Why does someone always have to "rain on your parade"??

[Disney Doll]

There are probably several issues at work here:
1. She's jealous that she's not going
2. She's jealous of the good relationship you have with your DSIL
and figures this is a good way to throw a monkey wrench into it
3. She's jealous of the good relationship you have with your DGD

My advice would be to let it lie as far as telling DSIL that his mama said anything. Perhaps you could draw him out a bit in conversation as far as his going on the trip, saying something to the effect of "I know you are not fond of flying, but if you wanted to come, perhaps we could do the autotrain or something similar for you", or something along those lines.

Whatever you do though, don't let his mother's petty jealousies and interference ruin your good relationship with him!

And don't ever do that "everybody live in a big house financed by his parents" thing.

Andm if the MIL says anything else to oyu about it, my repsonse would be "since you're not involved in the trip in any way, I don't really care what you think about it."

 

[minniecarousel]

This sounds just like her C.Ann! Don't let this upset the wonderful relationship that you have with your SIL! He knows how much this means to you - not only to go, but to have your daughter and granddaughter go with you.

But you're right - why does she insist on raining on your parade! ugh!

 

[mt2]

mt2

 

[septbride2002]

Wow. I can tell you this is my MIL ever dared to call my Mom and speak to her like this there would be one huge cat fight - and I can gurantee My Mommy would beat his! LOL! Not to mention my DH would be highly embarassed that she would even think to do that. Wow.

Tell them all to kiss your grits - it's your money, your trip, you get to decide the rules.

~Amanda

 

[poohbears5]

C.Ann you and dd deserve this trip !! I wouldn't even bring it up with sil he already gave the go ahead run with it.

 

[grinningghost]

Originally posted by FroggyinArk
C Ann you just dont worry about her petty jealousy and you girls go enjoy house o mouse ,,, if he h ad not weanted them to go he would have said something, he sure wouldnth ave offered to help care for your hubby and take care of things at home,,, so carry yourself right back up to cloud #49 and focus on planning the fun stuff

Yep. Just what froggy said.

 

[MAGICinMYHEART]

Why does someone always have to "rain on your parade?"

C Ann,

You just need a good umbrella...

umbrella.
um·brel·la ( P ) Pronunciation Key (m-brl)
n.
A device for protection from the weather or DD MIL consisting of a collapsible, usually circular canopy mounted on a central rod.

 

[arminnie]

There's an old saying that I first heard in Texas:

"Don't try to tell me it's raining when you are *****ing on my boots!" (modified for this board, but you fill in the blank).

In my opinion she wasn't trying to rain on your parade - she was doing something a little stronger and nastier to you personally.

Chances are your son-in-law did not go running to her. She probably said something to him like "isn't it too bad that you aren't getting to go, etc." and he probably mumbled a non-answer that she has taken and run with and embellished."

Just remember the source - and this has everything to do with her jealousy and not much to do with anything else. Some people just love to cause trouble.

My only advice is just to ignore her. If he has a problem, I am sure that he will speak up.

Just have a wonderful time with your daughter (who deserves this trip especially) and your grandchild.

Someone said "living well is the best revenge" - well I think "having a grand time at Disney is the best revenge."

 

[DMRick]

She is very annoyed that I "pressured" her son into allowing my DD and granddaughter to go on this trip with me..

I hope that she is just embellishing, because it wouldn't be nice that your sil went running to her. He has to know how she is, and that she would call you, and make yoru life miserable.

I wouldn't talk to him about it..that puts him on the spot, and somehow you will come out the bad guy. He said she could go, she's going, and all talking and talking about it will do, is give the MIL something to gloat over, if it gets angry. This will bug her to death...not being able to control the situation if nothing is said.

BTW..if your DD's MIL somehow ends up coming..I'm staying home LOL!

 

[Kteacher]

C. Ann do not let this woman ruin things for you! Have a wonderful time planning for your trip. I have never understood how people who are supposedly close to you can just not be happy when something good happens to you.