Why do some DIS'ers

[Mellie2162]

I haven't read the other post and don't know who you're referring to

Its actually not just one post..just something ive noticed over the years. I dont know maybe some of hte posters in the past were trolls making trouble and starting topics about scraping funds together, but more often than not I notice posts where its a necessity to go and so I was just curious about why a person felt that way.

 

[lucynme]

Oh wait, I think maybe im misunderstood. I dont mean why do you go back to WDW year after year...Heck if I could afford to go I would too, I love the world..my question was why do some folks feel the need to have to go even if their circumstances dont really allow them to...does that make sense or am I still not phrasing it right?

Are you thinking/asking it's like an addiction? Is that what you mean? If that's it, I guess some of us can say it is such. I was a late bloomer in "the World", and I guess my first trip at age 27 is what did it! My family has been going each year since my son was two. And what does it for us, is watching him enjoy Disney, and the break from what everyone else is saying is "real life". Our trips are planned out each year, and is a pretty much given, and is not our only vacation. But if something cam up, and we couldn't afford it, then we wouldn't. It's just something that we, as a family, can and do enjoy.

 

[mhsjax]

I love WDW and would be happy to go every year, but there are other things we'd like to see/do as well. If we have to put off paying a bill to go to WDW, we aren't going. And I can't imagine trying to connive my husband into going there if he'd really like to go somewhere else. I haven't read the other post and don't know who you're referring to, but if someone is actually LYING to their spouse in order to get a WDW trip, I certainly hope it is because, as others suggested, that this is the only way to get him to do something that he ultimately ends up enjoying. It's not outside the realm of possibility - I do know who really have to be forced into enjoying themselves.

She isn't lying to him. They have gone with DH while he was on a business trip and the kids love being there. She planned a trip even and presented it to DH and DH apparently had a fit. Said they are spoiling the kids rotten and they are saving for a house, so no vacations until then.

Poster said they do have a small CC bill but they are paying it off and also said that she wouldn't go unless they had the cash to pay for it.

For some reason some people here think she is lying and using her kids to get hubby .

I know they are saving for a house, but seems to me that people don't know what a happy medium is.

So they save for the house, no vacations. They purchase house, what next, they need to work on the house, the yard needs to be resoded, something breaks in said house. There is always something, much like having kids, there is no perfect time and if you have the cash, then go for it.

I know this is more info that you asked for, I just don't get why some people are so upset by this woman wanting her hubby to go back to Disney.

 

[Colleen27]

Different people have different expectations and priorities when it comes to travel. It really upsets me if we have to go an extended time, like a year or more, without a family vacation. It doesn't necessarily have to be Disney, but somewhere. I grew up traveling every summer, and I want my kids to have those same experiences and that concentrated family time away from the distractions and obligations of home. DH, on the other hand, grew up in a family that didn't travel and just didn't get (and still doesn't, to some degree) why I felt it was so important.

For me, travel comes just behind food, shelter, and utilities and I'm willing to scrimp and save to make sure we can take vacations; for DH, it is somewhere along the lines of dinners out, trips to the movies, and new books, just a nice thing to have when there is extra money at the end of the month but not something he's willing to work harder to make happen. That doesn't really cause arguments for us because I manage the household and the budget and I know what comforts (like cable) are non-negotiable for him so he doesn't generally notice the things I do to keep our monthly budget tight and stash more away for vacation, but like any disagreement about a major expense I can see how it could if the relationship dynamics were different.

 

[mhsjax]

Its actually not just one post..just something ive noticed over the years. I dont know maybe some of hte posters in the past were trolls making trouble and starting topics about scraping funds together, but more often than not I notice posts where its a necessity to go and so I was just curious about why a person felt that way.

For us, we live in Florida so it is easy. If I lived far away, I don't know what I would think. Up until about 2 years ago, my DH had the most streesfull job around, Disney World was like a drug to us, we could go and completely forget everything. OUr kids loved it. Now that they are older they really don't care as much. So I can see us backing off, plus we can't take them out of school anymore, they are in middle school and no way would I be caught dead down there in the summer.

When the kids leave home, you better believe I will be down there all the time with DH. He loves it still just as much as I do.

 

[npmommie]

I'd go every year if I could, but that's because I love the parks. I love being there. I love completely disconnecting from the outside world for a few days. I love being able to go somewhere where it's okay to feel like a kid and believe in things that aren't real. I have a lot of special memories at both WDW and DL.

we go more like every other year, and no I wouldn't do it if finances wouldn't allow for it.
everyone loves the trip, its just fun all around. No one has to convince anyone else to go, we all want to

 

[Liberty Belle]

No, it doesnt bother me at all, what people do in their lives is their business not mine. I was just curious why some folks feel that they "have" to do a trip like that to the point of arguing with a spouse or even scraping up funds to do it.

I mean dont get me wrong, I love WDW too and would love to go back again, just dont feel like its something I would argue with DH about doing or spending every last dollar on to do.

I don't think it's worth arguing with a spouse, either. I go because I love it and it makes me happy, so that would kind of negate all that. We do scrimp and save to go. Right now every extra dollar is being put into this trip (no charging of it, though I've done that in the past). I really don't see anything wrong with that. If we had more money, we wouldn't have to scrimp so much to go, but I'm not working right now, so it's the way it is.

 

[tlbwriter]

She isn't lying to him. They have gone with DH while he was on a business trip and the kids love being there. She planned a trip even and presented it to DH and DH apparently had a fit. Said they are spoiling the kids rotten and they are saving for a house, so no vacations until then.

Thanks for the clarification. Based on what you said, I think that couple needs to compromise. She wants an expensive trip. He wants no trip. Why can't they take a less expensive family vacation?

 

[cabanafrau]

So you know these people and what exactly her kids and spouse want? My mom would have enlisted anyones help to get my dad to go somewhere but it didn't work. Some people are anti vacation and they refuse to go anywhere.

I'm basing that on what a poster reveals in their post. Guess I'm a fool for Assuming they have a spouse or family that is willing to vacation. It's also in reference to those who have been to Disney yearly, or more frequently, for every vacation.

Completely different from the situation you've outlined about your parents & I don't understand how you've made the leap from what I posted to your parents' circumstances?

 

[disneyjunkie]

I am absolutely amazed when I read posts from a husband or wife whose spouse says they would like to vacation elsewhere for a change. Then the poster asks for help coming up w/ a way to sway their spouse's opinion? What's truly sickening is the ones who enlist their child's help to get their way, many times revealing that there's only one of their kids that might be interested in going to Disney again and the other sibs want to go somewhere else, too!

Factor in financial issues & all I end up thinking is grow up. Disney vacations are fun, but they aren't the be all, end all to the exclusion of every other vacation -- and your spouse and/or family's wants.

She isn't lying to him. They have gone with DH while he was on a business trip and the kids love being there. She planned a trip even and presented it to DH and DH apparently had a fit. Said they are spoiling the kids rotten and they are saving for a house, so no vacations until then.

Poster said they do have a small CC bill but they are paying it off and also said that she wouldn't go unless they had the cash to pay for it.

For some reason some people here think she is lying and using her kids to get hubby .

I know they are saving for a house, but seems to me that people don't know what a happy medium is.

So they save for the house, no vacations. They purchase house, what next, they need to work on the house, the yard needs to be resoded, something breaks in said house. There is always something, much like having kids, there is no perfect time and if you have the cash, then go for it.

I know this is more info that you asked for, I just don't get why some people are so upset by this woman wanting her hubby to go back to Disney.

Can you post a link to the thread you're talking about?

 

[HsvTeacher]

We go every year because we own DVC.

And we bought DVC so we can go every year.

It's our vacation of choice.

This!

My DH and I go to WDW several times a year, because we love it! We also go on other trips during the year, but Disney is our favorite place.

 

[mhsjax]

I'm basing that on what a poster reveals in their post. Guess I'm a fool for Assuming they have a spouse or family that is willing to vacation. It's also in reference to those who have been to Disney yearly, or more frequently, for every vacation.

Completely different from the situation you've outlined about your parents & I don't understand how you've made the leap from what I posted to your parents' circumstances?

Because I see what the pp said and I was just offering the suggestion that there are many people out there like this. My dad would say they always had to save for something. Not such a big leap really. I also saw that if he flew off the handle , that was my dad's trait also. So it is something that I have seen, may not be true in her case but it may be.

You brought up family members that use kids to get the other family members to go, this isn't the situation either but yet you brought that up. that is a real leap from what the op asked originally.

And actually to some people they are the end all be all vacation. I have relatives that feel this way, they don't go very often, but there isn't anywhere else they would rather go. Not me, I love it and I do go probalby every year, but there are other places I want to go, but because I live in Florida, it is cheaper for me to go to WDW than anywhere else.

 

[inkedupmomma]

my opinion, on why I feel the need. Cause I LOVE IT! I LOVE IT! I LOVE IT!

No place anywhere else makes me as happy! Makes my kids happy too! We love it! Not only do I want to go, but I think for my sanity I need to go! I had to skip this year, and oof... Next year can not get here fast enough!

But when it comes down to it, it is because I LOVE IT! It is my happy place!

 

[Allison]

Oh wait, I think maybe im misunderstood. I dont mean why do you go back to WDW year after year...Heck if I could afford to go I would too, I love the world..my question was why do some folks feel the need to have to go even if their circumstances dont really allow them to...does that make sense or am I still not phrasing it right?

For the same reason people buy homes and automobiles or take trips to other places when their circumstances don't allow them to-because they want to do it. It's not a phenomenom unique to Disney trips. This happens to be a board dedicated to Disney World so you see it in that context.

 

[cabanafrau]

Because I see what the pp said and I was just offering the suggestion that there are many people out there like this. My dad would say they always had to save for something. Not such a big leap really. I also saw that if he flew off the handle , that was my dad's trait also. So it is something that I have seen, may not be true in her case but it may be.

You brought up family members that use kids to get the other family members to go, this isn't the situation either but yet you brought that up. that is a real leap from what the op asked originally.

And actually to some people they are the end all be all vacation. I have relatives that feel this way, they don't go very often, but there isn't anywhere else they would rather go. Not me, I love it and I do go probalby every year, but there are other places I want to go, but because I live in Florida, it is cheaper for me to go to WDW than anywhere else.

The OP in this thread asked why some DISers go to WDW yearly or more & even argue w/ their spouses about it. I responded about some of the posts I've seen here over the years & how I don't understand the attitude I described.

You quoted me & twisted what I said to bolster why your mother would have been entitled to enlist whomever to change your dad's decision. Completely different than the situations & posts I described.

I agree it's unfortunate your parents didn't travel & your mom didn't get her dream. Comparing your parents' situation of never traveling to people who do go to Disney for every vacation & insist their spouse's or family's wish to travel elsewhere is less important than their need to get back to the world yet again isn't really apples to apples.

To be clear, people who do return again and again to Disney because that's how they choose to vacation and everybody is onboard with that, wonderful. It's a fun vacation destination & really no different than people who only choose golfing vacations or skiing vacations or whatever. Do whatever works for your family & enjoy.

 

[KimR]

We don't HAVE to go every year, but the kids and I enjoy it and we can afford it, so why not? Time flies - the girls are only with us for a very short time and I want to be able to enjoy Disney with them while we can as much as we can.

Having said that, DH is NOT a Disney fan, but he doesn't really want to go anywhere else either, so yes, I'm going to try to convince him to go again this year. If there were somewhere else he wanted go, I'd be happy to compromise, but that's not the case. Also, if it were a money issue, we wouldn't go. We'd either find a more affordable alternative or stay home. But, yes, if we don't go this year, I'll be a little sad. I'm sure I'll survive, though.

 

[Colleen27]

Oh wait, I think maybe im misunderstood. I dont mean why do you go back to WDW year after year...Heck if I could afford to go I would too, I love the world..my question was why do some folks feel the need to have to go even if their circumstances dont really allow them to...does that make sense or am I still not phrasing it right?

I think that tends to be subjective. I didn't see the other thread but I saw another poster's summary on this thread, and it sounds like it isn't a question of not being able to afford it but rather a question of how the money should be spent. I can absolutely sympathize with disagreements there. My DH once told me, early on in our marriage, that he couldn't see vacationing while we still had debt, and at the time the only debt was our mortgage. I mean seriously, who puts off traveling until the mortgage is paid off? The kids would be long since grown by then! Then we moved in to this house, which we own free & clear, he talked about "taking a break" from traveling until we're done renovating/restoring the house, which is at least 5 years and 50K in the future.

If he insisted we make that the priority at the expense of family vacations and other experiences it would probably lead to a fight, because traveling with the kids is something I feel very strongly about. But when we talk about it he always understands where I'm coming from in wanting to travel while the kids are still young. The house will still be here in 5 years and it isn't like we're putting off necessary repairs, just cosmetic restoration and some of the more expensive energy-efficiency projects, but our oldest will be just about grown by then.

 

[cabanafrau]

We don't HAVE to go every year, but the kids and I enjoy it and we can afford it, so why not? Time flies - the girls are only with us for a very short time and I want to be able to enjoy Disney with them while we can as much as we can.

Having said that, DH is NOT a Disney fan, but he doesn't really want to go anywhere else either, so yes, I'm going to try to convince him to go again this year. If there were somewhere else he wanted go, I'd be happy to compromise, but that's not the case. Also, if it were a money issue, we wouldn't go. We'd either find a more affordable alternative or stay home. But, yes, if we don't go this year, I'll be a little sad. I'm sure I'll survive, though.

I'd probably do the same in your situation. There's nothing wrong w/ advocating for what you want & working it out w/ your spouse to reach a compromise.

I don't see it as a compromise when people post that they've been to Disney on their vacations the last 3, 6, 7, whatever years & their spouse really wants to go to the Grand Canyon or wherever & the poster is determined that it's Disney or bust. In your case I say it's on your DH to come up w/ somewhere else to go if it means that much to him. Until that happens, I don't see anything wrong w/ returning to Disney.

 

[Tuffcookie]

Everyone has a vice!

I don't smoke or drink. My house is paid for. I live in Ohio. Our winters are brutal. I look forward to my yearly visits to WDW! My 2nd Christmas tree is a Disney tree. On my yearly visits to WDW I am shopping for new ornaments to add to my collection.

I don't judge where you go on vacation and I don't think you should judge others!

TC

 

[mhsjax]

The OP in this thread asked why some DISers go to WDW yearly or more & even argue w/ their spouses about it. I responded about some of the posts I've seen here over the years & how I don't understand the attitude I described.

You quoted me & twisted what I said to bolster why your mother would have been entitled to enlist whomever to change your dad's decision. Completely different than the situations & posts I described.

I agree it's unfortunate your parents didn't travel & your mom didn't get her dream. Comparing your parents' situation of never traveling to people who do go to Disney for every vacation & insist their spouse's or family's wish to travel elsewhere is less important than their need to get back to the world yet again isn't really apples to apples.

I was just responding to what you said about people enlisting help of the kids to get what they want.

When I went on to explain my parents and their situation, I was responding in general to an attitude that I see here quite frequently, not necessarily one that you have, sorry for any confusion.

I just went back and read the post on the other poster on the budget board, and as I suspected her DH sounds like my father so this is where I was drawing my experience from. Apparently he didn't vacation as a child and now he is following in the same trait. I hate to se that for any family, travel should be included in the family if at all possible, and no not just do WDW but anywhere but apparently that isn't the way it is working in this family so far.