week.
Anyways the scary part started at about 11 pm. I was over his house and some of our friends had just left. We we're about to go to sleep when he got a phone call. He left the room which he never does and then I heard him arguing with someone. It was obvious that whoever he was arguing with was a girl. Now I couldn't be that upset since as I said we're not together anymore. He eventually got off the phone and came back in the room. Of course I had to ask who he was talking to. All he said was never get involved with a black woman. Before you flame me, I should tell you that he is black and I'm white and those were his words not mine. So the phone rings again and he goes back to arguing. This time I could tell that part of the arguement was about me and was able to figure out that this was his ex girlfriend. He dated her for six years and they had been broken up for several months before we got together. I knew they had a turbulent relationship in the past and that it was her love of drama that broke them up. He and I are both pretty quiet people. So after they got off the phone he told me that they had been talking again and that he just wanted to be friends with her but she had misunderstood. I knew that they talked off and on since she was still good friends with his sisters but I didn't know that they had been talking again.
After we talked for a while I went downstairs to get a drink of water. It was then that I heard the car pull into the driveway. He came downstairs and told me to go upstairs since he wasn't sure what she was going to do. He refused to answer the door and she threatened to break his window. He came upstairs and called the police. While he was on the phone with the police she was outside screaming that she was going to smash the windows in his car and mine. Thankfully, when she realized he really had called the police she left. The police eventually showed up which ended up being slightly embarassing since the police officer was the father of a former student. We both teach in the same building and he lives in the district that we teach in so the officer knew both of us.
I ended up leaving after the police because I didn't want her coming back and smashing my windows but it wasn't until after I left that something he had said scared me to death. He told me that when we first started dating he and his girlfriend still shared a cell phone bill. She decided to check his calls on line one day and saw all of the phone calls to a number that she didn't recognize. She was able to click on the number and my name and address came up. So she knows where I live. Not only does she know where I live but since she works at a collection agency she was able to do some research and get a lot of information about me like where I went to college and my parents address. Someone who goes to that extent is definatly not stable and after tonights stunt she proved that. I'm worried about what she'll do next. Hopefully since it's been three years since she first looked up the information she doesn't still have it.
I really never expected anything like this to happen to me. I pretty much mind my business and don't cause problems for anyone. I see enough drama in the inner city school I teach at; I don't need to bring it home with me. It makes me so mad that we both have to go through this. He really doesn't deserve it either. Even though we won't end up together he really is a good guy. We've both been up front and honest with each other when we have dates with other people. In fact he's so good I lost several good friends because of him. Some of my girlfriends who are black won't speak to me anymore. Their arguement was that there are plenty of educated white men out there who have no criminal records, no babies, and no drug problems why did I have to steal one of theirs (again these are their words, not mine).
Sorry this was so long but I just had to get it out and I don't want to wake up anyone.
Anyways the scary part started at about 11 pm. I was over his house and some of our friends had just left. We we're about to go to sleep when he got a phone call. He left the room which he never does and then I heard him arguing with someone. It was obvious that whoever he was arguing with was a girl. Now I couldn't be that upset since as I said we're not together anymore. He eventually got off the phone and came back in the room. Of course I had to ask who he was talking to. All he said was never get involved with a black woman. Before you flame me, I should tell you that he is black and I'm white and those were his words not mine. So the phone rings again and he goes back to arguing. This time I could tell that part of the arguement was about me and was able to figure out that this was his ex girlfriend. He dated her for six years and they had been broken up for several months before we got together. I knew they had a turbulent relationship in the past and that it was her love of drama that broke them up. He and I are both pretty quiet people. So after they got off the phone he told me that they had been talking again and that he just wanted to be friends with her but she had misunderstood. I knew that they talked off and on since she was still good friends with his sisters but I didn't know that they had been talking again.
After we talked for a while I went downstairs to get a drink of water. It was then that I heard the car pull into the driveway. He came downstairs and told me to go upstairs since he wasn't sure what she was going to do. He refused to answer the door and she threatened to break his window. He came upstairs and called the police. While he was on the phone with the police she was outside screaming that she was going to smash the windows in his car and mine. Thankfully, when she realized he really had called the police she left. The police eventually showed up which ended up being slightly embarassing since the police officer was the father of a former student. We both teach in the same building and he lives in the district that we teach in so the officer knew both of us.
I ended up leaving after the police because I didn't want her coming back and smashing my windows but it wasn't until after I left that something he had said scared me to death. He told me that when we first started dating he and his girlfriend still shared a cell phone bill. She decided to check his calls on line one day and saw all of the phone calls to a number that she didn't recognize. She was able to click on the number and my name and address came up. So she knows where I live. Not only does she know where I live but since she works at a collection agency she was able to do some research and get a lot of information about me like where I went to college and my parents address. Someone who goes to that extent is definatly not stable and after tonights stunt she proved that. I'm worried about what she'll do next. Hopefully since it's been three years since she first looked up the information she doesn't still have it.
I really never expected anything like this to happen to me. I pretty much mind my business and don't cause problems for anyone. I see enough drama in the inner city school I teach at; I don't need to bring it home with me. It makes me so mad that we both have to go through this. He really doesn't deserve it either. Even though we won't end up together he really is a good guy. We've both been up front and honest with each other when we have dates with other people. In fact he's so good I lost several good friends because of him. Some of my girlfriends who are black won't speak to me anymore. Their arguement was that there are plenty of educated white men out there who have no criminal records, no babies, and no drug problems why did I have to steal one of theirs (again these are their words, not mine).
Sorry this was so long but I just had to get it out and I don't want to wake up anyone.
